Help please! Do you think he's telling the truth???

Question

First, sorry this is so long but I really need help. I had been with my guy for over a year but over the summer we ran into some major problems. He had a myspace for a while but never told me, I found it but never said anything because it was still early in the relationship. Eventually he did tell me and said he had been working on it and wanted to share it, so he gives me the link and I go, and his friends’ list and all comments are hidden. Now he didn’t know I saw it before that but I knew for a fact they weren’t before. Obviously, I found this a little troublesome and asked why he would want to hide everything, and he said because his crazy ex might try to find the page and he doesn’t want her bothering me because according to him, she’s a real piece of work and he can’t stand her. Now the thing is, the page was private so she wouldn’t be able to see his page anyway, right? Or so I thought.

Well I was wrong, she was his friend on there! He didn’t realize she had left a comment on his blog (a very friendly one) and I could still she that, so naturally I demanded to know how that happened when he was acting like he was so concerned with our privacy. At first he acted like he didn’t know how she got there…so I explained, he obviously had to approve her (or request her) and finally he admitted he did on to “keep her quiet” because she had found his page. So now his ex knew about his page months before I did, and I was ticked and of course a little suspicious. I hung up with him because I was upset and called a friend to see what she thought, so she checks it out, and comes up with a plan but doesn’t tell me what. What I later found out she did was create a fake account, using a pic of a friend, and messaged him being very flirty.

To move this along, he denied having a girlfriend, said they could have some fun together after a local concert if they met, and asked for her sn so they could cyber. She went along with it, and got him to say some pretty explicit stuff before informing me. I was devastated, but he said it wasn’t serious and I shouldn’t have set him up. We worked through it, although I still had my doubts. About a month later, I’m looking through a radio station photo gallery of a concert he had attended without me b/c I don’t live near him, well guess who I find sitting next to him at the concert (he was in the front so he got in a lot of pics)… his ex! Now, I’m absolutely furious and sick. Well he tells me, she just showed up there 7 hours before the concert to wait for him because his parents told her where he was when she called the house. I didn’t buy it but asked, then why didn’t you tell me? And he goes into this big dramatic, “I was so afraid you’d leave me, I didnt want to hurt you, blah blah"

I know this seems really unlikely, but eventually I gave in once again. Now as if that isn’t bad enough, I soon find out that the “male friend” who went with him to another local concert earlier in the relationship and taking to the doctor after they got into an accident was also none other than the ex! Plus, he also lied about helping her with some family drama months earlier, once again referring to her by a guy’s name. Oh and here’s the kicker, the “male friend” who went on a road trip with him, where they stood one night at a hotel, was also… you guessed it, the ex! He didn’t tell me any of this btw, he just didn’t cover his tracks well enough so I caught him. Now of course he has an explanation for all of this… she’s crazy and made him do it… she would have harassed him and his family if he didn’t…he felt bad for her after she got into the accident on the way to meet him and after her sister went missing…. He wanted to give her closure (they had been broken up for a year).

He said he was sorry for lying but has no feelings for her and they never did anything. What do you think? I’m having a really hard time believing he spent so much time with her, including a weekend away, and they never had sex…am I wrong for refusing to accept this? Plus, how could she make him invite her to concerts she shouldn’t have even known about? He says I’m just refusing to see the truth because I want to think the worse of him, but come on…all that lying and palling around with someone he claimed he couldn’t stand, they had to be cheating??? What should I do??

Answer 1

leave him, dump him, kick him to the curb, give him his walking papers...whatever you want to call it but END IT!!! You deserve a relationship where you can TRUST your bf and he has shown you PLENTY of times that you cant trust him. Who wants to be in a relationship where you have to second guess everything they say? You are just giving his ex reason to laugh at you and think you are stupid cause she is spending all that time with YOUR man and you keep taking him back. He does not think he needs to be honest w/ you cause thus far he has not been and you are still with him. Move on and let his ex have him.

Answer 2

im sorry to say it but im just going to confirm what you already believe. hes being way too friendly with his ex, would be fine IF HE TOLD YOU ABOUT IT! the fact that hes hiding it from you and then making up lame excuses to attempt to cover his a.ss is ridiculous. leave him, he doesnt deserve you. you shouldve left as soon as your friend did that thing with myspace. you dont deserve a guy who doesnt treat you great 100% of the time.

Answer 3

Lieing to you and maintaining contact with his ex. Leave him and find someone else. Once a lier, always a lier(also a cheat).Enough said.

Answer 4

k i got to the 3rd paragraph but it already tells me u dont need tgo be together i am sorry i hope everything works out 4 u

Answer 5

I think he is cheating on you. And if he is sit him ouside like the dog he is.

Answer 6

No i think he is not telling the truth, dump him.

Answer 7

two simple words, drop him.