i've been seeing my boyfriend now for about 10 months. he's the type of guy that calls in the morning and at night.... but just recently he hasn't been, which is kinda weird for him, or if he does its like 5 mins and he's gone. i know thats not a big deal but he got very crookid when i couldn't come and see him the other day... and when we went out yesturday i dunno, he was acting the same and all, but i just had this weird feeling, like he's not attacted to me anymore or something....any thoughts??
2007-12-19 00:41:49 · 20 answers · asked by XcharX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
uhh no i dont think he's cheating... he's not the type, very against it, and we have all the same friends, so he'd get his *** kicked
2007-12-19 00:46:27 · update #1
I know that you're really worried about this, but don't allow yourself to jump to conclusions.
The next time you see your boyfriend, and I do mean see him --- not talking to him on the phone, simply ask him what's going on. Do not ask him if he's seeing someone else. Do not ask him if he's not attracted to you anymore, and do not ask any other question that sounds like you are accusing him of something. Just tell him this, "I've been concerned about a couple of things. You used to call me twice a day and recently you haven't been. And the last time I saw you, I got the feeling that you don't feel the same way about me that you used to." "Is everything Ok between us?" Then don't say anything else. Listen to his reasons for not calling as much, and listen to what he says about how things are between the two of you WITHOUT interupting him. Then take his words at face value and respond to them. Your intuition or your 'gut feeling' may be telling you that something is wrong, but limit yourself to responding only to what he has told you --- nothing more. Use your intuition as your motivation to keep your eyes open. Try to determine if what you're feeling is your own fears of losing a relationship or if his feelings really have changed. Remember that he is only your boyfriend and not your husband.
2007-12-19 01:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by mt75689 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In every relationship, there comes a time when two people just become 'relaxed' with each other. The newness runs out and the two of you are left to keep the momentum going once you reach this point. His behavior troubles me though, so keep an eye on him. Not calling when he's supposed to is only the beginning. Once the 'white lies' start and he has a good explanation for not calling, showing up, etc then you may have a bigger problem.
2007-12-19 08:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by S B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy dont u worry coz i will tell u what.. jus wait for the time being ,n try to contact him again , jus to know his response . ofcourse i believe u can sense a guys way of talking , approach , whatever comes through yr way right? just analise that much, whether he is having the same emotions for u as u hav for him, i mean if he is kinda not that much into loving u or not having patience to hear what u hav to say, i better would say, hey buddy he is not for u n pls move on, n no worries. best of luck.
2007-12-19 08:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by tommyskyyblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a gay man and I'm teling you that you need to listen to your instincts.
It sounds like he has found someone else but you could just be acting hypersensitive as well. You need to get ahold of his cell phone somehow and check his incoming and outgoing calls. Take down the numbers you don't recognize and private the calls to see who picks up.
If he's cheating her/his (ya never know these days) cell phone number will be in there.
Good luck.
2007-12-19 08:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by majax79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about talking to him about it and try to see what is going on with him instead of asking some strangers. Im pretty sure he could give you the best answer out of everyone. But be understanding and let him know he can be honest and open with you.
2007-12-19 08:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by PawtucketPatriot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That could be a possibility, but it could also be that he needs some time alone.
Something upsetting could have happened to it and he just doesn't want to talk about it.
He could be depressed.
I'm just throwing out posibilities, the only person here who can give you the right answer is him.
2007-12-19 08:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by Kaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. its probly not a big deal. ive felt like that before. its probly nothing though. when you talk on the phone for so long, sometimes you just run out of things to talk about. and its usualy hard to think of something to talk about on the phone. if i were you i wouldnt worry about it. please try to make it work out! if its really bugging you, then just talk to him about it. after 10 months, he should care about what you think. so try to calmnly talk to him about it. im sure everything will get better.
good luck!!
2007-12-19 08:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by xXIn The Arms Of AthensXx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not so blunt as the previous answer but don't rule out that he may be seeing someone else. If he is, he is heartless, but it happens. If that is the case, it is better to find out now.
2007-12-19 08:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by No! I'm NOT Elton John 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're describing is feminine intuition and no guy's opinion is going to be of any use to you...we don't understand it. But we do know it works, and so do you. Listen to yours... it has already spoken to you quite clearly.Good luck, and Happy Holidays.
2007-12-19 08:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to talk to him, tell him what's bothering you. Don't try to guess what's going on, ask him.
As a bloke, I appreciate straightforwardness but that doesn't seem very womanlike.
2007-12-19 08:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by xenobyte72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋