I could've sworn when we got off the phone earlier that day he said he would call but he says I was the one who was supposed to call him. Neither one of us called the other. Now he's mad at me even though I explained to him that it was just a misunderstanding. I just started dating him a month ago and we talk every day and we've even talked about our possible future together. But if he is this upset about an honest mistake like this I am questioning whether I will be happy with him. I asked him whether he was mad about the mistake I made, or if he was afraid that I just didn't want to talk to him and he said,"BOTH!" And then hung up on me...I'm shocked. Help me understand what could be going on with him. He's never acted like this before
2007-12-19 00:31:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is mental abusive... honey it has started early for you...one month into a relationship... this is not good.... please get away from him... this will only get worst... he has some issues... it start out like this... then it gets worst... he will start physical abusive.... you will be in a very unhappy relationship....he is very immature.... there is someone out there to appreciate the love you have ... don't waste your life...
2007-12-19 00:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a larger situation that's been festering inside that is causing him to throw the emotion at your small mistake. First of all: the mistake is small. Miscommunication occurs all the time and 90 percent of communication is nonverbal which does not occur completely when merely talking over the phone. It is okay that you misunderstood, you are human.
From my own relationship experience, it's a big sign of something that's bothering him on the inside. It sounds a lot like he has some insecurity issues that makes him afraid that you don't want to talk to him and will end the relationship therefore he probably sat at the phone afraid that you didn't care anymore or something of the sort. Therefore he became that upset. It may be something else but it sounds like the guy has some baggage. I'd say look over what you have with him and realize that some guys do stuff like that and none of them are perfect.
In the end of the day, tell him straight that it was miscommunication and you are human. Assure that you do want to talk to him and that next time if you have a call thing and he doesn't call in a few hours you'll call him instead. That way it'll be fine. If he doesn't jump off the argh! thing after that, then find a new guy.
2007-12-19 00:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by Apple Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. This is a BIG RED FLAG!!!
Back off dating this guy - if he can't overlook a simple misunderstanding as to who would call whom - and accept a sincere apology - he's not ready for a relationship.
It's only been a month for heaven's sake - and he's already manipulating you into feeling guilty over a stupid misunderstanding. What's going to happen when you have a real argument? Shesh! I hate to think about that!
That's a really big sign that he's wacko.
Yeah. Toss this fish back into the sea.
2007-12-19 00:40:09 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's too controlling, it sounds like. If he gets upset about not talking to you for ONE night, he will get upset with you talking to your guy friends, calling other guys who are your friends, or even going out with your girlfriends on a weekened. I think, in a matter of months, this relationship will start being abusive. I would tell him you don't want to see him anymore. Hope this helped!
2007-12-19 00:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are young because in a relationship if your mate tells you he will call you back and 5 hours go by and normally he would have called by now you just call. It really is not a big deal. And he sounds very immature to get this mad and you both sound immature just because one of you said I will call you back and they did not so you just don't speak to each other. OMG give me a break!
2007-12-19 00:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has an emotional problem. He's insecure--a control freak who will constantly make you feel guilty about one thing or another. Any small infraction, such as who was supposed to call, will set him off. Don't call him back and hope he doesn't call you either. If he does, listen more than you talk and you'll hear how insecure he is. Don't walk into his trap. He'll make your life miserable!
2007-12-19 00:41:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful with this relationship. It sounds so much like one I was in...started with him getting upset over little trivial things. Then it got worse and I ended up being in a very abusive relationship. So, my advice is to tell him the truth about how he is acting..that he is being unreasonable and overly sensitive. Stick up for yourself and if things get out of control..as in him getting mad at you on a regular basis for stupid things GET OUT of this relationship. ITs unhealthy!
2007-12-19 00:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by guitargrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might like you so much that hes afraid to lose you. And all guys get mad when we screw up because it shows that were people to and they want us to be angels. Next time tell him you'll call him and call him later that night and tell him that your really sorry about the mix up. And tell him how you really feel about him. It might calm down his worry of losing you.
2007-12-19 00:42:47 · answer #8 · answered by Cowgirl38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can get upset over something that trivial, than there is a big problem. Step wisely, sounds like a gun ready to turn into a cannon.
2007-12-19 00:35:19 · answer #9 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a ***** slap him or tell him to get over it.
2007-12-19 00:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by aliceyumm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋