My ex and I have two children together. We split up because we were both young and immature. We cheated on each other and pretty much killed the trust between one another. Now we are older and find that we have a pretty good relationship despite our past. We are still very close friends and there has been talk of giving it another shot. The problem is I have been faithful to the guy that I have dated and feel that I have proven that I can be trust worthy; he on the other hand cheated on his ex many times. Now he insists on having his friends (females) despite what we have because he says he doesn't trust anyone. I have tried to have a friend on the side so that I don't feel stupid if he ends up hooking up with one of the girls, but I'm just not comfortable with deceiving one guy in hopes of being with another so I cut it off with the friend. I just learned that my ex still has contact with a girl that he cheated on me with is an ex of his. Should I go with the obvious and leave it?
2007-12-19 00:27:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why can't he be friends with other girls? I think you need to be less jealous and recognize that sometimes female friends are just friends.
2007-12-19 00:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Sausage Mahoney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look. I don't want to sound mean - but don't lie honey, you'd cheat on your current man if you had half the chance. Just admitting you had a "friend" on the side - while claiming to be faithful to your current man is a big joke. You're no more trustworthy than your ex is and you know it.
Other than your children's welfare, your ex's business is HIS private stuff and you really shouldn't be involved with his private affairs.
What he does - is none of your business.
2007-12-19 00:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are your children? What you and your ex do might actually have an effect on them. Consider it. Don't just think about yourself. Spare your kids a thought. Is he a good father? If not, I suggest you go and find a reliable man and give your kids a stable life.
2007-12-19 00:38:13 · answer #3 · answered by mareyys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is you should be careful, but you should be happy too. Now friends are one thing but as long as they do not cross the line. Now you should have friends cause you never know when love is going to hit. Plus waiting on someone to make up their mind is gonna hurt you in the long run. Like I said do not miss out on your happiness. Hope that helps you out.
2007-12-19 00:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by ron6taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are your own therapist. He isn't just your friend if you have kids. He'll be a part of your life if he is a better father than husband. You'd best get your feelings in check, however--I've known too many women who waste their time, money and emotions on unfaithful dudes.
Friends, okay. Parents, okay. If you have stronger emotions, however, you need a serious ego check.
Merry Christmas.
2007-12-19 00:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by csunharleyrider@yahoo.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a serial player and very manipulative..because you have children together he's abused your trust to keep power over you...look at what is making you unhappy with your new partner and keep away from this Don Juan...he's your ex out of love for your kids but nothing really to you anymore..find a hobby that keeps you focussed on the joy in your life
2007-12-19 00:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with Dylan. Sorry to say this, but sounds as though she wants to get back with her ex and is holding onto you just in case he doesn't take her back or it doesn't work... Dump her using butt! Good luck - you deserve better x
2016-05-25 00:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you know the answer dont end up having regrets stick toyour current man the ex isnt worth it
2007-12-19 00:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by Be still 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said it he is your ex let him go all you can worry about is your children, I would sort of keep tabs on the women he is dating though to make sure they don't treat your children bad.
2007-12-19 00:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave the ex... he will be nothing but constant heartbreak and drama... move on.. find a good man... dont settle for less.
2007-12-19 00:31:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋