Okay My situations a little bit different then the rest of everybodies around here. Me and my X have been broken up for about a month and I still live with her. We still love each other and I wanna be with her again. So I thought of the idea of buying her a promise ring for Christmas. I already have it but I wanna know like should I add a Poem to it or does anyone know a good Idea on how to give it 2 her. Like I want to make her cry! Happy tears that is. What should I do?
2007-12-19 00:15:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
what do you mean by the word your "X" here? you said you broke with her BUT still live with her? Is this an unmarried couple situation that live together? you further said, you still love each other & why you said you want to be with her again (if you are still living together)? you still live together, so the word is NOT again. and you said you want to buy a "promise ring", means a promise to marry her? or just a promise to still live with her? maybe my answer sounds to be philosophical but it's what i comprehend your question. anyway, if you want to give her a ring on christmas day, you don't need to write a poem, instead, it's better that the words will come out directly from your mouth so she can hear it well if what you're saying does comes from your heart and with feeling. you may either say it in this way or another, it's up to you:
[I may not be a good man to you and maybe not the perfect man that you want for in your life...but i am just a human being that is capable to do some failures in life too. though how much i regretted it, there might be times that i could do it again without my intention to do so. but let me have your finger to put this ring i have for you. and hoping we could get along together from the start until the end. Merry Christmas...darling/honey/baby.]
2007-12-19 00:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by ~o0o~ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I'll start off by saying that I think "Blunt" should change her name to "Cynical" - it's sad that she can't see how sweet and earnest the gesture of a promise ring can be at any age! I was given a promise ring by my now fiance at the "ripe old age" of 24! She may feel it's childish, but I happened to think that it was very heartfelt. An engagement ring followed a year and a half later... this coming February we'll be married. So don't listen to small minded cynicism, it's usually bred of jealousy.
That being said, I think it's a wonderful idea to try to rekindle a flame with a promise ring. I will say, I agree with a lot of the other responses, make sure you are very clear about your intentions (i.e. - promise to marry or another type of promise).
May I suggest instead of giving her a poem, how about a poetic gesture or play on words and meaning? For instance, give her the ring in a heart shaped box and either say or write on a note "My heart is still yours, I promise." or something similar. If you really want to up the happy-tear factor, consider giving it to her somewhere that is truly meaningful to her or the both of you, perhaps where your first date was or your first kiss. Mistletoe is always a plus this time of year also... get her to conceed to a Christmas Kiss but insist she closes her eyes first... then put the heart shaped box in her hands. Wait to give her the kiss until after she gets the ring!
Good Luck and Merry Christmas!
2007-12-19 04:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by huge_tracts_of_land 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Poem is a nice idea, although it might be a bit soppy to give since you are seperated.
I suggested just writing her a letter. One that states how wonderful you think she is & that she has so much to offer the world. Thank her for being such an important person in your life & for all the great memories she has given you. Make the letter about her. Perhaps make the promise that if given the chance you can show her just how grateful you are ;o)
Best wishes with it hey, try make it come from the heart, mean what you say & give it to her when it is just the two of you. Maybe over a nice dinner :o) It sure worked for my man.....two years later we are married!
2007-12-19 00:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell her how happy you are to be with her and that you would like to promise to make every attempt to make her happy and to continue the relationship. Give her the ring, and tell her it is where you are going to start, and you hope that you both can grow together to a real long term commitment..
2007-12-19 00:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by bjstree 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Give her a christmas stocking with some little inexpensie things in it but put the ring in a box in the toe of the stocking. You dont have to write anything. The ring will convey your feelings. Good luck
2007-12-19 00:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by Diane M 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I completely agree with Blunt. A promise ring = leash. If I was living with a guy and he gave me a promise ring I would cry - but not tears of joy. Grow up and get her an engagement ring or get your own place.
2007-12-19 04:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you need to resolve why you are not together so you will know what you are promising, working things out may bring tears, to one or both of you... if you work things out then go into the room and get the ring and give if to her if appropriate.
it will be memorable because you all took time to work together. not because it is Christmas
2007-12-19 02:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by MrsMagee 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since you two are broken up, I would clearly state to her (when you give her the ring) what exactly you are wanting out of giving this to her (are you wanting to get back together? Are you wanting to "promise" to marry her? etc.)
You HAVE to make this VERY clear!
You don't want her to be confused on what this ring means
2007-12-19 00:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by MayMay 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-02 02:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by beisch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-She's you EX, so please, do not play with her head.
-Promise rings are for teenagers.
If you do not have the maturity or the financial means to get married and have the commitment of an engagement, then please, don't. Promise rings are for middle schoolers during recess and not for room mates and former flames. You got it all wrong I'm afraid.
Good luck
2007-12-19 01:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋