I have written here before and got some good advice.
This is all about the girl I’ve been seeing.
It’s been 2 months now.
Well after a hot romance here and seeing her 4 times a week she dropped the bomb.
It was always not the right time for us with her getting out of a relationship, but we met and things happened.
A couples time she has mentioned it was too much and she was moving way too fast.
Now she says we should not see each other till she gets her life straight.
This is after Christmas plans, and gifts and talks with me day and night.
Then its here.
Well now Im heart broken to say the least wondering what to do.
Do I fight for this or let her be?
She has told me she could easily just fallow her heart and stay with me, but she keeps telling herself it was not in the plans.
Im confused.
2007-12-19 00:02:11 · 7 answers · asked by mrchristianp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can see that you are. :)
Seems to me that she's still on the rebound from a previous relationship. Girls usually feel vulnerable after a breakup, so most often than not, they pour their heart and feelings out to anyone who's willing to listen and understand.
If she doesn't want to talk about it yet, then don't force her. You aren't going to get any credible answer from her anyway. Let her have her way as of the moment, she's probably just as upset as you are...but don't exit from her life. Make yourself available for her to still talk to. When the air finally clears, and she knows what she wants, then you could have that talk and settle everything.
Not everything in our plans turn out the way we want them to, but it doesn't necessarily mean that something's wrong. You should try telling her that. Sometimes, it's those plans that fizzle turn out to be blessings in disguise, or even be what we really need.
2007-12-19 00:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone for a while. If you really want her then deal with her indecisiveness. Getting out of a relationship tends to make women very careful. She probably scared about things ending badly. Just play it cool, let her ease her way in.
2007-12-19 08:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by conor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push It! She has something on her mind, and she doesn't want to affect you with her problems. It's just one of those times when she's gotta be all alone, She doesn't want to take it out on you! So just let her be alone for a little while, and she will thank you for giving her space, and realize that you do want to be with her through no matter what
2007-12-19 08:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by LiiLY PAD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dude,
don't be a wuss bag... I know how you feel, I used to be in your foot steps I did what you want to do and thats to convince her to be with you. let me tell you that is completely wrong don't give her the power over you you will regett it in the long run I sure the hell have. lewt her go tell her it was fun but your right it not the right time c-ya and just walk away.. let her come to you ... TAKE YOUR BALLS BACK!!!! you will feel much better about yourself when you do.
2007-12-20 12:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by Walt . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, so obviusoly you are moving wayyy to fast for her, even if yall did give into tmepation, she might think you just wants sex. shes very confused b.c of the fact that she likes you, but she doesnt wanna be sexually active too quick cuz it will ruin things. just talk to her, aplogize and tell her u would like to take it slower. just hold hands for now until SHE is comfterable.
2007-12-19 08:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by wb&&kn <3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no confusious,
You have to accept and let go. Feel for you but acceptance will allow you to see all the beautiful people on your trip. Have fun.
2007-12-21 10:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by CJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some space. If you pressure her, she's going to resent it and shut you out.
2007-12-19 08:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋