i had a sexual experience with this guy when i was like 13 or 14..and i am married now and have a daughter..and now that memory is coming back to haunt me!!! i wanna forget..but its stuck in my head...what should i do???
2007-12-18 23:04:43 · 11 answers · asked by the guy in orient 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you have to ask....
2007-12-18 23:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by Seminarian 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't give enough details.
Sounds like you've tried to bury your gayness for some time...it doesn't work as you are discovering now. But you will now have to try to fulfill your commitments to your wife and daughter as well as to find your true self.
Your situation is really so common, social and peer pressures force a lot of gay people to deny their true orientation and they end up married with children before they know it plus a deep nagging feeling that they've missed out on what should have been their real lives.
I'm sure you love your wife & lovely daughter and don't want to hurt them but you need to find yourself too or you will live your whole life as a lie and you will begin to feel a resentment towards them...don't do that, you really need to talk sensitively with your wife, this is going to be hard.
On the other hand if you were sexually abused as a young kid you will have quite different issues to deal with, maybe self-esteem etc, you need to talk either way, you're not alone.
2007-12-18 23:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because you had one sexual experiance as a teenager dont mean you are gay.. If it is stuck in your head there is a valid reason for it.. Maybe it is a regret, or maybe something you long to try again.. Only you can answer this for yourself. If you truely wanna let it go, then only you can do that. I am bisexual and I feel it is perfectly normal to have thoughts of both genders. But if you dont want to keep this in your head, then let it go.. You are normal no matter if you are Gay, Strait, or even Bisexual.. so dont worry about it.. just live your life.... Cheers!!!
2007-12-18 23:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by Dawne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly you are Gay but at some time in your life you fight off your nature and entered in a hetero marriage. Now you find out that your life is not satisfactory the way it is and your nature is rushing back and haunting you.
You are in for a hard time. Honesty would command to inform your wife and see from there on what you do.
Be prepared for quite some hard time, possibly the only issue will be a divorce and start again your life.
Courage.
2007-12-19 00:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Minotaure 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man u said it was an experience and it is now a memory ,,, when this memory haunts u again ,,, think about ur doughter feelings if she knew that after u married her mom u thought of that old experience ... also think about ur wife feelings ,, u r not gay... if u want to feel that experience again which i dont advise u do ,, just by a toy, dildo or anything that can satisfiy u
2007-12-18 23:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by jo n jo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hardly. Unless you actually find guys attractive now you're not gay. It's normal for kids that age to experiment, even if it doesn't fit their sexuality.
2007-12-18 23:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do now. It happened when you were very young, you were experimenting, I guess. If you still have feelings for guys, then you may be bisexual or gay.
2007-12-18 23:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are bi. Unless of course your relationship was with a 50 year old guy. In which case you are molested. In which case you need to go to a shrink.
2007-12-18 23:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jack Flanders 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if it's impacting your daily life go talk with someone... it's so typically for guys to experiment... and more typically for us to begin getting nestalgic
2007-12-19 01:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um... you sound worried.
2007-12-18 23:11:40 · answer #10 · answered by Imagine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋