Are the cheaters who cheat for lack of sex possibly RIGHT?

Question

Serioiusly... if you aren't getting it at home, why should you be required to keep dealing with the frustration of lame excuses?? I am not married, and maybe I am missing some ins and outs here! I would go nuts married to some guy who wouldn't give me any...when it is his duty as a husband....Lately my sympathy for cheaters has grown! People who are married to other healthy human beings, shouldN'T be subjected to this kind of thing... how can I be wrong?

1) As a married person (who is married to a healthy adult) who is NOT getting any? WHY DO YOU STAY?

OR

2) As a married person (who is married to a healthy adult) who isn't GIVING any? WHY DO YOU TORTURE YOUR PARTNER?

Answer 1

you must be married to a priest.

Answer 2

Their is no excuse for turning your back on your partner. You should have enough respect for them to be faithful, that is what most people promise when they get married.
I couldn't have sex for about 2 years due to a medical condition, I didn't deprive my husband, that would be unfair. I made him happy in a different way ( if you know what I mean, it made my mouth sore). Their are so many different things you can do. Most the time I think married couples do not communicate enough about what they need or want. They just go and cheat, ruining the marriage and crushing the other person. Cheating is never right.

Answer 3

Well firstly a good marriage is not based on sex and the physical side of things (although I agree it is important) but the bond goes way deeper than that. There could be a myriad reasons why someone goes off sex and it would be up to them if they seek help for this issue or not. I personally do not think this is a reason for cheating, when they married they took a vow (a legally binding vow) that they would forsake all others, in sickness and in health, for goodness sake be mature about it and end the relationship, if they are so desperate for sex then they should not cheat on their partner, they should end that marriage and then be free to seek as much sexual pleasure as they desire. I am neither of your scenarios, but I know that if my husband suddenly stopped wanting sex then I would do everything I could to help him and personally I would rather be married to him with no sex than to be on my own and shagging around just for sex. I can satisfy myself perfectly well, so I'd rather stay with him, and be a faithful wife and please myself.

Answer 4

Nope. Cheating is in no way correct. That YOU want it to be ...and claim you respect cheaters.. is not a big surprise. People who want to do the wrong thing..like you..will ALWAYS make up really good excuses as to why being rotten and backstabbing is "ok". Nothing new in what you are saying. Thats how all those cheaters got to be cheaters. By thinking just like you.

But..you have a nice day out there.

Answer 5

There could be several reasons why a man does not have sex. Most of them are medical. So if you really love someone, you do your best to make sure they are healthy, and would help them through their problems. If you are married there is no excuse to have an affair, SEX is not the only thing in a marriage.

Answer 6

Unless there is some health problems going on down there, in which case I think people need to support their partners even if they are sexually frusterated, and not get sex elsewhere, I can understand why people do. So many men, and women get married and then lose their sex drive. I think that is so stupid. They give up trying to please their partners sexually and then wonder why they get cheated on. I have a very high sex drive and thank GOD so does my husband. Neither one of us goes more than two days without having sex, and neither one of us wants to. Sexual incompatibility is a bad area to be incompatible in...its really best to marry a partner who has equal or similar drive. Low goes best with low, high with high. A high libido person with a low one is bound to cheat when deprived.

Answer 7

It's a touchy subject, but you have the heart of the matter in question! Marriage vows aside, if you're not getting what you need at home, you will surely begin to look around for alternatives. I really believe that most of the marriages that have broken up over the years have been because something is really lacking at home! Could be either parties doing, it doesn't really matter, so the other starts looking for outlets. Social morays be damned, if you aren't getting what you need, you'll be on the prowl!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Happy Hunting!

Answer 8

I still cannot feel sorry for anyone who cheats. Usually problems in the bedroom stem from other issues that have not been spoken of. Talk to your partner about it; not whining and complaining or blaming - but allow the partner to express their feelings without having to be defensive. Most people who cheat aren't willing to put in the effort to find out why their partner has suddenly become cold in the sack. I know many who have attempted to discuss issues with their spouses who turn a deaf ear to it; then, the spouse doesn't feel 'sexy or loving or wanted or cared for' and withholds sex. This is one of those 'down times' in a relationship and it is up to both partners to find out the source of the problem; not to just give up and run to someone else.

Answer 9

most of the time, the partner that tortures the partner with no sex as a form of punishment, causes to partner to cheat.
Reason for this, it makes the partner feel like a worthless piece of garbage emotionaly, and they begin looking for some way to fullfill that void,, I would say that most people who cheat, cheat because of lack of emotional nuturing from there spouse, and this leads to sex. if you notice most affairs are not them just going out and boinking someone,, they start talking, communicating and before you know it there having sex.

Answer 10

people who cheat on their partners usually cheat as their needs are not being met usually in the bedroom, but can be in many other areas.
The cheater will look for someone that can fill that area that is lacking in their lives and when that need has been filled they usually try to return to their partners.
I believe that people who cheat don't necessary not love their partners, in fact they quite often do but they are missing that special something that we as humans all need.
It is human instinct to want to have sex and if you are being deprived of it at home you will look else where.
not saying cheating is right but if you satisfy your partner there is no reason for them to look else where.

Answer 11

Talking is a good thing in any kind of relationship.

And did you ever stop and think that maybe that significant other has a problem he or she is not really willing to openly talk about?

In my opinion, cheating is the lazy and/or coward person's way of dealing with a problem. Rather than facing it head on, they find the easiest way to deal with it.