they separated 3years ago, but the divorce cant finalise because his wife is making financial demands that we cant come to, we have been together two years and have a daughter together, its putting a strain on our relationship, she is being unreasonable and we cant get her to see that she wont get anything cause we don't have anything to give, will she ever let up and just let the divorce go through?
2007-12-18 21:03:37 · 10 answers · asked by Angel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
probably not, she is making waves and is probably enjoying it, she sounds bitter
if you are in the uk you can divorce without the other parties consent after 3/5 years depending on whether you are in Scotland or England, but if you are somewhere else i am not sure
2007-12-18 21:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well, if you are in the USA, eventually the judge will order what will happen... this happened to my brother and his wife... the judge finally got sick of all the continuances, and said, that's enough, this will be how it will be and that ended it right there...
your husband needs to speak up to the lawyer or the judge and mention that he has a new child with you and it's affecting his stress level and that's not good for that little one...
you are both correct, the judge will see you have nothing else to give because there is a child in the picture now...
Good Luck! perhaps your man needs a new lawyer? I don't know about the whole thing, but, that's my guess... someone has to let the judge know there is a child in your man's life now...
they separated 3 years ago? did they have kids? if so, the divorce will take at least a year from the date it was filed... they do this in hopes that the parties will get back together when kids are involved... but, if no kids, it should be a quick divorce...
2007-12-18 23:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you base all your happiness on his getting a divorce you'll never be able to move on. The secret is to never bag out the ex. I know it's hard. But think to yourself "I'm better then that". Plus it makes your look better in your boyfriends eyes. She is fully aware what she's doing and she's enjoying every moment. 3 years is a long time though. Obviously she hasn't moved on. I'd consult a solicitor or research the net. She can't make claims for anything that isn't there. Do they have kids? If so, that's going to be tough. Kill her with kindness, if you pick up the phone smile through it. She is angry and may stay that way for a while. You need to hold your head high while you get through this rocky patch. Plus your boyfriend needs to take the bull by the horns and force the issue. It's between him and her. Just worry about yourself for the time being.
2007-12-19 03:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by celfone71 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
probably not I am afraid you have gotten yourself into a no win sittuation and as long as that child is under 18 ,you will always have to put up with this woman . I am afraid you two will not be able to marry untill this child is over 18 and the wife no longer has a hold on him . Good luck and god bless.
2007-12-18 22:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yesterday is but a dream, tomorrow is but a vision. But today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness, and every tomorrow a vision of hope
2007-12-18 22:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by I Am AMIK 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
His wife, let him handle it while you go get your hair done.
Honestly, he is married and if he wanted a divorce, he would have one.
Recommend you move on.
Wishing you joy..
2007-12-18 21:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she doesnt want to let go of him. Does she haveanyone in her life, sounds as if she is lonely... Try using as much apathy with her as possible, let her know you see it from her side of things, speak to her mother to mother?
2007-12-18 21:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by tbipenguin 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if he has children with the exwife you are at her mercy as the courts will most likely not close anything for the sake of the kids.
2007-12-18 21:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by AshphaltDiva 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i was in the same place a while back and i just left him! i was not going to put up with it any longer, if you can do it then handle it!
2007-12-18 21:07:33 · answer #9 · answered by school girl 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
She sounds like a stupid cuntt. I'd get of of your friends to beat her @ss untill she agrees. good luck tho
2007-12-18 21:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋