Has any one ever had an abortion?

Question

I currently have two very young boys, im at college and me an my husband are only just getting financially sorted.
I am 8weeks 3 days pregnant and i feel unsure about wanting this baby..Has any one ever gone through with an abortion an what was the procedure like.

Answer 1

Yes I have had an abortion, and yes sometimes I regret it BUT if I had had that baby I wouldn't have been able to care for it. I was too young and in a relationship that later turned abusive!!
If you decide to go through with it you will think about it in later life! Its just one of those things.
I had to go to the hospital where they inserted tablet/s?? into my cervix to make things start contracting and expel the foetus.

Don't let people on here or elsewhere bully you into making the wrong decision for your family, only you and your husband know what is best for yourselves!!

Answer 2

first of all can i just ask why everybody feels that it is neccesary to insult ths woman?

i personally do not think you should have an abortion but it is your choice and nothing that i can say would change your mind.

you can only have a pill to abort a baby upto 8weeks so you would be too late for that. it would be a vacuum abortion which is basically a soft flexible vacuum inserted inside you. it is not a long procedure and it can be done at the day centre part of a hospital. you would still have to have a scan so the doctor can be certain of how far gone you are.
a friend of mine had one a few years ago and it took her a few days to get over the pain in her tummy.

i must say that i miscarried a few years ago and if you had ever been through that then i doubt you would even be considering an abortion and although i know it would be hard could you not consider adoption? there are so many couples that cannot have children and you could help make somebody elses life complete as i am sure your 2 boys have made yours.

good luck to you whatever your decision is.

Answer 3

I have a four year old, and a one yr old, I had an abortion almost a year ago, right after i had my second son. I still regret it, and still wish i had my baby back. I took his life, and never even gave him a chance! I am a single mom, and live with just me and my kids. I work full time and go to school on Saturdays. I won't lie it is very difficult for me, but I still wish that I could have my baby back! I would rather be struggling with three kids, than to feel as badly as I do! I know that things will be hard for you and your family if you have another child, but don't you think that it might be worth it, you won't have to wonder what your baby would look like, or if it would have been a boy or a girl. you wouldn't feel guilt or shame, and you would be happy knowing that you gave your baby life! You would be their hero just for being the best mom. I still struggle with my guilt but I know that I can't turn back time, all I can do is advise other women about how tragically your emotions can affect you after an abortion. Please look into your heart and you will know what the right answer is!

Answer 4

Yes I have had one, 5 years ago.

My pig of a boyfriend back then disowned me when I told him I was pregnant. I felt like I couldnt have gone through with it on my own so decided to terminate at 9 weeks. The procedure was fine and over in a few hours. I admit to being scared before as id never had an operation til then. Had councelling before hand and then an appt was booked. The procedure was about half an hour long and youre knocked out so dont know or feel a thing. Had to wait in a recovery room for about 2 hours after to make sure I was fine before being sent home. Came round to what I can describe as period pains and a lot of blood but nothing too nasty. It was hard going both mentally and physically for a while but when I eventually saw sense, I left my ex.

Am now happy with my new partner and expecting our first in about 5-6 weeks time, couldnt be happier and am a firm believer in fate and that was meant to be.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do. Ignore all nasty replies. I know everyone has a right to express their opinions but at the end of the day its your decision. x

Just to update after reading everyones messages, I asked for that pill to make it go away and the doctor said that they only do that in America. Unless since they have changed it? You would need to have a chat with your GP.

Answer 5

I think it's really good of you to at least go through your options...no matter what people say about abortion sometimes it's the only mature decision.

I won't lie to you...it's THE hardest decision you will ever make and it's not something that you forget easily. Make sure that you are ready for it...and make sure you have a lot of love and support through it all. Most people consider it the "easy" way out, but nothing about it is easy.

I chose to get one a few years ago and I am glad that I chose to...because I don't think it's fair to bring a baby into the world if you are not completely ready.

It depends on your body and the method that you and your doctor choose. There are a few different ways to have it done and some of them effect you more then others. If you get the pill I don't think it will have such bad experience as if you get a D&C...which is the manual way of taking out by suction and scraping.

Answer 6

You're still early enough to opt for the medicated approach. Essentially it's just a series of pills you take that will cause a miscarriage - essentially it will be like having a very bad period.

As far as regrets, emotional trauma, etc. - It's very rare, 98% of women who had an abortion stated that they would have made the same choice, only 10% have any lasting emotional trouble - usually this comes from people not being sure it's what they want, being pressured into it, being told by society that it's wrong, etc. I know several women who have had them, and not a single one has any regrets or problems because of it.

If you want more information about it, give a call to Planned Parenthood - 1-800-230-PLAN - they're very good people and will be able to give you as much information on all options available, whether abortion, adoption, or being able to support having another child.

Answer 7

first of all, don't listen to the people critisising you, anyone can make a mistake.
At this stage, abortion is a non-invasive procedure, a tablet will start your bleeding, this will be like a very heavy period.
If you are sure you want a termination, see the doctor ASAP as the longer you leave it, the more difficult the procedure will be, physically AND emotionally.
You say you are 'unsure', so obviously you have doubts. Please speak to somebody (friend, counsellor or doctor) who can advise you impartially, you may just get abused by religious fanatics or earth mothers on here.
Have you spoke to your husband by the way? He is equally responsible and should be supporting you through this tough time. Good luck with whatever you decide x x x

Answer 8

yes i have

as someone stated you would get a tablet at this time which would make you have a heavy period

if left longer they take you in on a day case i went in the morning got prept ie weight ,height , ect i was wheeled to the theater which i remember nothing off then coming to in my bed
i never felt hollow, or as if something was missing or that i had done the wrong thing

i know i made the right desicion

you will work it out yourself

i also want to add alot of people are lecturing on safe sex you do not know what happened to cause the pregnancy so should not speculate on it for all you know she might have been raped

Answer 9

a million. Emily 2. lady 3. 23 4. united statesA. 5. i in my view does not. 6. confident, certainly. 7. i be attentive to of numerous in my area. 8. deliberate Parenthood, All Womens well-being facility, etc. 9. I even have performed my examine, and, confident, i be attentive to how each and every form of abortion is accomplished. i'm additionally conscious nonetheless, that approximately ninety 8% of all abortions do happen interior the 1st 12 weeks of gestation... merchandising partial-start abortion as known does no longer something on your reason... fairly, it makes you look as in case you haven't any longer performed *any* examine in any respect. 10-14. do no longer prepare to myself. *** And, to characteristic... almost all of "partial start" abortions are truthfully performed while the fetus has already died in-utero later in gestation. ((as an occasion... a woman I grew up with had her fetus die at 7 months. with the aid of fact there replaced into no longer a medical institution prepared to grant a prior due-degree abortion in her area, she had to hold that ineffective fetus to time era, understanding it replaced into ineffective. How is THAT no longer merciless?)).

Answer 10

I considered having a abortion and eneded up not having it as i got the support from my family/friends. I am so glad i did not go through with it bec now i have my beautiful son. I know a friend who has had a abortion and she regreted it later and had a teribble case of depression and tryed 2 commit suicide. If you are considering a abortion just make sure you are 1000% sure bec if u regret it later in life it can be very hard. I f you are not using some form on contraception u should do so 2 avoid this (not preaching u as everone is human) After research i made myself i am against abortion but can not tell u what 2 do as it is ur choice. Abortions can be unsafe for both baby and mum and in some cases abortions are not succesfull and baby can survive