Today my older brother and my mom were fighting, and my brother said that he wished my mom would've put him up for adoption. I know he just said it out of anger, and only to make her feel bad and guilty. She is crying and I feel sooo bad. I am almost crying myself.
Anything I can do? I mean, what should I do? Btw, my mom is such a good mom. We have alot of struggles, but I love her!
( I know this is in wrong category, but I need more answers. Please donot, donot make mean rude jokes. )
2007-12-18 18:45:55 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I could never make jokes about this. It is such a serious thing. My heart goes out to you and your family. I grew up in a family where there were problems galore and my dad named them me. I am so sorry. Would it help if you could all sit down and talk it out. You are not in the wrong category as far as I am concerned. Sweetie, I pray that things work out for you. I know how hard it is. Been there. xoxo
2007-12-18 18:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a divorced, single mom now, but when I was married I felt like a single mom too! Not much has changed in my responsibilities between then and now, I'm still responsible for everything. My ex-husband made VERY little $ (yes I sure know how to pick'em) so I didn't feel much of a financial loss. The only thing I lossed was the stress of a bad relationship, so I think I have it easier now! Be happy you get to be a stay at home mom, it won't last forever, so enjoy it. Just think if you had to deal with all the responsibilities you do now AND hold down a full-time job!
2016-05-25 00:16:47 · answer #2 · answered by cornelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Merry Christmas! I shall, indeed take your concerns
extremely seriously. Seems to me like what you're
describing is a common trend among familes
BOTH single parent and dual parent units, to
where there are teen(s) and / or preteen(s)
going through puberty and tying to find
their own identities. This is a confusing
process to where independence is being established
and yes, rebellion is the result of such a procedure.
In the meanwhile, children often choose the wrong approach
and wind up fighting and harming their parent(s) and other
sibling(s).
I can go on and on about the causes and effects-but
chances are you've already witnessed them far too
many times as it is. Fact of the matter is; there really isn't anything that you can do..you can't control your brother
nor can you speak and behave for him. He has to figure that out on his own.
Best you can do now is be there for them both and support
your mother by letting her know how you feel about her.
Just be gentle to her and as you've said..you've struggled together before; there's no need to stop struggling
together now. Nothing good comes easily.
You are truly a great person and should be proud of yourself
for seeking answers to your dilemma tonight on behalf of your mother, yourself and your family.
Have a Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and Peace always.
2007-12-18 19:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by sylvester m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats really sad I dont think I'll b much of a help but try talking to ur brother and tell him that it was wrong to say that and to get him to apologize to ur mom & I think she'll feel better if she hears him apologize and make-up.
=)
2007-12-18 19:27:44 · answer #4 · answered by tevii.bby(; 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People often say things without thinking when they are angry like that. I suggest you talk to your brother; just to make him realise what he's said to your mum. Hopefully he'll come to his senses and try to properly sort things out with your mum. Good luck. And don't forget to give your mum a hug.
2007-12-18 18:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by kinsey07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mother tell her your brother (her son) loves her and that what he said its out of anger and he didn't mean what he said. Also talk to your brother tell him all of the things that shes done for you and him, put some sense into him.
2007-12-18 18:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by vlad 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her. Let her know that you do care and that she can talk to you. We only have one mother. I hope your brother and your mom can work things out. Explain to your brother how he is hurtring your mother and that he needs to make things right with her. He needs to apologise to her and show her respect. I hope the best.
2007-12-18 18:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by bambi10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just angry I'm sure he loves her and they well both forget what was said sometimes people talk without thinking he should realize he wouldn't be here if it was not for her most people don't realize things until something happen to there loved ones i hope he doesn't wait till then to know the wrong he is doing.
2007-12-18 18:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go and talk to your elder brother about his attitude... Say things that may make him feel guilty and make sure he apologizes to ur mom... Also, tell your mom that he was obviously saying it out of anger and he didnt mean it..
how else are ou suppose to help? its the only way...
2007-12-18 18:51:42 · answer #9 · answered by cRedible!!! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may wish to stay out of it, as these things sometimes work themselves out - if you get involved, SOMEONE may get ticked off at you for "taking sides."
If you feel that staying out is not an option - talk, calmly, to your brother. I doubt he would feel good about making his mother cry.
Just remember to think before you speak regardless of your decision.
2007-12-18 18:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by nytebreid 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋