My husband dont like my child and he is always ugly toward him, what must I do? I love my child so much and hate to see him so unhappy. In the week he always got something bad to say to him, he never sees any good in him. Weekends my husband drinks and then its the only time my husband will talk to him without being ugly.
2007-12-18 18:45:16 · 24 answers · asked by annie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all I am shocked that you let a man do this to your child! If you know that verbal and emotional abuse are going on and you are doing nothing about it, then you are abusing him too. Further more, it takes him getting drunk to be nice to him? This man's issues are not your childs fault. It's not fair that he has to live life unhappy and it sounds like he has a good reason to feel that way.
2007-12-19 03:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by dreamer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're absolutely right, women are chained to the children 98% of the time, and when dad comes home he's the hero and the mother is the villian. At least you're wise and have a realistic view of parenting. Don't let anyone try to fool you into otherwise thinking it's all rainbows and fluffy clouds. However, not wanting kids is a deal breaker. You can wait it out to see if he eventually comes around. But if he doesn't, there's no compromising on this issue. He will have to choose between you or this hypothetical kid. Btw, ignore bullying breeders such as Violet, you are a person and not an incubator. You're not inferior or lacking in any way just because you don't want kids. Don't let people like her treat you as a second-class citizen.
2016-05-25 00:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by cornelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Annie you can do better, why would you put your child through that? You must place your child first and do what is right for him.I just don`t understand how an adult can be mean to a child, but what is worse is another adult watching and doing nothing about it.I don`t know how old your son is but it does not matter because it sounds like you still need to take care of him.So be a good mother and do what is right.
2007-12-18 19:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by mallyoda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh honey....oh no, no, no, no.
Maybe you are worried about leaving over money or something? I mean, that has to be it, right? Money, & worrying over how you will provide for your child and pay rent and utilities, those are the only substantial reasons to stay with a man like this. But you know what? Those are only good excuses for a day or two, at most, if anyone is abusing your child like this.
There are groups out there to help single parents. Contact them, contact a church, a synagogue, anything...but do NOT allow this to go on. These folks are there to help others out of abusive, awful, degrading situations.
There are many forms of abuse. Please don't fool yourself into thinking that verbal abuse isn't just as bad as hitting or neglecting someone. The scars from verbal abuse run deep and long...and in most cases....forever.
For the sake of your child's future, and your own, please run away from this person as if your life depends on it. Because really...it DOES.
2007-12-18 19:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Misty P. 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
how can this even be a question? this poor child...my heart goes out to him...your saying your husband is just mean to your child...and yet you still stay with him...which is the worse of the 2...one who is doing the abusing mentally,emotionally..or the mother for not protecting this innocent child...your job is to protect,love,comfort,support,nourish etc..if it were me...my child would come first...and if the man I was with couldn't or wouldn't accept my child and treat him the way every child should be treated...then he isn't worth my time and isn't worthy enough to help raise my child...i really hate being rude..but enough kids are being abused in more ways then just physical abuse...and damn it...they don't deserve it..your son can't stand up for himself yet and shouldn't have to...I'm sure he probably has low self esteem..no confidence...feels worthless...stupid...in the way...etc...and if he doesn't yet...he will if you stay with a jerk like that...what an ugly man (maggot)
2007-12-18 19:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by ~Jenny~ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is so sad, both for your child and your husband, as the both of them are missing out!
What you can do about your husband's behaviour is very little, but you can help your child by listening to them, making them feel wanted and special, help to build his self esteem.....
Hopefully as time goes on they will build a better relationship but if not at least your son will know YOU love him and want what is best for him and that will help!
2007-12-18 18:57:52 · answer #6 · answered by Rob and Kelly B 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well... i dont like all the things my step daughters do. Sometimes I dont like the way my wife handles things.
I have to love and support the kids. That does not mean I have to like the way they live and act. Sometime they do not deserve my best... infact they deserve to be talk to sternly. Im not mean but im not nice.
Sometimes the kids make it hard to keep peace in the house. Im not there to win thier friendship. Im there to love their mom. be the best I can for them. If we can be a family great thats the goal. maybe the only thing they will take from me is that i love and respect their Mom.
Now i know ill catch all kinds of crap for this but... Sometimes you women are too sensitive about kids. And here is where Ill really catch hell. The marrige comes first. Its the base of the family. You married him... they have to work it out without you getting too hyper sensitive. If you dont like whats happening in commuication in your family then everyone sits down. Stop wasting your time talking on here. As far as the drinking you work that out with him alone. And you women telling her to dump her husband .... shut up!... you have no right to give her advise like that
2007-12-18 19:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by rufstuff 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's jealous of your love for your son. He has issues and you seriously need to think about how this is effecting your son. He may grow up traumatised because of your husbands resentment towards him. You have a choice to make.
2007-12-19 04:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by celfone71 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to get the child out of that environment. If you don't you son will end of hating himself because your husband at some point will have destroyed his self esteem and hating you for not protecting him. Whether its on the weekend or 1 hour a week its one too many. If you love you truly love your son protect him as a mother should and get him out of that environment as soon as possible.
2007-12-18 18:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by jvw2300 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like maybe you got married to this man after your child was born?
Well...You need to talk to your husband cause it is not right of him to treat your child badly. It is really not his child to be ugly to...You need to remind him that when he married you, your child was part of the deal. He should treat your child better.
Happy Holidays!
2007-12-18 18:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by Cori M 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋