im 13 should i tell my mum i have had sex and it been more than 1 guy!!? help!!!!?

Question

well im 13 and dont tell me im too young to have sex coz i wanted too and i liked it but should i tell my mum i have had sex?? and it has been with more than 1 guy. im not aslut and sleeps around i just enjoy sex and i have done it with a girl!
and two guys at the same time and i did use a condom all the times!!!!!!! but i wanna get on the pill and i think i will need my mums help do i and how do i do it ???
plz help me figure all this out!!!

Answer 1

Hon i really dont know what to tell you. Sex is a very very personal subject and i honestly do think this is something you yourself has to ponder. Making decisions yourself is part of growing up and appearantly since your already having sex you should decide. Will it eat you up if you dont? If it does then tell her. If not then well no. Life is full of mistakes and you have to learn from it. Its part of being at least responsible.
Remember this, just becuase it brings pleasure doesnt mean its a good thing at the time.
Hope it helps.

Answer 2

It is good you are planning to wait and I hope you wait all the way until the right time with the right person. It really does make things sooo much better. It is a big deal, even though our society doesn't dictate that anymore. 1.) My first time didn't hurt at all. I have heard others who say it hurt a bit though. The most pain I have heard is maybe a 5 on the scale. But I would rate it as a 1. It was not bad at all for me. I didn't even bleed. 2.) Since it was never painful for me, I don't hane an answer for when it stopped hurting. But I had my first good sexual experiences when I was with my husband. I lost my viginity at 18, have had three partners in my whole life (including my hubby) and the best has been with my husband. It was about three years after losing my virginity. Although it got better and better as I learned more about my body. 3.) You can get pregnant during your period, but only if your cycle is a bit wacky. It is not entirely likely. But don't think you are safe if you have sex then. Always use protection.

Answer 3

You are well below the age of consent. Anyone who has sex with you is breaking the law. It is a very serious charge and anyone over 18 will go to gaol for a very long time. Younger people might not spend as much time in gaol but they will still be branded a sex offender for the rest of their lives.

If you insist on having sex at your age you will need parental permission to go on the pill unless you go over their heads and get a court order - which won't be given as you are too young. I know sex is fun but there are serious consequences for doing it at your age - not just for you but for your partners as well.

Answer 4

Well I don't support your decision to be having sex that early. But I think that all the people that just condemned you are retarded since you have already explained that you wanted to do it and that you don't need people to tell you whether it was right or wrong. I DEFINITELY think that you should tell your mom. Just know that you will probably get in trouble. But it is the right thing to do. Make sure that you have completely decided whether to tell her or not. Good Luck =)

p.s. try to be careful with the sex thing

Answer 5

Yes, you need to talk to your mum or some other responsible adult. You are making adult decisions without a lot of the experience of an adult. I hope you will back off on the sex and work more on creating friendships.

Answer 6

hey you said you always use a condom

make sure everyone else does umm cuz you know about disease and all that

and as long as your safe and having fun - theres no need to tell your mum cuz u'll worry her about nothing - you know what your doing but your mum might worry that you dont

yeah make sure the others dont tell their parent either just make sure everyones safe and emotionally happy and your all good

Answer 7

Well, I am not going to tell you that you are too young to have sex...I am going to tell you that I do not quite think you understand it and the powerful thing it is. Definitely talk to your mom. Sex is meant to be the most precious gift you can give to someone. You can not give them anything more personal than yourself. It should also be held off until marriage. Anything outside of what it is meant for causes complications. Pregnancy, ...std's...time wasted on insignificant relationships when it could be spent doing more important things. Yes, it is meant to be enjoyable and it is not a bad thing, but it is meant for marriage and in that it is the most enjoyable. You have alot of choices you will be faced as you barrel through life....please slow down and be more careful. You have your entire future ahead of you and right now you need to focus on preparing yourself for that.

I know you are probably thinking that I am an old fart and don't know what I am talking about, but you are wrong. You see, there is a God out there and He is bigger than anything you or I could ever imagine. He loves us both very much! We are getting ready to celebrate Christmas, which is the birthday of God. He put himself here on this itty-bitty earth just so we can have a close relationship with him. I have that close relationship and I am here to tell you that He wants one with you too! You may have made some poor choices, but it is not too late to make some right ones. You are a beautiful person and God thinks so too. Please do not wonder around and give yourself away to just any undeserving person...hold out for that one that goes all out and loves you no matter what. Then you can tell him that you waited just for him and sex will mean so much more when you do finally give yourself to that one person you love. When you find out that they waited for you, you will feel the love that much deeper.

If you have a hard time stopping what is going on, please find a local christian church and they should have a youth group that can help you overcome this. I will keep you in my prayers and definitely discuss this with your mom.

Answer 8

Oh your just a baby, Please just tell your mother its good to let things out! I have a 14, 12, and 9 yr. old and if they were hiding this from me i don't know what I would do!

Answer 9

Well, I'm gonna tell you, you are too young to be having sex. If you don't know the difference between to and too, and how to spell please, you don't need to be having sex.

Answer 10

if you are sleeping around at 13 you ARE a slut--whether you tell mom or not, and whether you use protection or not. Guys that take advantage of you are guilty of STATUATORY RAPE in every USA state, and they SHOULD be locked up.