Be honest. And we want 6-8 (have 2 right now). Kids are only as expensive as you make them. I luckily have rich family who give me all the VERY nice hand me downs and great insurance, I pay close to nothing! :)
2007-12-18 18:17:49 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
We have seven kids. I'd like one more baby, but at this point it looks like a no go. We'll probably foster as our two year old gets older, we've gone through the screening and plan on fostering children with special needs since we have two of our own special kiddos.
You're right, kids are only as expensive as you make them. We don't have rich family, but we have SMART family. My SIL #1 has five kids, #2 has seven kids, and #3 has seven kids. We all know how to budget, shop the sales, and develop great relationships with the kids. And NO, we don't get govt assistance of any type. }:-/ for those who are curious.
2007-12-18 19:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have 2, an almost 3 year old boy and a 5 month old girl. I am SO good to stop here. Our daughter has health problems and I cannot imagine having another little one anytime soon. My hubby is seriously considering getting a vasectomy. It is hard too because our daughter was unplanned and unexpected and we are not financially capable at all of caring for her. We are doing our very best to just scrape by. I love both my kdis and would not change them to save the world....but it is hard. Hope this was a good enough answer....it was 100% honest and from the heart anyhow.
2007-12-18 18:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by })i({ J and D's Momma })i({ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As an older brother of a sister and brother, and growing up still at home (I'm only but 15) I may have a suggestion.
As an older brother, I'm an instigator...I "tease" my little brother a bit, and alliances form between the sympathetic, and the victims of this. I'm not saying that my actions are right, but it does kinda stink when I'm left all by myself.
If you have an older girl first, you may want to have more kids. But if you have an older boy, two. If they get angry at each other, they do not pull anyone into an argument. They will forgive each other equally before they cooperate again.
Do what you want, but thats just a small aspect of growing up. I hope my advice may have helped. =]
2007-12-18 18:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by goosenator_7 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My hubby & I originally wanted 5 kids. We currently have a 5 month old daughter. I have a feeling I'm going to have to settler for 2 or 3 of my own due to the first one being an emergency csection. But I'd consider fostering and/or fostering to adopt when my kids are a little bit older.
2007-12-18 23:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by wadeinalem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i have 5 between us......his daughter is 8...i have a daughter 7 and a son 6.....and we have a daughter 4 and a son 10 months together. we would have more but i had alot of complications with my last pregnancy and were concerned about health risks. we have friends however that wanted 8....they had 7 and decided it was time to try one more time, she got pregnant very quickly.....with triplets lol. so they now have 10 kids, the oldest is 12 and the triplets are 4 months old.
2007-12-18 23:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by CRmac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I currently have one child (a 2 year old daughter) and I am pregnant with baby #2 who is due in March. :) We would like to have more children (we originally wanted 3 or 4), but I have been advised that this should be my last pregnancy due to health issues I have when I am pregnant. Our insurance also sucks - for our daughter we had to pay over $7,000 out of pocket for medical bills, and this pregnancy is already near that mark.
2007-12-18 23:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Mrs. GM2*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have two now, nearly 3 years boy and 5.5 years girl and I am 11 weeks pregnant.
We were not planning on having a third baby as they cost so much as they get older. But its here now and I'm starting to get used to the idea! Babies cost nothing compared to an older child. Its not the clothes and things that break the bank, (handy me downs work well and you really don't need a lot of clothes) its the school fees, books, shoes, field trips/excursions and uniforms every year. Christmas and birthdays for everyone. Saving for their future, trying to provide fun family days/holidays away to theme parks and the like. Buying and paying off bigger cars and bigger houses! Buying bedroom furniture etc...And food costs an arm and a leg as it is, once they get to older child-teenage years they eat you out of house and home so feeding 6-8 children and 2 adults is a logistical nightmare! Oh, and the laundry and sleepless nights, arrghh!
I have no idea how parents of that many children get by but they must do without a lot of niceties just to be able to put food on the table and a roof over their heads. I know that love is all they need, etc....but material things/money really does matter if you want to live comfortably (not luxury, comfortably)
I want to be able to give my children the best I can, not share it out between 6 or 8 of them. My husband would be having to earn more than $120K AUS a year to get by with that many kids as I wouldn't be able to work. At least with 2-3 kids I can work part-time again when the baby is bigger and contribute to our family financially which in turn contributes directly to my children's wellbeing.
I don't know if parents of big families are doing it for the love of having children / selfish reasons, or if they are thinking about what it means to those children they already have. The things they will have to go without in order to provide the basics for the whole family. I couldn't imagine not being able to give one on one time to each of my children every day, with 8 kids I'd never get anything done let alone spend quality time with them! The more kids, the less time you actually get to spend with each of them.
anyway, thats my two cents! 3's the absolute limit! I'm looking forward to the third but realistically I'd still stick with 2 if I wasn't already pregnant.
2007-12-18 20:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have three, two boys and a baby girl. Boys are 8 & 5, my daughter will be 1 on Dec 30. Three is good. Cannot afford anymore - plus hubby got fixed, so - no more for me. I can now concentrate on raising them and getting my body 100% back!
2007-12-19 00:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have three children so far.
Ben is nearly 6, Ruth is 2 and little Esther is 7 months.
We would like at least one more, but we take them as they come and if we are struggling to cope (mentally!) then we will stop.
At the minute, four seems like a good number, but five is also pretty inviting lol!
2007-12-18 20:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by ♫♪Bag♫♪ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Initially we wanted 4-5...but we stopped at 3 daughters.
My biggest concern was being able to pay for 5 college educations because education is SO important in today's world.
If you only have 2 kids right now....you might reconsider once they start school and you are being asked for money every week!
2007-12-18 20:17:27 · answer #10 · answered by tiffany 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋