I'm officially 26, it happened at 1:33am. I won't be celebrating until this weekend. But honestly, what's to celebrate. It only means that I'm that much closer to 30 and still haven't met the right guy. I've gone on dates, but really the selection in this town isn't the greatest. The guys that are attractive, turn out to be completely full of themselves and I really cant stand that. Either that or they are lazy and expect to find someone that is going to take care of them. And I can't have a man that isn't willing to take care of himself.
::Side note:: One of my favorite classic movies is on! An Affair To Remember. Anyway, my question is..... Actually it's non-existant. I have no question, I just wanted to vent and no one I talk to is online right now so I figured why not do it in Y!Answers. It seemed like as good a place as any. I would however like stars ;) It is, after all, my birthday and I'm lonely.
2007-12-18 17:38:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Aww Lucky I have told you time and time again, you will find someone. Stop being so down on yourself, I love you. Granted i'm not a hot guy and i like girls so i, in no way, make up for the void you feel. But you are one of my best friends and I know that one day you will find the guy that see's how special you are and treats you the way you should be treated. And take my advice from earlier and put yourself out there more! Stop moping around the house and only going on dates when someone calls and says they have a guy they want you to meet. So on that note... we are so totally going to the gay bar this weekend!!!
& happy effin birthday!!!!!
2007-12-18 20:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hate that you're alone on your birthday. Happy Birthday, by the way. Since this isn't really a question, then this won't really be an answer. I'll go ahead and tell you that I'm 43. But I didn't dread turning 30, the closer i got to it. Having already been through my 30's, I will tell you they were some of my best years. Getting older doesn't have to be a prison sentence. But if that's how you look at it, that's how it will turn out. Getting older is not for the weak. Being single isn't either, especially if you like having a significant other. BUT, being happy as a single is important. You have to be happy with yourself by yourself. Maybe some of these guys who you think are full of themselves have a soft spot. But I know what you mean, it doesn't attract me either. I'm more "what you see is what you get." And I'm not ashamed. It doesn't sound like you are either.
I already told you this wasn't going to be an answer. Love is zen. Let it find you, don't you zero in on it. These things can't be planned. This is why obsessive people need therapy. You have a good vibe. Keep on like you are and love will find you.
PS Watch Harold and Maude, within the dark humor, there are some good lessons.
2007-12-18 19:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by Robert O 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hope you had a nice birthday and DID something instead of sulking. I like what Jennifer W said about enjoying being single, making a simple change towards finding something, and that people make commitment choices at different times. Tim A said that he's older than you and still not ready to commit, so as you can see there's still time. I was almost 30 years old when I met my soul mate (lady). I also read what your best friend said. You're lucky to have friends who encourage you like that. Listen to them. They obviously know that you're a good catch.
It's easy to say that when you're not lonely though, right? Maybe it's time you get out there and show others! If you're not lazy, does that mean you're into certain activities? Join some groups and show off your talents. Maybe take a class at your local community college, so you have a chance to meet people. That's the idea: get out there. That's your only chance.
Good luck. We're rooting for you.
2007-12-19 15:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by Steve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy Bday! (BTW, that's the Bday talking!) They can be difficult; you're realizing your age. You'll meet him when the time is ready. People have to get to the point where they're ready to settle down. Others break up and have hopefully learned, so you benefit from those new epiphanies!
Do a Yahoo Answers question with something like "how many people here are 26 or over, single, looking, and not so lazy they expect others to take care of themselves?" Hey - it only takes one 'me' answer!
You obviously know what you want and have to offer. Now, take a chance. Ask yourself what you can be doing right now to find a mate. Do you need self improvement somewhere? Are you letting people know that you're looking? Take a chance, and make sure to get to know a person before making a serious analysis of them.
For now, enjoy single life. Find peace within yourself. Check out this link.
2007-12-18 18:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday Mike! Just hang in there bud, i am sure you will find someone pretty soon. You sound like a great guy, they only come around when you least expect it. Don't just waste your time alone on this special day, go out and have fun! I hope all your wishes may come true today. Good Luck!
2007-12-18 19:31:58 · answer #5 · answered by Shawny™ 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Happy Birthday baby!
If it's any consolation, I didnt meet and fall in love and have my first serious relationship til i was almost 30!I hope you have fun this weekend. Try doing what you like...I do political/progressive stuff, volunteer at a few charitable events, go to art openings, foreign films, punk shows, and maybe he'll show up, usually when you're not looking. I met a really great guy on here, actually...we're planning our first meeting...more on that later. You have good taste in movies, please don't give up...there are nice guys out there, I should know. I am one...
2007-12-18 17:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff B 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried a LTR oriented dating website like match.com? I'm 24, probably too messed up to date until another year or two, but I've been keeping an eye on the profiles that appear in my inbox (no, you can't find me there, I set myself as invisible), and many of the gay people there seem like really good people (at least concluding from the profile they seem to take care of themselves, and have dreams and aspirations...etc.).
In any case, happy birthday.
2007-12-18 17:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by Future Pathologist 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Happy Birthday!!! Enjoy being 26 and stop focusing on the negative! Don't stereotype every attractive guy in your town to be conceited or lazy. Besides, what you want may not be what you need. Have an open mind, an open heart, and have fun!
2007-12-18 17:50:15 · answer #8 · answered by PickleMe 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Happy Birthday!
2007-12-18 19:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
OMG -- 26! You're so old!!
Dude, get over it. I'm 41 and still living alone. I'm dating a great guy, but neither of us is ready to commit. Just live your life. The right guy will come along.
2007-12-19 03:39:05 · answer #10 · answered by Tim A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋