I'm being induced tomorrow at 6pm. I have a 2 1/2 year old son that I just put into bed. We have a little "routine" when it comes time for him to go to bed... I go all the way up the steps and sit at the top. He comes up the steps and sits on my knee and hugs me for a few minutes, then he gets up and walks to his bed and goes to bed. It's what we've been doing for months now. But this time, as he's sitting on my lap, I just started bawling. I'm not sure if it's because I know it's the last time i'll put him in bed as my only son, or if it's because it's the last time i'll put him in bed for 3 nights, or... if I subconciously feel guilty because I'm not going to be able to give him my undivided attention anymore.
Tell me I'm not a freak, please. :(
2007-12-18 16:51:03 · 19 answers · asked by His Lady 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Mom, you are not a freak. You are perceptive enough to know that your relationship with your son will be affected by the new baby, and feel the loss.
It's all right to cry. You will have your hands full, and do the best you can. Some routines will go by the wayside, others will adapt. New routines will appear, more compatible with your busier life.
2007-12-18 16:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u are definitely not a freak! this can be a very emotional time! in the end it will be a great change, even if ur son doesnt get undivided attention anymore - and he wont even notice with all the new baby comotion - he will also be excitted for the baby. just dont forget about him too while ur sidetracked with the baby - let him know u care. what i always tell people to do is when u bring home the baby, bring him a gift too - like a shirt that says "world best big brother" and a new truck or something. he will love it. and this way not only the baby recieves gifts.
congrats on the new baby and good luck!
cheer up - pretty soon u will have a new bundle of joy!
2007-12-18 16:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by snowrider336 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first off hormones are hell and they are raging uncontrollably at this point.. it's prolly a factor of everything you listed.. i freaked out and had a breakdown right b4 i went into the hospital to have my 2nd child also.. it's tough raising 2 kids but it could also be easier than you think.. by the time you are reading this you are probably already at home with the new baby.. you'll be ok.. just be sure to include the 1st and do things to make the transition from being an only child and gettin all the attention to having a new baby around and having to wait sometimes to get what he wants and having to share attention from mommy and daddy.. congrats and don't feel bad.. he'll get used to it.. and soon you can create something new and he'll be so proud of himself for being such a great helper..
(very much in agreement with the above answer)
2007-12-18 17:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by gizmo_chik04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy can really throw your hormones out of whack and make you feel alot more emotional!!!
I think you just described exactly what is going on, and it's perfectly normal to feel that way!!!!!!!!!!!
Although I did not break down, I too felt this same guilt when I was pregnant with my second child, knowing that my first baby would not be the only child any more!!!! At first, he was happy to have a baby sister, but then he got annoyed that we were paying more attention to his baby sister (since she was a newborn )
Don't feel bad though, in the end, it's all worth it and your son will be very happy to have a baby brother or sister that he can help take care of!!!
I wish you the best of luck tomorow!!!!!
2007-12-18 16:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by Dreamer 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your not a freak!!!!!! Your a loving, and caring mother getting ready to have another. Your probably over whelmed with going to the hospital tomorrow, and not being there with your son too. It's normal been there done it too. Your just stressed, stop worrying about something you can't control or change. Your son will be fine, just remember to include him in everything when you come home. Congrats!
2007-12-18 17:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know i have been feeling the same way lately. i am 25 weeks pregnant with a little boy, and i have a 18 month old Little girl. and lately i have been worried that i might not be able to show her the kind of attention after the baby gets here that i have been able to show her for....well her whole life now. it really depresses me also. i think it is just a normal thing that some, or most women go through.
2007-12-18 17:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by KiKi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh your life is about to make a major change. All kinds of feelings are bound to come up and that is normal. He is your baby and first born. I am sure you are feeling all of the above. Cry and let it out. Don't hold those feelings inside. They just get bottled up and hurt you. Good luck on your delivery and soon you will be on the road to recovery and can make a routine again special for just you and your son.
2007-12-18 16:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You aren't a freak! You are perfectly normal!!! If you weren't freaking out, I'd be worried! =)
Congratulations on your new little one! Before you know it, you will have a wonderful new routine! You can get your toddler to be the "Big brother" and help with the baby. He will love feeling special for being the big boy.
Congrats again!
2007-12-18 17:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a freak, sweety! It's natural and normal to feel conflicted when you're about to have another baby. Just think about how high your hormone levels are right now and everything you're about to go through. It's perfectly understandable and normal.
Take some deep breaths. Do something that you enjoy to relax and de-stress. And good luck tomorrow!
Best wishes!
~Raja
2007-12-18 16:58:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not a freak. You're pregnant, hormonal and about to be induced. This is natural. I had a friend who once sat on the floor in front of her fridge and cried because her lettuce was wilted. When her husband walked in, she wailed that she killed the lettuce. Hubby quietly went to the store and got new lettuce, btw. Pregnant ladies are under a great deal of stress. Crying is the body's way of relieving that. Go ahead and cry away. It's okay.
2007-12-18 16:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by dstluke 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋