i hve a small daughter of 5 months,its been two years that i am married .My wife is working professional i am not getting along with her very well .I have a interference frm my in laws side they luv her so much that are not ready to make her learn her faults that are committed to carry on for a successfull amrriage.My father recently had a heart attack.I am really pressurised between the two situations and feel like ending my life as to me it seems that my wife doesnt need a companion she is happy with her earnings and ego,she only needs luv of her parents .
2007-12-18 16:42:56 · 18 answers · asked by need help 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My friend you sound like you need to see a professional counselor. When life gets you down so low that you consider suicide its time to act. You should have access to a Psychiatrist through your wife's insurance if you don't carry insurance yourself. Even if theres no insurance call a crisis line, see your family doctor, or at least talk to your wife about how you feel and don't be afraid to lay it all out. Be honest. If you can't take it anymore then get away for awhile. Ending your life is not the answer. I've been on both sides of the suicide triangle. My older brother did it and he left a beautiful baby boy behind. Plus everybody else in the family. Its been 25 years and the loss is still there.Think about doing something good for somebody else. Please get help before its too late.
2007-12-18 18:03:20 · answer #1 · answered by Searcher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
O MY GOD, don't do this, why would you end your life because of a woman who doesn't love you, or so you think? Have you tried talking to her? I know talking is not a thing that man are into, but you need to talk to her that is what marriage is about. You have a daughter, you have your parents and I am not trying to put pressure on you honey but your little princess needs you!!!!! DO you really want her to grow up thinking that when things get harder you should give up? Do you want your father to have another heart attack? Cause he loves you and could not live without you and if you think your wife doesn't love you honey go find love in a woman who does. Maybe what you need is to get away and to tell your in laws to back the heck off. You need to explain to your wife how you feel and you need some time away, away from all the stress in your life and don't worry about your dad, he will be fine and live many many more years, I know he will I feel it in my heart and wish for it with all my heart. I will pray for you and I trust you that you will make the right choice, so LIVE AND LET LIVE sweety, you are too important for the world to take your life. You didn't make the decision of when to come to life so you have no right to decide when your life should end and always think about your little princess and her smile!
God bless you and be with you.
2007-12-19 00:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by ♀♥♂ LOVE IS A FUNNY THING ♂♥♀ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone facing this problem. All those bride parents may create such problems, Reason- inspite of helping they are seeking financial assitant from her in past they might had took much advantages. Now she is young, and live with them her mental status is moms daughter. All ur efforts will effectless untill some from her side convence her. Or let her to decide. Ur help is much needed by your father, so do ur duty of helping them. Situation will automaticaly over. So donot worry, if she didnot have any love issue with anyother, she will sure realize the mistake. And then u will have to decide at have to do.
Bye best of time coming.
2007-12-19 00:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kanpuria'boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you contemplate suicide know this - it will affect your daughter for the whole of her life. She will grow up KNOWING that her Dad didn't love her enough to work through the tough times. She will grow up WONDERING why he couldn't find a better way. She will grow up wondering if she's inherited whatever gene makes a person do that. Please do not do this to your baby, she needs you alive and looking after her. And your presence in her life is no small thing.
Get help now, there's no weakness in that, the weakness lies in taking youself away from her.
2007-12-19 01:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's called manipulation : to want to end your life, it's the easy way out. What about your baby? So what you've married into a family that cares about their daughter. Get a Grip. It sound like you are competing with your wife as far as being a professional that's able to earn a living for her family. However, I hope your father gets well.
2007-12-19 00:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by dada555 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
All daughters do so, they all love their parents a lot & closer they live more interference from them in the matrimonial life of their daughter's. The best solution is to move out of the town & remain as far as you can from them to avoid such interference in your life. It may look little odd to you for changing place of work & living, but in such cases this is the only solution you can have, after all you cannot kill her parents nor you can leave her just on this ground, so best solution is to move as far as you can to avoid them as much as you can. If you can find a job out of country, nothing like that, atleast the meeting with them for years together will be difficult & once you are in a foreign country your wife will learn how to take care of child & her family as their she won't get any outside helper for all this as she gets in India. I'm a very practical person & talk the practical solutions for any such matrimonial disputes & in this case I find this to be the best way out for you. Mind you going to a foreign country is always a craze for ladies of this generation & she will be too willing to go out with you leaving all her love & affection for parents back in India. After all I'm also a father of a married daughter now settled abroad with her husband.
2007-12-19 04:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the situation makes you feel that bad, then it's time for a separation. If you feel that you are the better parent then fight for custody, if not then let the child go with your wife's family. It is better for a child to be raised by one strong happy parent than two miserable ones. Anything that makes you want to end your life needs to be changed. Good luck.
2007-12-19 00:51:24 · answer #7 · answered by just me 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hey look man iv thought of that before
don't do it there's always light on the other side of the tunnel
things will get better.. and what about your daughter what will she think if your gone just know your here 4 a reason
2007-12-19 01:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also nearly your position.
But we are living together for the sake of the child.
I never end my life.
I did fix some new goals in my life.
I am fortyfive.
Now studying MBA.
you should fix new goal and try get it
Dear friend ,Life is only one.
change your vison and be happy.
yours loving
a peter
2007-12-19 01:01:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Cor 7:10 ......"and a husband is not to divorce his wife."
God first
Wife second
child third
then parents, siblings
Change your attitude and you will be happier. You are wrong she and your daughter need your love.
-help with your baby
-call your wife sweetheart, babydoll, darling
-everywhere introduce her as Miss Universe, My Beloved
-rub her neck for her
-be happy, it's contagious
Joy to you!
2007-12-19 00:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋