I have been married for going on 4 months, and it is my understanding that Arguments are very common in marriage, but I get explosive! She doesnt trust me I never have cheated but i used to be a "flirt"(er), and I have worked through that and I always explode I mean like Dr. Jeckell and Mr. Hyde when ever I feel I am not trusted. Today I got so upset when she tried to walk away I pulled her back... am I lost hope or am i worth keeping I try and I want to work this are these argumets normal or are we trying for something that won't work. (note: I never believe in divorce) PLEASEEEEE!!! HELP!!
2007-12-18 16:35:18 · 11 answers · asked by cool89gks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1) Why is she baiting you
2) Why are you falling for it
You BOTH have problems with trust
2007-12-18 16:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a terrible Husband if you are not cheating. You both are fresh in your marriage and still have things to work out. You need to find out why she feels she cant trust you. Flirting happens married or not. its not wrong its just what you do withthe flirting that can be. If she is just being the green eye monster or overly posiessive thats not a good sign this early into it. You might want to get into marriage counsling for a lil while. Your going from Dr. jeckell to Mr. Hyde could be an defence mode you get when accussed of something . There are great groups out there that can help you with your Anger issues. Find out what triggers them and why then learn how to defuss them and provent your defences from flaring so fast. If you deal with all the iusses that can arrive early in marriage you can learn the tool to keeping your marriage happy and long lived. :)~ good lucK
2007-12-18 16:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by Royal B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not all couples fight. Me and my guy are best friends, Now me and my ex husband were different. He was an A$$ and blew up all the time like that. I ended up hating him. I am now in a FANTASTIC almost 4 year happy, respectful calm relationship and am soo lucky to have it! Some people just annoy eachother and dont mix well. It;s like beating your head against a wall. YUCK>
2007-12-18 16:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by openminded 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you "get explosive" in arguements and have put her hands on her, and if you love her, and want your marriage to last, get help now to control that temper. Go to Anger Management, and stick with it.
She doesn't have to stay with you if your abusive, so get it now, before you do do something that you can't take back, or just apologize for. Its your choice.
2007-12-18 16:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have issues.I commend you for recognizing, that you may be having some problems. Therapy or medical intervention could be beneficial for you,and your wife as well. You must learn how to deal with your emotions, if your marriage is to survive. Best Wishes...
2007-12-18 16:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to get some help a marriage counselor
2007-12-18 16:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by gabagaba 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to some sort of marriage counselor in the area
2007-12-19 05:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are loosing control of your temper and you need to ask yourself why you are getting so irate. I give you total credit for having the courage to ask for help.
2007-12-18 17:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by daisyduck4007 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need anger management!!
2007-12-18 16:38:57 · answer #9 · answered by jstagirl1969 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2007-12-18 16:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by artguy90291 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋