grammar help?

Question

"she must now choose who she wants to spend the rest of her life with."

should it be 'who' or 'whom'?

does anyone know?

Answer 1

The correct way to say it would be, She must now choose with whom she wants to spend the rest of her life. If you were to say, she must now choose with who she wants to spend the rest of her life with, would it make sence? No, so for that reason you have to move the last with before Whom.

Answer 2

It's "whom," and the reason is that it's the object of "with." However, the sentence would be better if you said, "She must now choose the person with whom she wants to spend the rest of her life," or "She must now decide whom she wants to spend the rest of her life with."

And sorry, but it's OK to end a sentence with a preposition.

Answer 3

She must now choose with whom she wants to spend the rest of her life. NEVER end your sentences with a preposition...

Answer 4

1) ...with whom she wants to spend the rest of her life.
2) ... who/whom she wants to spend the rest of her life with.
3) with who she wants to spend the rest of her life.
4) with whom she wants to spend the rest of her life with.

Both 1) and 2) are correct. 1) is just more formal than 2). Neither 3) nor 4) is incorrect.

cf. Who/Whom does she want to spend the rest of her life with? She must choose it.

Answer 5

"She must now choose with whom she wants to spend the rest of her life."

Better grammar to NOT end a sentence with a preposition.

Answer 6

She must now choose with whom she wants to spend the rest of her life.

This sounds good.

Answer 7

The English teacher's answer is....

First, you should avoid ending your sentence with a preposition (with).

Second, the correct choice is "whom" Let me explain why:

whom = objective pronoun (receiver of action). Think of "whom" as "him."

who = subjective pronoun (giver of action). Think of "who" as "he."

Both are "restrictive pronouns" as well, and each can introduce a subordinate clause.

Now, let's lose everything after the word 'who." We have left ... "she must now choose who."

Replacing the words, we have a choice of
A) "she must now choose he" or
B) "she must now choose him."

Obviously, the word "him" is correct, as it's a clearer case of the need for an objective pronoun. Going back to our original, we now see the correct (well, relatively) way to write it is:

"she must now choose whom she wants to spend the rest of her life with."

A BETTER way to write this would be, "she must now choose the person with whom she wants to spend the rest of her life."

And by the way, one person wrote, "it sounds right." As I used to tell my students, "Sounds right is NOT a rule in grammar!"

Also see:
http://www.protrainco.com/essays/pronouns.htm

Answer 8

"The distinction between “who” and “whom” is basically simple: “who” is the subject form of this pronoun and “whom” is the object form. “Who was wearing that awful dress at the Academy Awards banquet?” is correct because “who” is the subject of the sentence. “The MC was so startled by the neckline that he forgot to whom he was supposed to give the Oscar” is correct because “whom” is the object of the preposition “to.”"
http://www.wsu.edu:8080/~brians/errors/who.html

She must now choose with whom she wants to spend the rest of her life. (No prepositions at the end of a sentence.)

Answer 9

"she must now choose with WHOM she wants to spend the rest of her life with" I think sounds correct.

Answer 10

whom...and it should be "with whom she wants to spend the rest of her life"