my grandpa just past away saturday and me and my mom found him in his chair at his house gone...... i cant sleep at night, all i think about is seeing him and how he is gone and i basically have nothing left..... I still havent gotten over my grandmas death from 2 years ago and now i have another to mourn...... christmas is a special holiday and i look forward to it because i get to spend it with my whole family..... there used to be like 20 people and now theres only gonna be about 7...... its so hard for me celebrate and be excited...... it has been the worst last 3 years because i have had 3 people past away that i really love to death in my family........ hoe am i going to get over actually seeing him dead and touching him....... i miss him sooooooooooo much and my grandma to..... what can i do.......
2007-12-18 15:55:39 · 3 answers · asked by beautiful2008 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Not to belittle your trauma of finding him, but just to get through you have GOT to focus on the positive. The life that was fun, funny, shared well, productive, long, loving with others, a natural life with conclusion, etc.
Hour to hour, you've got to choose to hurt and to help yourself. Yes, often an alone task. You can do it.
2007-12-18 16:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. The holidays often bring up feelings of sadness over what we have lost and the fact that what we had, is never to be again in this world. I am sure though that both of your grandparents would be very upset if they knew that you were dwelling on them with such unhappy thoughts. You would honor their memory much more if you could think of the loving and wonderful things that they did during their lives here on earth. Writing is very theraputic. Try spending some time compiling a memory book about these people that you have loved. Write down the happy memories that you have as these can fade away with time. Ask others to contribute their own memories of these wonderful and influential people in your life. Love is something that follows people to heaven. Someday, you will have a bigger family to share your memories with, and if you have allow yourself some time , you will know that God sometimes lets those we love smile down and see that we have found happiness and peace. I wish you both.
2007-12-19 00:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not easy, i too have lost my dad,and my brother, not
to long ago. my mom just had surgery for cancer. what i do is remember the good times we had together, and i especially remember them on this occasion, i know they are in a better place, and not suffering. i also know that they would want us to still celebrate the holiday,and in my heart i know they are there celebrating with us, because they will always be in my heart. they are with us spiritualy. mu prayers are with you and your family. God Bless you
2007-12-19 00:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by noseyandme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋