He's in Iraq, and I found out that he was cheating when he ordered this girl flowers and I saw it on the bank account. The card said "Here's to what we are and could be." Obviously it's just on the internet and over the phone, but it was enough to convince her they were in a "relationship" and enough to piss me off majorly. He cheated on me once before, before we got married, that was actually sex. And this girl he's been talking to is in the same place that he will be when he gets back from Iraq. He says he's sorry, and that nothing's wrong with our relationship, and that he loves me and wants to be with me, but how can I get over something like this? He was stealing my time with him to be with her in the only ways that I get him now. I know some people don't count online as cheating, but I count this. He went on myspace, made a single profile, and started chasing women. And if I hadn't caught it, who knows how far this would have gone? I love him, but I have pride.
2007-12-18 15:04:22 · 10 answers · asked by Chelsey M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
An online relationship is still cheating. He has already done it once. Unfortuntely it sounds like he was about to do it again and soon. You should really do some soul searching and decide if you want to be treated like this the duration of your marriage or if your worth more. There is someone out there who will be faithfull if you choose not to stay, but only you can make that decision.
2007-12-18 15:16:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, once a cheater, usually always a cheater. Being deployed to Iraq is not an excuse. Only you know what you are willing and able to put up with, I just hope you won't add children into the mix, as they are likely to have an absent father.
2007-12-18 15:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you know the answer. You know what your heart and head are telling you. It's time for you to stand your ground and go get the life you deserve. If he really loved you and cared about you he wouldn't have cheated either time. No one can make the choice for you. What can you live with and what can't you put up with.
2007-12-18 15:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by love my life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. why marry him if he did this?
2. honey, people change every so often, but ever hardly.
this means that he will never change the way he is, no matter he says * he loves you*.
and las but not least, what you have right now is not pride, its pain, he hurt you and you cant handle it right now, I would suggest taking some time off from him and try top sort your thoughts out............but keep in mined, he hurt you once, shame on him, he hurt you twice shame on you.
2007-12-18 15:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Sonadora♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave ...start a new life...he has showed you how many times that he cannot be true to you? your wasting your time and energy on this looser that clearly does not deserve you...there would be some guy out there that will treat alot better
2007-12-18 15:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by jess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
online cheating is def cheating and its time you pack all your stuff and move on to something better hunny
2007-12-19 03:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately he is one those 'leopards who will never change its spots'. it's a decision for you to make, whether or not to leave him before he hurts you even further emotionally. (:
2007-12-18 15:32:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i shouldent be given advice im 17 .... but ditch him .. onve a cheater always a cheater they don't change ... good luck and don't settle
2007-12-18 15:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by lilweezy<3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you stay you are showing him you will tolerate this behavior. You need leave
2007-12-18 16:41:42 · answer #9 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your pride, and your suitcase and move out.
Or do what I did and get revenge by having one of your own. hee hee hee
2007-12-18 15:11:32 · answer #10 · answered by secretsecret16 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋