hi all,
my ex and i broke up because he was always working and he never had time for me. we broke up about 2 years ago. after we broke up he would always keep in touch till this day. he calls me like every 3-4 weeks to see how i am doing? also, when he calls he wants to hang out and everytime i hang out with him we end up kissing (no sex) just kissing,,,so its not a booty call...im trying to figure him out..what does he want from?? does this make any sense at all?? cause im so confused as to why he hooks up with me when we hang out but we r not together...ive been dating other guys after him and i know that hes been dating other girls after me...i need help trying to figure this out??? im gonna ask him whats on his mind, but before i do this i just want everyones opinion...im curious
2007-12-18 14:57:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
because you are available...
because he can...
what do you want ?
2007-12-18 18:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by summerhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm sounds like a very hard situation for you! Based on past experience though... if he hasn't asked you to start dating again after all this time... maybe you should stop hanging out with him so that you can truly get over him. Having your ex kiss you every time you meet up can certainly keep you focused on him (at least a little)... that's going to make finding and bonding with your next great guy a hard thing to do. Not to say that your ex is being mean or even leading you on. He might be confused as well. But if that confusion isn't leading you toward a relationship (if you want one) then now could be the time to move on. I hope things work out for you!
2007-12-18 23:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a guy who has been doing something similar for years, except he does it between wives...and he has had plenty. He shows up, we date a while but never anything serious, then he disappears.
My theory is that your guy, and mine, feel some kind of strange bond that they just cannot break. But at the same time, something keeps them from being able to stay for long. Maybe they feel too much and it frightens them. Guys sometimes like to remain independent and feel nothing really gets to them.
I've asked my guy why he comes back, and why he never stays, and he says he doesn't want to hurt me and if he stayed he would...Makes no sense. It's almost as if he feels he would ruin our feelings for each other, and then he would have no place to go when his relationships end.
2007-12-18 23:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell him how you feel about him. He obviously still cares about you and you both have an attraction to eachother. However, you must beware. Attraction isn't all that is important in a relationship. Respect is what you both need to have for eachother and if one isn't respecting the other, it can cause major, long term and sometimes unrepairable damage to the relationship whatever it may be (friendship, boy/girl friend, etc.).
2007-12-18 23:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Val 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he dates u between other dates(wid oder girls) means dat he's just keepin u as a pleasure tool or stress buster......
If he dated oder girls and then dated u continuously...
den it means he couldnt find anyone as good as you,realized that breaking wit u was a mistake... n now he wants you back...
n for dat he tries his best to be close to u by callin u etc..
pl help me also ans d question i posed on psycholgy just now......
2007-12-18 23:13:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe hes feeling u out n doesnt want to lose ur friendship but maybe more
2007-12-18 23:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by Psychologist In The House 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋