My husband has had 5 emotional affairs. But with no intercourse (there have been implied things and such) or oral. Nothing has "touched". But my husband sees NOTHING wrong with it. I already know my definition. But what guys out there believes in emotional affairs are true? Whats your definition on it?
2007-12-18 14:41:58 · 15 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think emotional affairs are very real. I think it happens when you make a connection with another person that feels like the connection in a relationship. You don't have to actually have sex with the other person, but if you establish that emotional connection with them, it is cheating.
Your husband probably knows this, but wants to justify his own actions. If he really believes what he's telling you, he needs to understand that the emotional aspect of a relationship is just as important as the physical part. I mean, if the emotional aspect isn't cheating with other women, then does the emotional aspect mean nothing to his relationship with you?
He's wrong about this, and he probably knows it.
2007-12-18 14:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by stevejensen 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy ... but I know that emotional affairs are potent.
Emotional affairs are of the heart & mind ... and that is where the emotions lie.
Emotional affairs are real ... and it is true they happen.
Lots of online affairs are emotional affairs.
I know someone who had the fairytale emotional relationship.
And .. I know another person who met someone online ... the person was a married lady with 4 little children at home ... her husband was a professional person .. and the wife ran off and left her children & husband to go to her online person who she had only had an emotional affair with ... without ever meeting her online suitor in person first .. she had never even met him in person ... just in chat .. thus - emotional affair.
2007-12-18 22:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely believe there's such a thing as emotional infidelity. When you're in a relationship, you're supposed to commit emotionally, mentally, and physically. One out of three isn't going to cut it.
Now, I'm not saying that it's not ok to fantasize. Everyone does, even if they don't admit it. You just have to keep it within reason.
In guy speak: You own a great car. You see another car on the road that spins your head around and makes you whistle. While it's ok to imagine yourself driving said car, you probably don't need to think about it for more than a few minutes. You have a car, you don't need another.
And no test drives. XD
2007-12-18 22:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by Odd Object 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
An emotional affair is so much worse. I had one and I am soooo in love w/ him now, I can't wait to be w/ him forever. My husband knows all about it and I'm leaving him now. The way I see it if someone is having an emotional affair their missing something at home, me, I was missing love. I now know what it feels like to love and to be loved!
2007-12-18 22:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
i'm not a guy but, in my eyes it is pretty hard to become emotionally attached to someone of the opposite sex with out some form of touching going on. it seems that maby your husband has had some affairs and the affaiurs are beginning to work on his emotions. i have never heard of emotional affairs. if two people of the opposite/same sex that are attracted to each other spend time together, you better betch bottom dollar that they have had some form of physical contact.
2007-12-18 22:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by ltonyasfun 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
An emotional affair is an affair in my terminology... Surely, it is leading to a physical affair... I would not stand for either one. And if your husband is doing this and in his opinion finds nothing wrong with it. Ask him to place himself in your shoes, would he still then find nothing wrong with it? Good luck and God bless****
2007-12-18 23:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional affairs are bad...painful. A purely no frills sexual one is less painful than an emotional one. Emotions...it means your spouse is wondering if he/she is in right relationship...scary stuff. Good luck.
2007-12-18 23:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by Old Soul 28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think emotionally affairs can be more damaging than just sex... I think you need to leave this guy -- five emotional affairs!?! Emotional or sexual -- it is still cheating!
2007-12-18 22:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by BTB{06.22.09} 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is called infidelity, adultery. Divorce him. He is totally disrespecting you and has broken his wedding vows. Of course he sees nothing wrong with it, because he wants to keep doing it. Have some respect for yourself and dump him. Don't put up with that. You are worth far more than to have him cheating on you.
2007-12-18 22:57:05 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's still cheating, some where in their messed up head they don't see anything is wrong because there not having sex. but that makes them just as sorry as the next one.
2007-12-19 01:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by jeannieboop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋