Is it good to marry someone?

Question

I'm just asking because you never know what the possbilities are.

Answer 1

Marriage is like religion: you face the unknown with faith. If you have faith in your relationship, faith that you can work through difficult problems (which will come up), faith that you can deal with stress on the relationship (which will develop), faith that you love this person enough to put up with all of their idiosyncrasies (and they have them, believe me), then yes, marriage is a good thing.

You never know what the possibilities are in anything. You could buy your dream house and it could burn down. You could get the job of your dreams and then it could get outsourced. You could marry the man you love and then find out that he's abusive. Life is wrought with choices.

If you never take a risk, you never find out. You could buy your dream house and grow old there and one day leave it to your children. You could get the job of your dreams and then get promoted to the job you never dreamt of. You could marry the man you love and live the rest of your life knowing that no matter what bad stuff happens, no matter what the day brings, you always have him to come home to and he will support you and vice versa.

It's all about faith and the willingness to take a risk.

Answer 2

You are right the possibilities are unknown. But that is one of the wonders of marriage. Anything is possible you may find out in a week you cant stand the person or in 50 years you feel the same or more love towards them as when you first realized you loved them. Think of the unknowns of marriage like the night before Christmas when you were a child. All excited about Santa and the different presents you were going to get. You just never know there might be those 50 wonderful years wrapped up underneath the tree.

Answer 3

That depends, I think :-)

I've been married for almost 25 years -- it's had its ups and downs, but my wife really is my best friend. We were friends for a few years before we married, and we were in our mid-20s. At the time, every one of our friends seemed to be getting married, yet out of about a half-dozen weddings that we attended in a two-year period, my wife and I and another couple's marriage are still together; the others divorced, remarried, some divorced again...

It's true that you never know what the possibilities are, and there's a wonderful aspect about even dreaming of those possibilities. But marriage is tough sometimes; there can be money troubles, job troubles, relationship troubles... You've really got to be mature and realistic about many things, to temper your dreams.

And, most importantly, I think, is that you should try to marry your best friend.

Good luck.

Answer 4

No you never know what the possibilities are, but with ANY relationship it requires work. It requires work to keep work relationships, basic friendships, family relationships, etc. Marriage is a relationship, just a different form.

Marriage is also more than just about a piece of paper--- in my tradition (I'm Hindu) the marriage ceremony itself is considered more valuable and sacred than the document. It's a symbol if joining two people together spiritually for life. Yes as one person said, we are born individuals, but that doesn't mean we have to spend our lives like that.

The success of a marriage is very dependent on various factors: how long you two have known each other, how you two work problems/conflicts out, what your values are in relation to each other, what your beliefs are in regards to marriage, etc. Many of these things are similar to how friendships also stay intact as well.

But you need to love each other and be committed to each other. Without two those, a marriage can fall apart easily.

Answer 5

Why would you marry if it were a bad thing? You make marriage sound like an addiction... well that could be, rather. Marriage is a lovely institution of pairing with someone who will be with you during all those years of living, good and bad. You may, one day, choose to live alone, with someone unmarried, or in a communal enviorment to name a few but don't let anyone tell you that marriage isn't wonderful.

Answer 6

It can be but you have to be extremely careful. More often than not, it will end in divorce and sometimes get very ugly. You must not only be 100% certain that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you must also be 100% willing to make whatever sacrifices are necessary to ensure the relationship stays happy. This is the hardest part. The bottom line is; Either you are BOTH totally committed to making it work, or not. If not; spare yourself the pain and stay single.

Answer 7

It is good to marry someone you love, not just any person. The person you love, have to love you back, in order to proceed a truthful marriage. Marriage have different kind of possibilities. If, both person love each other and their family agree. It is a perfect outcome, but, if the family disagree. It will be a 50/50 chance of possibilities. Finally, if both people don't love each other, than you know that's a no possibilities.

Answer 8

Marriage is a very wonderful thing. Just wait til you've been married for 30 years and he reaches across the dinner table, takes your hand in his, kisses it and ask, " Do you know how much I love you?" and you still feel the same old butterflies you felt from the first Hello.

Answer 9

If you are marrying for the right reasons.Some people marry for money,which is their choice but it won't bring happiness.I say if you can't see yourself with anyone else and you are really in love and you want to start a family,then why not.You don't know how it will turn out but if you don't try then you will never know what might have been:)

Answer 10

It depends. If you really love them and are certain that you really do want to spend the rest of your life with them. People today use marriage as a way to make life less complicated. Marriage is a lot of work. So when you do meet someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with just be 100% sure of it. Because its a lot easier to get into a marriage than it is to get out of one.