I really get mad on the spot whether it's parents or friends. I need something to calm me down on the spot. Any suggestions? Usually I just think of a "happy place", but that doesn't seem to work.
2007-12-18 13:16:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Although real situations trigger real anger, and that anger maybe justified (i.e., someone called you a name, betrayed you, failed to meet a promise, etc.), deep down, it’s really a spiritual issue. With various methods, you may be able to “manage” anger, but this will only go so far, & you’ll not get rid of that root of anger – if you don’t deal with it spiritually. A Christian pastor would be able to help you. But if you don’t know any, and you are serious about ridding the root for good, you may email me for help. Blessings to you.
2007-12-18 20:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by Jedidiah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try just STOPPING and ask yourself, is there ANY truth at all to what was just said, and be so HONEST that it hurts!
Next ask yourself : If I give in and blow up will I be sorry later?
Then ask yourself: How many times in my life will I blow up until I have alienated EVERYONE I love from me?
I used to have a temper problem, those things are what the LORD gave me to help, but I have to credit HIS SPIRIT in helping me overcome my temper.That was something I couldnt do on my own, and remember just because you are justly provoked into anger, it does NOT give you the right to act badly.I had to learn THAT the hard way.
2007-12-18 21:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do this (sounds weird, but it works). Lick your lips and then blow a breath of air over them. This will cause your heart rate and blood pressure to fall immediately (that cooling sensation). And then count....at least to twenty slowly. In your head or outloud, whichever helps. This will remind you to not react immediately. And then, ask to step away and do so...don't even wait for the answer. Say, "I am gonna walk away for a minute, I will be back." Until you can get a handle on the situation. It really does help.
2007-12-18 21:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jules, E, and Liam :) 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to go talk to someone that has experience with managing anger - - you need to get at the source of what makes you click to the anger response so quickly. Once you DEAL with that source, you will be able to control the anger properly. Please, there are SEVERAL anger management programs out there that are VERY good. Find one and go - you will be VERY glad you did!!
2007-12-18 21:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying the happy place,take deep breaths in and out slowly,count to ten and remember, this too will pass. Good luck.
2007-12-18 21:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by msraina888 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
use it as an opportunity to practice self discipline. think to yourself, if you can control yourself, this situation/person/etc. won't be such a complete waste of time (or whatever, lol). use your energy to find a better way of doing things.
2007-12-18 21:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and answer with a ? that puts them on the spot
2007-12-18 21:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by Psychologist In The House 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found some articles that might interest you.
http://www.articles911.com/Anger_Management/
It helps me to remember 1) I am the adult and 2) whoever I'm angry with isn't trying to make me angry.
2007-12-18 21:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by marvymom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Open up the dictionary
2007-12-18 21:21:22 · answer #9 · answered by Old Grumpy Cranky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
repeat to yourself
"I must stop acting like a complete idiot"
several times, hope it works for you as it does for me
2007-12-18 21:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by Mak_time 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋