i'm seperated after 20yrs with sum1, we have kid's, i was a drunk.my boys live with me and she has moved out she say's she hasn't been with any one, but spends alot of time/phone time with this guy but say's were just friends? so now i don't drink never was a bar person how/where do u meet new people??
2007-12-18 13:14:59 · 5 answers · asked by DAVE H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go back to your AA meetings.
You will make plenty of friends there.
Merry Christmas
2007-12-18 13:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karaoke night? Ask a girl your attracted to to do a duet with you let her know you like her voice, and if she agrees let her choose a song you both know. Another way is to join a group locally, like Tennis Club or Golf Club, there are many singles in Tennis, go on the weekends to a local tennis court and evenings. Get a CUTIE PIE PUPPY!!!! and take him to the park for a walk everynight and morning if you can. Especially on weekends!
Go to the Recreation Center, start playing on a team, Baseball league or Basketball, you can easily meet by standers that like watching.
If you have a girl in mind, ask her to go bowling, this allows you talking and laughing time, to see what shes really like, it's easier to get close when bowling, you high five her for the strike and eventually hug her!
There are many ways to meet people, if you miss your ex that badly? Try to see the good in her again, give her opportunities to see the good in you. Invite her to a holiday dinner, or a movie with you and the boys, start with that and eventually invite her alone. Find that spark you once had, it really isn't too hard to do. It takes time to heal wounds, but nothing is impossible. I would first try to rekindle the marriage you had, you must have had something amazing or you wouldn't have these amazing boys! Find the good in her and let go of the bad. Compliment her from time to time, tell her she smells good or her hair is a really nice color, you like her hair style, you miss her smile, you miss her laugh, you miss the way she made you feel. If you two are not divorced, don't give up on her, there is always hope, all you need is a SPARK! Make an attempt to make her laugh again.
2007-12-18 13:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by darlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to make sure your relationship is actually over. If you're still thinking about wether she's with a new guy or not...it might be best to take a breather and let it all play out. In the meantime...concentrate on your kids and getting your life in order. When you are healed, stronger and 'settled' into your new situation...good things will follow! I also think the harder folks 'look' for someone, the less they find. Live your life, enjoy your hobbies and be you. That way if you do find someone it will be in a setting where you both have things in common...not a drunken haze.
Good Luck!
2007-12-18 13:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by zelda35q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No idea, that start over stuff is just murder. You usually end up alone in another state , or town. It's easy to screw up , again, if your alone too much. Get busy. Grow a crop, ride a bike, study computers, get weird, but don't hang around with nothing to do, and too much time on your hands. Be very careful of preditors, your obviously on the rebound, being alone and such, no bars, no churches, go to a school, or travel to meet somebody, get introduced, not picked up.
2007-12-18 13:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by Tacit Hue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Church, the laundry mat, the grocery store-join a single parents group-you'll find someone!
2007-12-18 13:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋