what are you supposed to say? lets say it's "innocent", just going to a steak house or something. You should totally go right?
2007-12-18 13:13:26 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a group thing....hmm..I have a whole different idea now...
2007-12-18 13:21:46 · update #1
It's not Happy calm yourself be-otch.
2007-12-18 13:29:11 · update #2
i'll beat the living shit out of both of you....
2007-12-18 13:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
WOW. Most of these answers are completely reactive and emotional without a single bit of sense to them.
First you must clarify "go out." For most of these answers, this ASSUMES this is a DATE.
"Going out" with someone is NOT always a courting ritual. Some of you may find this hard to believe, but in the real world men and women, married and unmarried, interact and do things together that don't involve extramarital affairs. It's called "social interaction."
So there is only **one** vital bit of information missing here: is the WIFE fully aware of this meeting? You also don't say whether you are the wife or you are the one going out. Do you know the wife, how would you feel about calling her up and talking with her about it?
If all of the above are true, and this is just two friends at dinner, he'll have no problem with you calling her, so yeah. This is completely healthy and a sign of maturity.
The uproar of answers in this thread, however, demonstrate that a majority of marriages never reach this level of maturity, there is always some undercurrent of sexuality at play. I'm presuming you're smart enough to see through that if there were.
2007-12-18 13:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I worked with a married man and we used to take our lunches together. It was completely innocent and we found ourselves pretty good friends. I was also in a serious relationship so I didn't think much about it. However, his wife was furious, she called me up and asked me what my intenions were with her husband. I wouldn't recommend you do this. Think about it from the spouses point of view. In retrospect, I dont think the one-on-one "innocent date" thing is a smart idea, but if this person really just wants to be friends, go in a group. Married people shouldn't be going on "innocent dates" at all.
2007-12-18 13:19:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You must be young and you haven't learned the facts of life yet. After you read them learn them now or learn them the hard way, you will learn them either way. After you read them think about it and decide that to do:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me if you want to
hear the truth. You can ask me anything. I don't lie unlike
the other answers you will get.
2007-12-18 13:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since you are asking do you think there is a reason to not go? Do you think perhaps there may be a bit of an underlying ulterior motive with him? If you two are friends and his wife is aware of you going along on this group outing then why not. It also depends on who the group of people are...do you also know them?? If he is inviting you along with a group of people you don't even know I would kind of wonder at the invitation since I would assume it would be more appropriate for his wife to join him than you.
2007-12-18 13:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be a wife one day and know that YOUR hubby is having an "innocent" date with a woman (who knows deep down it's not innocent since she questioning the whole thing on Yahoo answers)? Say no... you are playing with fire.
2007-12-18 13:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by hmmm... 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Can I come along I want free steak. Are drinks included. I need to know so as to not after to eat and run lol
2007-12-18 23:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No!!. And how can you say it's "innocent" ???? You think his wife and kids would agree with a statement like that???? I don't think so.!! ...or an attorney/divorce lawyer?? So..... he's spending his money on entertaining you??? How would his wife feel about that? If you are fool enough to go out with him on an "innocent" coffe break, you are playin' with FI-YAUH!!! Lots of ppl will get hurt including your self...... if you pursue this "affair."
2007-12-18 13:26:02 · answer #8 · answered by wildflower 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well my dad cheated on my mom before he left so i know how bad it would hurt for that family if they found out that their dad/husband went out on an "innocent" date. but if its gonna be so innocent id have the guys wife join us, make sure shes ok with it. but i would never get my self wrapped up with a married man.
2007-12-19 10:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you may wish it were okay, it's not. You are going to get pulled into something that will clearly hurt you in the end. If you do go out, get ready to hear about how horrible his wife is and how she doesn't pay attention to him, take care of him, blah blah blah.... He'll think he has you hooked in if you agree to go out on an innocent date.
2007-12-18 13:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A married man asking out a single female is not an innocent act. I don't care how he acts, he wants sex eventually. If you want to start up with a married man, there will be uncomfortable repercussions down the line.
2007-12-18 13:23:30 · answer #11 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋