MY FIANCE IS IN IRAQ FOR THE LAST 9 OR 10 MONTHS AND LAST MONTH I HAD A FLING WITH A GUY AT A PARTY AND AM NOW PG. I WANT AN ABORTION BEFOR HE FINDS OUT BUT MY FRIENDS SAY IT IS WRONG AND THAT HE WILL UNDERSTAND BUT I DON'T THINK HE WILL.WHAT SHOULD I DO?
2007-12-18 13:07:52 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
What you should do is call Planned Parenthood 1-800-230-PLAN. There's nothing wrong, legally or morally, with abortion.
As for your fiance - chances are that he will find out. Better to tell him early so he doesn't waste any money on a ring.
2007-12-18 14:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 5⤋
I Need An Abortion Now
2016-12-17 09:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by gerrit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do something because you think someone else might not like what is going on. You have to make these sort of decisions on your own. You decided to have sex with someone while your fiance was away, and now you have some serious thinking to do. Talk to a counselor and Planned Parenthood to figure out what your options are. Whether or not you decide to abort you need to be truthful to your fiance about what happened while he was gone.
2007-12-18 13:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cannot have a relationship built around lies. You made a mistake. You need to tell your fiance, as hard as it may be, what you did. He may no longer want to be with you, but it is the consequences of your actions. As for the abortion, you will regret it. If you don't want the child, there are other options, like adoption.
As advanced as we are medically, things can go wrong. I know someone who had an abortion and now can longer have children.
Obviously you seem to be having a problem with this decision, that should be your 'lightbulb' not to terminate the pregnancy.
2007-12-18 13:19:55 · answer #4 · answered by captainlualbano 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Well are you 18? If you are 18 then there is no problem. If you aren't then there is a little bit of a problem. You see in most states it takes a parental notification or signature to have an abortion. This link will help you determine what your state law is. . . . http://www.coolnurse.com/abortion_laws
And I believe that you need to talk to him anyway and You DO need to tell him that you cheated on him. He deserves your honesty. You were woman enough to go sleep with another guy now be a woman and explain what you've done.
Deciding on the abortion though that is your personal choice that you have to decide in your heart of hearts what is right for you. No body should sway your decision one way or the other.
I've really tried to put my personal judgments aside to answer this but I can't help myself.... Shame on you for cheating on your fiance!
Putting that aside good luck I hope you've learned something from this.
2007-12-18 13:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by STRESSED spells DESSERTS 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Abortions aren't answers to problems...getting rid of the evidence isn't going to change the fact that you were unfaithful. That baby is your baby regardless and should not pay for the fact that you slept around. Why would you want to end your baby's life before she ever has a chance. If he truly loves you then he will understand that you got lonely and made a mistake. If not, raise your child knowing that you did the right thing and took care of your responsibilities. Do you actually think that your fiance will never find out and killing that baby will make him stay with you. You made the mistake and need to own up. The baby is not the problem, your infidelity is the problem.
2007-12-18 13:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by Cortney R 4 · 3⤊ 4⤋
The first thing I think you should do is not ask complete strangers if you should have an abortion or not.
Go talk to a professional or speak with a wise relative.
2007-12-18 13:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
first, what does this have to do with adolescents?
anyways i do not think you should have an abortion!! If you think your fiance will understand you having an affair while he was out serving our country, then you go with that. [rolls eyes]
but even if he does forgive you do you think you could forgive yourself for killing an innocent baby because you didnt want your fiance to find out? I belive that abortion IS the mothers choice but that doesnt mean i belive in it. I guess the real question is if you do go through with that then would you
1.) be able to live with yourself because you killed an innocent unborn baby
AND/OR
2.) Lie to your fiance forever and tell him everything was fine..
missed you.. you are the only one for me.. etc etc
My mom always said everything comes out in the wash so
even if you kill the baby and lie to your fiance he will find out eventually. Hope this has helped
2007-12-18 14:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
you are the very reason that the men who go to serve our country think that all wives are going to cheat.... you are a disgrace and personally if your friends were your friends they would tell him the truth.....
what unit is he in and i will be happy to tell him... someone needs to so that he doesn't marry you.... whats going to happen when you get married if he doesn't find out this time and he gets deployed again? you going to kill another baby because he couldn't keep your legs shut?
i am sorry to be hateful but i am so sick about hearing of women that CLAIM they love their soldier and then fu*k around on him.... to me that's not love that you wanting the bragging rights to say my boyfriend is in Iraq... poor lil me.....
2007-12-18 13:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by i_luv_my_army_man 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
For the longest time, i was like, abortion before the baby even starts to form is ok,ONLY if its like a 12 year old that got raped, or very horrid situations like that. BUT my mom just had a baby, and it made me realize there is no way i can accept anyone having an abortion. You should tell you fiance. I know its really difficult, but youll have to. Or youll be living with that secret forever. AND what if he finds out? then he finds out that you had an abortion?? That may be way worse. There is like a 97% chance he'll find out, you say your friends know, and you cant hide things like that from someone youre marrying. Just open up, cry, tell him youve been going thru a hard time. and honestly, he may leave. but its better than killing a baby who will never have a chance, and then living with that pain.
2007-12-18 13:34:34 · answer #10 · answered by arizonababe11 1 · 4⤊ 5⤋