Please, please, PLEASE help me out. My mom already told me that violence won't work and i've already reported it but they keep bullying me. So please help.
2007-12-18 13:07:03 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if u are in elementary school i no how to handle that because i am too... lsten i am in 5th grade. my suggestion is to ignore, tell an adult, or defend urself. talk loudly and clearly and tell them ur feelings out and how ur pissed. bullies love wen u stand up to them. dont listen to shows on tv wen the bullie wins. thats fake this is real life. My advice is keep it cool do ur best and focus.try not to attempt violence its just not really nececerry. by the way ur mom is very wise for telling u that.
hope i helped!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-18 13:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are bullying you? That's serious so you need to get serious about it.
Do you have any friends? Do they stand up for you? If not, try finding other people without many friends either. If you stand as a group, the bullies will realize they are overpowered and stop.
You also need to stand up for yourself. Instead of feeding them what they want-like crying, anger, etc.-you need to tell them to back off. If somebody says something rude, just say, "I don't appreciate being talked to that way. Please stop." And give them a friendly smile and walk away.
Another way to stop the feeding is laugh along with them. If they say something like, "That shirt is really ugly!" and laugh, laugh along with them and reply with something like, "Yeah, your right, it is pretty weird, isn't it?" Even if it's your favourite top, they'll realize that you don't mind what you're saying and back away.
Another thing-don't be rude to them. I know a girl at school who gets bullied-only because she starts it and bullies the people herself. She'll say something like, "That's a really ugly drawing." to somebody in art class, only to get a nasty remark back like, "Yeah, well your face is ugly!" It hurts her, I can see, but nobody can stand up for her because she said something just as bad. Don't bully the people who are bullying you. It's not going to work. Remember that!
Your mom IS right-violence won't work! Violence only creates worse problems-like a bad record. If they're afraid of you, everybody else will be too and there won't be much of a chance of you getting any friends. You could also get suspended-but if it's really bad, expelled. Violence is never the answer!
Remember, the bullies are only bullying you because they are uncomfortable with themselves and think that bullying you is going to make them feel better when really, it won't. So don't act the same way the bullies are. Be the bigger person and don't retaliate. Show them bullies what you got-without using violence or hurtful words. ;) You can do it!
2007-12-18 21:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, all I can say is Step It Up. It doesn't always have to involve violence. But it does require you to speak up. Show them you aren't scared and don't keep allowing it to happen. Only you can make it stop. Some times when you report things like this it makes it worse. The good thing is that you did report it and now people know about it. No one deserves to be bullied.
2007-12-18 21:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by Karina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well stick up for yourself? I used to be bullied. Your mom is right violence isn't the way trust me. I am violent and it is painful. Just keep away from them or stick up with them with all your friends. You need to tell the school to take immediate action because bullying is not allowed. Make it seem like a joke and don't make it look like it is getting to you. This won't last don't worry but you can get through this su!! =P
2007-12-18 21:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by Cheruxi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, find a teacher, principal, or someone else in the school you trust (adult) and have them arrange a meeting with the principal, your teacher, and a parent. Then use this time to express to them what has been happening. Take in specific details and speak confidently. Be mature about it. This way, at least one will hopefully see the problem as being a real issue and that will encourage the others to act as well. Go in prepared and willing to accept suggestions.
Even if you find things don't get better...please realize that this will not go on forever...even if it seems like it is now. Things will get better...Girls can be nasty, but many of them grow out of it. *HUG* You can do this!
2007-12-18 21:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by Chrysalis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep reporting it, and you need to be more specific about how they are bullying you..if they are touching you at all, you can press assault charges...talk to the school counselor, let them know it is really bothering you...let as many people as possible know that it is affecting you, teachers, parents, counselors....as soon as it happens, go to your school counselor. If there are witnesses ask them to report it as well. Don't take it...if it is affecting your learning it is a serious problem, and keep on reporting it..If they touch you get the police involved...it isn't fair that your learning be disrupted because of some idiot who feels lowly about themselves and the only way they can feel good about themselves is to treat others badly...
2007-12-18 21:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by KellyG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is ignore it if they are using words to bully you. The only reason they do that is to have fun hile they are doing it and if you act like you don't care it takes all the fun out of it for them!
But if they are acctually like punching you and stuff you really have to tell someone and if that doesn't stop get the police involved
2007-12-18 21:12:47 · answer #7 · answered by Janika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i'm sorry this is happening to u.... your mom, well she should be talkin to the school.. if she says "violence won't work" ,,, what do or does she think bullying is.... she should be talkin to the school, make a stand, she might need to go to the school board.... u shouldn't have to go through this... best of luck
2007-12-18 21:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by ron h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm... id strangle the bully, but that wouldnt help because you arent me, and im not where you are lol
easiest way I can think of is to get somebody strong to take care of it, I think violence might work a bit...
good luck, and get the hell away from those damn bullies
2007-12-18 21:11:29 · answer #9 · answered by Pancake Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was reported to school authorities and they did nothing go to the police, if that doesn't work go to the newspaper. No school wants to see their name in print when it is about bullying.
2007-12-18 21:13:33 · answer #10 · answered by darbygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋