Drinking habbits?

Question

Hi there,
Well there is a problem in my 2 year marriage. My husband still struggling to find a job, but never misses his Monday nights out drinking to "ease" his unhappiness. It bothers me a big time even he says he spends his money on booze. I am working long hours, scraping to make ends meet. Please note since he doesn't have a job I am paying all the bills and morgage for my own condo. He covers only the food bill, all his savings are almost gone on "Quality of life" I tried to talk, fight, argue, nothing helps he just ignores me and still takes off to the pub, saying it is up to him when and how many drinks he will have. last night I told him to make his mind what is more important to him , otherwise he is free to leave me in peace. Guess what, he booked his flight to UK. I am devastated! It is Christmas time and it is the worst one for me. He is immature, very stubborn, selfish, 50 year old bustard. Now, you guys tell me if I am a *****?
Please any feedback is very helpful

Answer 1

hi,

as per my view ; let him go for a while . he knows that he is safe in ur cave.don't give him a chance to feel so . just let him go .let him feel the pain . and i am sure if he love, he will come back .

At last , enjoy the christmas at ur fullest .

" life is a festival --
and u r invited to enjoy . "

Answer 2

Let him go you'll be better off without him. Doesn't sound like you have much together anyway. You are unhappy, he is unhappy and doesn't sound like there's much love in your marriage.
Believe me you'll find someone out there much better than he is. Someone who will share your life, your responsibilities and give you the love and attention you need and deserve.
Even though he only drinks on Mondays, he is probably considered an alcoholic because he drinks to ease his unhappiness. Therefore he needs the drink.
Pack his bags and wish him well, make sure he gets on the plane then go to Vegas and spoil yourself for a few days. You'll feel a lot better and remember that what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.

Answer 3

Reason to be concerned for sure. Marriage should be based on love not jobs but statistics prove finances are big divorce factors. You had a heart to heart with him and drew a line in the sand and he left. Your devastated but it may have been inevitable, The holidays can be depressing but so was your marriage. I hope your life improves and that you have a Merry Christmas. Good Luck to You.

Answer 4

Tell him not to let the door hit him in the **** on the way out! You did the right thing and if he leaves he's doing you a favor. At least you're self sufficient. You will meet someone who is better for you.

Answer 5

Go to an Al-anon meeting and find a sponsor. Follow her suggestions and work the steps.

Merry Christmas

Answer 6

It sounds to me like his leaving will be a blessing for you. You're footing all the bills anyway Enjoy the peace.

Answer 7

I think asking him to choose was very wrong.You should have kicked his butt out the door a long time ago.Find some one who will treat you better like me.

Answer 8

the best thing you could do is rid yourself of this looser.
time for mr. leach to get a job and pay for his "quality of life" with his own money!!!
get a divorce asap!!!
two years has been two years too many!!!

Answer 9

YES U R. I eat when I'm hungry and drink when I'm dry. If it don't kill me I'll live till I die. PRUDE!!!!!!!!!! U expect to much from him, after all we are only MEN.

Answer 10

he's a lazy **** let him get on the plane