Are you in Charge of Your own Happiness?

Question

or do others play a role?

Answer 1

We are supposed to be in charge of our own happiness, but others do play a role if we allow them.

The secret is trying to accept the fact that we are responsible for our own happiness, no matter what and we make the decision to accept or reject.

This is very thought provoking and I know that experiences in my past have left me sad and even depressed, but it is up to me to pull myself out of a situation that causes unhappiness. I make the choices and therefore, I am responsible for the results.

Answer 2

Wow, you're your self again! So good to see you!

Yes, others play a roll! and Yes, basically I am in charge! This attitude takes practice though... it's very hard not to let things affect you in a less than positive manner at times... This year, for me and a lot of people I know, has been a very difficult year. Very hard to be HAPPY, with all this going on! But, I do try. I've even gone back to meditation and listening to tranquil music to try to lessen the pain, every kind of pain you can imagine! I hope Dear, that you are no longer being bothered by some infantile jerk! We have all put up with this lately! Chin up, be happy!

Answer 3

Yes, I always have been. While others my age are deep in debt and will have to work hard to pay their bills the rest of there working life I have never gotten into debt, except rent and groceries.
I work an average of 3 months a year and believe it or not take a 9 month vacation. I usually travel to areas that I hike,backpack and bicycle tour to and in. Since 1977 when I was 21, I have been all over the USA from Alaska to Georgia and California to Massachusetts. I have lived and worked in many places. I have been what some people call, Semi-retired all my adult life. I plan to live this way the rest of my life.

Answer 4

I believe people have to be in charge of their own happiness, that being said, others do have to play a role, meaning not allowing unhappy people to have a negative influence on oneself.
You are in control if you take something psychologically from well balanced happy people and apply it to your own well being.

Answer 5

I learned long ago that I'm responsible for my own happiness. I don't rely on others. There is someone I wish would be a little more participating in that frame of mind, but when it comes down to the bottom line, I can't change that person's mind. I have to find my own source of happiness, and it's within.

Answer 6

Others definitely play a BIG role! I have many health problems and rely on others to help me. Some are paid private helpers and some are nurses from the local Hosp. paid by Medicare. And the lady that gives me my bath, she is an aide paid by Medicare. But without a doubt she makes me feel the happiest of all. She sings in the shower - because I cannot - and she makes me feel wonderful. It is very hard (but necessary) to have to depend upon others for your basic needs. CJ

Answer 7

I agree with witch hazel, she summed it up for me too, the biggest problem I get though is, I find it so hard to control my feelings if things aren't going well for my Children, so in a way I suppose others in life do have a great impact on your happiness, I find it very difficult to find a balance when things go wrong for them, I can't bare it, but like I said, witch hazel is so right, we are only as happy if we decide it, and this is something I am trying to focus on now, to do just that!

Answer 8

You know,... I was immediately ready to say yes,
.......until I read the last part,
Or do others play a role? Then, realizing that we can either "choose" to be happy or not. The choice is really ours and, how we allow ourselves to be....or not to be. Then I thought about my wife, and realized just how much she really honestly contributes (directly or indirectly) to my security and well being.

THANK-YOU,... SO MUCH

DAMN...you ask such thought provoking questions
.....really enjoy them all,.....even if I don't write something I read them and the responses anyway.

Answer 9

I am now but lived for years letting someone else control it . Also, when I was younger I thought things or actions could make me happy but slowly learned differently in this school of hard-knocks we call 'life.'

A wise friend once told me that we are only as happy as we decide to be, that its a personal decision and he was so right.

I wish it hadn't taken me so long to learn about the happiness thing!

Answer 10

Other people, and my interactions with them, can certainly contribute to my happiness. I do control my own responses to other people and anything life tosses my way; I learned early on that taking charge of my own happiness makes life easier on myself and those around me.