Are Men Resentful Because they Cannot Find Partners as Easily as Women Surely Do?

Question

To me, this really does illustrate a fundamental inequality.

Take any woman, half way attractive, on a night in town. Who dances, or simply sits with friends. The odds are good that one or several men will seek to initiate a conversation with her. Even though she may dismiss them out of hand.

Those men put themselves out there asking.

Yet (rockstars excluded) even handsome attractive men for the most part need to initiate a contact to find a partner. Even if she drops many hints and he is good at reading them. Yes, such a man will often be welcomed and accepted, and have many partners, or the one of his choosing. Yet still the emphasis is traditional.

To find a partner as a woman, most all she has to do is bat her eyelids and open herself to the possibility. Then she can be picky over who she chooses.

Are Men Resentful Because they Cannot Find Partners as Easily as Women Surely Do?

Answer 1

Yes, it's true. When a woman wants a date, she can get a date. If she wants sex, she can get multiple offers pretty quickly, provided she's not a hunchback who never bathes. And even she would get some action with a minimum of effort.

I'm sure Mike will tell you it's a sexist double standard (in capital letters) that women can get dates much more easily than men.

** I think George T's little temper tantrum illustrates your point beautifully. Apparently, he's not bright enough to figure that out.

Answer 2

Aha is this where all your questions are leading to .

Not ALL Men have trouble finding playmates ,
some have to fight them off.

And it is the women who are resentful because they get rejected.

It depends on the guy ,his age ,and the location.and later money acts like honey

In the outback ,i suppose you have to be lucky with what you can get

And religious societies are conservative and restraining.
In Muslim countries the girls are locked up and the only available women are of the loose kind ,many men are even temporarily gay until they get married,

But as young men in the London party scenes ,we were hunted as much as we did the hunting,sometimes more.

In California when i was young,i was picked up many times with out batting anything.

I think you need a holiday in Thailand or Barbados

In Cape town there are many gays (by choice ,not because of necessity ),so the straight men get hunted by the women .
Go there ,

Stop trying to generalizing about Men and Women .
as if they are different species
It may apply to your part of the world .

but from a global point of view,
and concerning Humanity as a whole
there are no norms

your view is not panoramic enough

Even with primitive people i have seen the girls
chasing the boys

Answer 3

How the heck would any of the many individual men here possibly be able to give a worthy guess as to how in general most of the other men with large calibre pistols would feel about that? And it simply is flat-out inapplicable to most men to begin with! So I will guess that such a guy is flattered, self-important, proud of such a "problem". And such guys would adapt, rather than go sulking away in resentment. There's a joke picture about a girl who can put the entire end of a beer can in her mouth, so such men would tend to look for ladies with large mouths, just in case that'll be the way it goes down.

Answer 4

Sure. I'll bet they are.
I don't even belong in this discussion about, essentially, a young group of people.
I've been single for 2 years, without dating, after being married for 38 years. I suppose even some "openly sexual" men of any age would do me. But, Hell, I want more and particularly, I want something I realized that I never had.
I don't go to bars (never did) and though I am friendly and honest, I, most probably, will not find a partner, ever.
I think you men have a better chance than me. See, it could be worse.
C. :)!!

Answer 5

The thing men need to understand is, women usually don't go out to the club or bar with the intent of going home with some guy. Usually, she's there to have fun with her friends, and she will not view the night as a waste if she doesn't "find a partner", because she still did what she came there to do (drink and have fun with her friends). If a girl decides to go home with a guy, it's usually an impulse decision, influenced largely by the alcohol she's consumed. "Finding a partner" is more of a bonus than the original intent for going out.

Taking all this into consideration, men shouldn't be too surprised that they have to work much harder to find partners than women do...simply because women don't care as much. Men go out for a night on the town with the intent of finding a partner (generally), whereas women don't. If men would go out to the bars or clubs with the same intent that women have (to have fun) then they could just relax and have a good time and not feel disappointed if they later go home alone.

I don't think it's really what I'd consider an "inequality"....it's more of a matter of supply and demand. Yes I would say it's unfair but I don't think it's women's fault. You can't blame us for not wanting to go home with someone, when we were just there to have fun in the first place.

Answer 6

Yes, there is increasing resentment among men concerning the social scene in the West. It will be very interesting to see how it plays out politically and economically in the years ahead.

In many other parts of the world, the playing field is more level. As it has been said, Asia is a single man's heaven and a single woman's hell.

Answer 7

The few posts I have seen on this forum that pertain to "when will the women make the first move?" would honestly say that is an affirmative. It's nothing to feel bad about; traditionally so it's up to the man to do the "hunting" and she can either accept or reject; something which is not easy upon the male ego. The roles were switched I know I wouldn't be able to do that; even when I dated, yes I have dated before, as in others not "Sam" I only approached one guy that was only because I knew who he was; a stranger - uh no thank you.

Answer 8

Any woman who's half-way attractive? Well that describes me, and I've been turned down enough by men in the past.
Batting eyelids and thinking sexy thoughts & just sitting there doesn't necessarily work, there's lots of competition out there and a woman has to get out there and be approachable and friendly towards men to be able to get anywhere and even then it's still no picnic.

Answer 9

I don't think it's all that easier for women. Sure, a woman can go out on the town and not do much to attract men, but more times than not, these aren't the men she wants. If she has really low standards, she could easily find someone, but most humans have some standards when it comes to picking a partner.

Answer 10

For once, I'm going to stop the deep analysis and say exactly how I feel in a very non-analytical way. I'm assuming the question is about judgmental sexual attitudes.

Women are resentful because they can't stand the competition.
Men are resentful because they are not having a piece of it and some of them are starving.

So, although they have no clue of what kind of sex life you have, they will go ahead, put your life under a microscope to make sure they can apply some sort of judgment.

EDIT: This applies to those who are highly judgemental. Not all men and women hate.