I read a question earlier that made me come up with this question for y'all....
Why when men cheat and the wife/mistress finds out, one of the them (women) starts harassing or stalking the other woman without doing any harm to the cheating man!? Yes, if the one that initiated the whole cheating situation was the man why the women (or at least one of them) starts fighting the other woman and completely forgets to harm the man... I don't think I'm being clear but people with comon sense would get the idea of what I'm talking about... :) lol
2007-12-18 12:09:38 · 17 answers · asked by Yes_It's_Me! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The women get angry with each other because it becomes a competition to see who can get/keep the man. People are competitive in general and in some strange way these women want to hang on to their cheating spouse just to satisfy themselves that they "won" the competition.
Stupid in my opinion because the person they are fighting over is usually not worth the effort & gets an ego boost from the whole sordid mess...
2007-12-18 12:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From what I have seen from people in that situation is confusion, by that I mean both the wife and Mistress are so confused buy what they have been told by the cheating male that neither one of them takes a step back to really look at how they are both being played, this applies to both male and female cheats, part of cheat is being able to create deception without any remorse for doing so, the problems come in when they begin to forget all the bull crap they have told both, they are very good at lying, they will pump as much BS to the other as possible, they play you for your sympathy and hope to win your heart, before you no it, the two people being cheated on are fighting each other, sad part is nobody ever wins.
2007-12-18 12:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by ranger ron 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the woman who was cheated on is so hurt, confused, and tormented at the time she cant grip that HER husband would do this to her and it has to be SOMEONE ELSE'S FAULT, then after a few days reality sinks in... and you realize that the other woman could not made him cheat if he hadn't wanted too... that's when you take matters in your own hands and take the power from the cheated and hire an attorney or kick him to the curb or both. None of this is easy for a woman who thinks she has a marriage and then finds out its all a lie. Cheating is a violation of everything a marriage is suppose to be.
2007-12-18 12:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think that most of them do not want to admit that their husbands are at fault. He is the one that cheated. He is the one that made promises to be faithful, not the other woman. I have never understood this either. If she were my sister or my friend then sure, she would be in my line of fire too.
2007-12-18 13:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if I were in the situation, if the girl was my best friend and had been for life I would confront her first, because she knows better, and she came before my man. Some unknown woman, I would kick his a** first, and then deal with her. I wish I knew the answer to your question as I wonder the same thing. You can't really get mad at the woman get mad at your man. Unless of course it is a friend or family member, they get knocked first.
2007-12-18 12:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by lwomar 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It can be because of both reasons. She can go on loving him no matter what the circumstances are. Or she can also stay for the sake of the child (financial & home security for both mom & child). I hear of this more & more. It is sad but a lot of women as well as men, unbelievably, are either turning to the blind eye or just not letting it affect them, which will have its toll on the one that's being cheated on, mentally. One day she will have to deal w/her emotions & be forced to make a choice. She's just choosing to prolong it.
2016-05-24 23:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by bev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants only to harm the woman because she believes her husband will come to his senses and return to her. the two women are competing for the prize, and if its someone who is loved and valued one wouldn't want to jeopardize the relationship. they do blame the other woman because they think the other women is completely to blame and if not for her their relationship would not be ending, but if it weren't this woman it would be another woman because this is all part of his character and he holds all the cards.
2007-12-18 22:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why the wife goes after the mistress at all. This woman has no tie to her what so ever, and who knows if the married man even told the mistress he was married. The man is supposed to be loyal to the wife, and therefore---he is to catch all the heat, period! Now, if the mistress in question is a friend of the wife, she deserves it tenfold!
2007-12-18 12:15:45 · answer #8 · answered by Marina 7 · 6⤊ 2⤋
yes. i would be pissed at the man and really not give the woman a second thought. yes she is wrong but comeon now..there are a million people in this world with no morals. i am not concerned about them. now dont get me wrong...i would freakin hate the mistress too unless she didnt know my husband was married. but i would certainely take all my anger out on my husband if he did this.
2007-12-18 12:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Its all about power = the male usually has the power in any given relationship - so , its safer to be angry at the woman in this situation. If the wife is angry at the husband he may leave her, and she will be alone and out financially as well. If she is angry at the woman, she doesn't actually have to do anything concrete - just be angry.
2007-12-18 12:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by kiwibarb11 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋