What would "limit zone" and "off-limit zone". What I mean by that is what do you think teenagers around my age can do (buy clothes without parents' advice, walk to friends' house without permission) and what they can't do (go to friends' car and drive off somewhere without your knowing)... I'm interested to what you think is off-limits and what's not off-limits?
2007-12-18 11:09:18 · 12 answers · asked by Deniece 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Sorry, I forgot that part of the question. I'm 13..
2007-12-18 11:13:17 · update #1
You should not do anything without permission. We need to know where you are. Buying clothes is alright, you know what is appropriate and if you buy something that is not you will have to return it. Everything else depends on the situation. Walking alone would depend on where it was at. Most of the time that is not safe. Cannot be in someones car without permission and parental approval.
2007-12-18 14:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Since you did not give your age, but clues to your age I am assuming you are around 16?
I do not think, this is what I allow my teenagers to do.
Buy there own clothing, well if they do not have the money I will front it for whatever they like. I allow my teens to look the way the want too. Of course clean....This does include funky colored hair and the such (not my thing but....)
They get to walk where ever they want, even home from school which is in the other town. We wold like to know where they are, this is common curtsy. Home by bed time at least!
My teens I would appreciate it if they tell me if they are going joy riding with a friend. If I ever, ever ketch them drinking alcohol and driving there life as they know it is over. They will be grounded to the house for a very long time, and they know this. We live in a small town and there are more tattle tails then I like to think....
We have been through the smoking tobacco for one of there friends does this. We will not allow it in our house (they are minors) nor will we be support the habit if they start smoking, ever.
All the teenagers friends are afraid of Mr. to his surprise. BUT he does lay the law down and says he was a teenage boy before and knows there tricks. Our teenagers do get more freedom then others in this town.
Ok well I think I covered your question......
ADD,
You are not a teenager yet, or you are barely! You will tell us where you are going. You will not go in anyones car. You will not walk anywhere we do not know where you are at.
In this house you will get to pick out your own clothing and look the way you want too.
At 13 you will not be staying out late unless you are at the church.
13 and 16 is a big difference LOL!!
2007-12-18 19:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm 14. My parents are extremely overprotective- I cannot have a boyfriend anymore, since one of my ex's beat me up after i refused to have sex with him. I cannot be alone with guys anywhere, and cannot go out on dates, or have a date for a dance.
My mom has to OK all my clothes, and I am not allowed to wear: shorts, anything black, tight jeans, low cut jeans, ripped jeans, any shirt cut lower than my collarbone, or any cool clothing at all.
I cannot walk places anymore, but we live in the worst part of town, so I get that.
To be in the car with a friend, no guys can be present, and my friend had to of had a full background check (AKA- no teen drivers)
I cannot be somewhere without an adult's "supervision"- no malls
I cant hang out with my friends without adults with us
2007-12-18 19:41:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mercutia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the maturity of the teenager. I don't think that you should just put one set of rules on every teenager.
At 13, I don't think you should be given that much freedom. I think you should be allowed to pick your own clothes WITH a parents approval, and do some things with friends, while supervised.
Now at 17, you're almost an adult, and to have a parent holding your hand at all times is the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
And some answers on here are so ridiculous, I couldn't stop laughing.
2007-12-18 19:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
tough1, bcos i dont think age has a lot to do with it, i wasn't a lot different at 13 as i was when i was 16, by 18 i had more life exp, but that only came from going out n about. When do you get to learn if u have strict parents ? my parents were both working a lot so i got lots of freedom and i learnt enough to keep me alive this far, it started when i was 12, so at 13 u should at least be getting around and about on your own.
I have 2 children and have taught them both to protect themselves, and to think on their feet. I think if u look like a victm u could easily end up as 1. If you show your parents that u can take care of yourself it will give them confidence in you. Good Luck - i wouldn't like to b a teenager again **
2007-12-18 19:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by Claire 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you??
Ok, at 13.....
Nothing without permission!! Well, I'll let you buy your own clothes, but that's it.
I want to know where my kids is at all times. If your chores and homework are done, then I'll let you walk to a friends house but you better call me once you get there.
No riding in a friends car unless it's a parent that I know.
At 13, you shouldn't have too many privledges. And that's final! lol
2007-12-18 19:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by Cindy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi again, I seem to be not reading these in the correct order. This is the question that caused you all that trouble from that troll. All I can say is believe in your self. I really don't see anything wrong with you exploring peoples opinions on these and possibly other things that may concern you.
2007-12-19 03:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by ethology 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
at 13 not much... even 18 you should be on a long leash.
Your age... basic dating ie hands off other then holding hands and hugs
Hanging with approved groups rather then on own. early back home and parents knowing where you are. No chat rooms that are not monitored.
Approved porn or sex ed. (ie I would want (this is more the guys here) seeing things like The lovers guide rather then big butts 3
Clothes you would get freedom but I would have last say
No car
not much... think dog on long leash so it can explore but get pulled back very quick if approaching danger
2007-12-18 19:38:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
i think thats true to considering im a teenage but...
i thought that if i was a parent and my teenager did that.i would freak. come to think of all the gun shots and murders and crimes rapes.etc.
i think buying clothes in a mall without parent is ok!
walk to friends house...i suggest that you would tell them that you are
2007-12-18 19:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by wHyDoUcArE 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
look i told you before you are way to spoiled OK and if you were my child i would be giving you worse limits than that and i would be taking you to go buy what you needed,and no you would not get in a car w/friends an go anywere
2007-12-18 19:52:41 · answer #10 · answered by My Hubby Rob&Son Dakota Robert 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋