Me and my boyfriend are 13. If we get married then we won't get pregnant until we're grown up. We'll keep going to school. We won't live on our own because we can't afford to. But if we love each other then we should be free to get married. Do you agree that's a good idea?
2007-12-18 10:49:10 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
no, it may seem like it now but people change as they grow whether we want to aknolage it or not.in a year yall are going to be compleatly diffrent people and hopefuly if you love eachother like you say then it will bring you closer together rether than drive you apart.Theres no reason why you should need to get married anyways,even some adults chose to stay unmarried just because it gives them a feeling of independance from the other.not having to combine bills/taxs/names ect. it wont hurt to wait till your 18.youll have a better idea of who you are anyways,it will help you be open to excepting him too for who he becomes at age 18.
another thought,if your realy wantting to get married then start saving money now and you will have that much more money avilible to have your dream wedding with every thing you want,it would be nice to know that far ahead of time when your getting married-alot more planning time and savings to add up,ues time to your advantage
good luck on your relationship and what ever you decide!
2007-12-19 12:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by Arjanna L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No because from the time your 13 to the time your an adult, so many things change, and its hard enough going through those years, without having to worry about someone else, I'm 17 and my bf is 20 we've been dating for almost 3 years and we plan on getting married, but its definetly challenging to us because were both starting to be out in the real world, and I think back to when I was 13 and there is no way I would have been able to handle all the stress of school, and trying to work out a marriage, and worrying about pregancy, and not having the money to take care of myself.
Wait until you can take care of yourselves and you reach a more mature level, theres nothing wrong with just being his girlfriend for now. don't grow up too quickly, once being yound is gone it will never come back, you have your entire life to do all this other stuff.
2007-12-18 11:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by Chey_18 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my culture, early teens get married all the time. About half of them divorce by the time they're 18. A quarter of the couples that remain together have an unhappy loveless marriage but are together only because they have kids.
You believe you won't be pregnant until you are "grown up", but trust me, half of the young married couples I know who are in their teens still, they pop out a kid within a year of getting married. Accidents happen.
I don't think early teens should get married even if they are able to. What some of the previous people said is true, the type of guys you are into now are not going to be the same type of guys you'll want in the future. Besides, marriage isn't all it's cut out to be. You and your husband gain nothing from getting married at an early age except for maybe freedom to go out and do what you want just because you're married.
2007-12-18 11:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by TaDaa! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you're 13. There are tons of other people out there in the world you could be even more in love with. Marriage at 13 is too young, because you will both change physically and mentally and you might not like each other anymore. Do you really want to get married and then go through the whole legal troubles of divorce? I didn't think so. How long have you two been dating anyways? Most adults can't even keep their marriage stable. Have you seen the divorce rate recently? So, if they can't how could a child?
You're 13, and you say you love him. But, do you really know what LOVE truely is?
I'm 14 and I don't even know.
2007-12-18 10:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think that is a good idea at all. At such a young age anything can happen and things change. I promise, the type of guys you are attracted to when you are 13 years old will not be the type of men you are attracted to when you are in your 20's and older. If you get married that young then you will most likely just get a divorce within a few years because you both change (at 13 you haven't reached your full maturity).
Also, part of marriage is living together, having children, things like that- at 13 you have no business doing any of that.
2007-12-18 10:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by Madison 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Um, no, marriage is for adults. As far as sex goes, even if you don't plan on having kids at this point, ALL birth control has a failure rate, so unless you are ready to support kids, you shouldn't be messing with that. You may love him now, but love isn't what makes a marriage work. Hard work is. At this point you think it's just fun and games and all sparkly feelings. That's NOT what love is. Teenage marriages have a 99% of divorce before they are 25. You would be best to wait until you are 25 to get married, and once you are married, you can have sex, because you'll be more able to support a child.
2007-12-18 11:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I really don't think you should be allowed to marry him, you're only 13, what if your feelings change? And I know you say that you love each other, and who knows, perhaps you do, but if you truly are in love you shouldn't find it difficult to stay together until you're older without the marriage. I'm 16 and pregnant, so I promise I'm not trying to preach, but feelings change. I will be getting married soon, but not until I'm 17, and it is because I will marrying the father of my child.
2007-12-19 10:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that a very bad idea! You are 13! You can't just marry somebody at that age! If you truly love each other, marriage can wait! Besides, what you are feeling right now may be puppy love. Wait until you are 18! If you both love each other, then you can get married.
2007-12-18 11:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by Deniece 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hello,
13 come on.
At this age you have barely learned to wipe your own tush.
If you two are serious enough to get married you two will feel this way in another five years.
This is a very common thing for kids to think, or at least I have heard this before. Marriage is a serious thing. Wait until you grow up and live your childhood!
2007-12-18 11:36:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is a major commitment. It shouldnt be done on a whim but thoroughly thought out as to avoid divorce.
I know you love your b.f from what you understand love is. But, marriage should be left for mmature adults.
It is a nice thought to feel so much for a person that you want to marry them but just wait (although you dont have a choice because I doubt your parents will agree)
2007-12-18 11:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋