What do you think of this??

Question

I have this girlfriend who is always trying to "help". Sometimes she can come off as very intrusive. Last night I was talking to her while shopping at the grocery store and out of the blue she started giving me unsolicited advice including how to manage my finances. Well, this is a different story....
Same person made a mockery comment to me that I should make a visit to her house so that she can counsel me how to budget my money. I really don't know what her deal is. She keeps telling me that I should stop eating out and cook dinner, make meal plan, etc.etc. Basically telling me how to do things etc.etc. I would usually ignore the comments except lately, it's been getting on my nerve. Well, to make things worse, when she was jokingly, passively saying that I need her help how to manage money, MY husband was standing there and also went in and indulge the joke and said "Yes,You should teach her"!
I felt like I am going to melt in humiliation. Was my husband being disrecpectful? :-

For the record, the whole managing money subject was very irrelevant to my situation. I say this because this person doesn't know me that well and doesn't know anything about my financial situation either. She is just one of those person who wants to give her unsolicited help to EVERYONE including her unsolicited advice. And even if I do NEED some opinion about managing money, don't you also think I would ask if I need help? So Thank you very much!.. But I refuse to just take it and pretend that what she's doing is not bothering me. And for the record, she's always telling me that I should not eat out and try to cook at home. Well, so easy for her to say that I should ALWAYS cook at home because she is not raising a 11 months old baby. So if I want to go out and have a nice dinner with my husband from time to time to have a break, it doeasn't mean I am bad with money! And oh, she also keeps suggesting that I should leave the baby at the daycare and work at her job. No thank you!

Answer 1

You call her your friend that you talk to alot so she probably does know more than you think.Why are you getting so defensive about the money thing. Could it be that you know you maybe spend to much and could save money by doing things like cooking at home and etc. Maybe it wasn't a joke to her or your husband. Just something for you to think about. If you don't want her advise then quit complaining about it and tell her that if you wanted her help or advice you would ask for it.

Answer 2

Your husband was just playfully joking. I suggest that you not talk to that friend. Tell her that your finances is between you & your husband & that we don't need your advice on it. Or just cut her off in your circle of friends you always can make new friends. Sounds like she's trying to recuit new people where she works some businesses get bonuses extra for new hires.

Answer 3

Well I think she is just trying to help, but maybe a little too much. Just tell her that you don't want her to keep telling you this staff. Let her know its not what you want to talk about. I think your husband is just joking with you thats all.

Answer 4

Your friend finally figured out her problems and wont's to share it with the world. It is good advice, but nagging and nagging gets old. You have to tell her that's your personal business, that's between you and your husband.

Answer 5

Maybe your a little oversensitive but why don't you just tell her in a nonthreatening way that you would appreciate her backing off a little!

Answer 6

your husband was just joking around- your friend sounds so annoying! tell her to shut up

Answer 7

i suggest you back off on your conversations with this person. nothing you do will stop her unwanted advice so just don't give her any info.

Answer 8

I know some people, including me, that would set her straight.

Answer 9

What do I think?
I think it's too much to read... NEXT.