Any websites would be great!
2007-12-18 09:51:04 · 10 answers · asked by sugar_baby_sweetness 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know of any websites, but I give you kudos for wanting to do this BEFORE you walk down the isle !!! At least you are thinking about long term success going in....
I can only draw on things I either did (or wish I had) asked myslef and me spouse prior to marriage now that I'm 11 years into this great adventure....
1) Do you want kids? Does he? If so, how many ? What if you couldn't get pregnant, what would you do?
2) Are you religious? Is he? How steadfast in your beliefs are you? Are you the same religion, is one / both willing to convert for the other?
3) What lifestyle to you see yourself having in 5, 10, 15, 20 years? How important is the size of your house, your car style, your bank account size to you? To your spouse ?
4) How do you resolve conflict? How does he? have you had a serious knock-down, dang out fight yet? How did you get past it / resolve it? Did you (or he) have to "cave in" in order to resolve the issue? Do you two reach compromise easily, or does it hardly ever happen?
5) How often do you think its normal to have sex? (times / week or month, etc..) What is HIS definition of "normal sex" frequency? What "kink" (for lack of a better term) level are you comfortable with? What about HIS "kink" level? Are they at least close to the same? How would you / he deal with your / his drive changing over time? (oh yes.... it will ...... trust me .....)
6) What are your life goals? What are his? Do they compliment each other?
If you can have an open and honest conversation regarding these 6 things and you are in sync with most all of these aspects, then you are probably pretty compatable.....
2007-12-18 10:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by aa889d 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How many children do you want?
When you would like to get married?
Where do you see yourself 5 yrs from now?10 years?
How do you want to raise your children up?
How imporatant money, sex, love, family, is in a marriage?
etc..questions about your life together and you both agree it will save you fights and arguments in the long run. Be sure to figure out the real person and how they are before taking the leap.
2007-12-18 17:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For the most part if you've made up your mind about love and a happy future together, your half way there.
Then for a unhindered financial future together (Like getting your first house together or/and purchasing a car.)
Does he have any outstanding debt? Bankruptcies? (They may keep your from your first home and/or car, right away.)
If you have any is he willing to help you?
Is he good friends with his ex's or ex-wife's OR are they going to make trouble for your marriage? (Like any prior children that you find out about after you got married.)
Then you'll know if its really worth it, if nothing like these things are going to hold you back. Then go for it!
(These are things I wish I had knew about --it could have saved us from a costly divorce.)
2007-12-18 18:12:53 · answer #3 · answered by De 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there are any questions you can ask yourself other than: Do I love this man? Am I committed to this man? Am I willing to communicate with this man to make it work? Am I looking for a marriage and not a wedding?
Hope that helps.
2007-12-18 17:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by ☆andi☆ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you love the man your with? Do you have feelings for anyone else? Do you both want the same things kids, house, dog etc...? Does he love you? Will he be a good dad? Does he make you happy? Has he been good to you and can he provied for your family? Good luck
2007-12-18 17:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any man who doesnt love God can never truly love you to the length and breadth and depth that he is supposed to as a husband. The most important question is 'do you have an intimate relationship with God'. If he does, then he is capable of being all your heart desires. If he doesnt, then he will change only as much as he wants to and his love for you at times, may not be motivation enough.
((I've dated alot so I learned the diff between whats called love, and what really is...))
2007-12-18 17:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am Catholic; my fiance is not. We have to do the Catholic prep and part of it is completing this survey called the FOCUS. They have one that is non-religious. Both people complete it and go over it with someone.
Try researching FOCUS and see what comes up.
Good luck.
2007-12-18 18:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about his bad habits, about things that annoy you, and ask yourself if you can put up with this for the rest of your life.
2007-12-18 17:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what is it about him that you love?
what happens when you disagree?
what are your ideas about where you want to settle down?
do you want to have children? when? how many? what if you cant have them?
do you know about his finances?
2007-12-18 18:37:58 · answer #9 · answered by minerva 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you had years to figure that out and should have figured that out already
2007-12-18 17:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by DJ M 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋