Name three reasons why a grown sons wife would try to throw the sons mom out and make him choose wife or mom?

Answer 1

I can relate to this. I met my husband almost 5 years ago and we have been together ever since. When we first met I knew his mom lived with him because she couldn't afford to live on her own. I thought maybe it was only for the time being and that she would eventually get her own place. Little did I know. The woman still lives with us and if I could I would also throw her out. It's not that I do not love her because she is an extremely nice person. But it's time for her to cut the apron strings not her son (my husband). She tells everyone that he owes her. Owes her for what, he didn't ask to be born from her. She wanted to have a child and it was her responsibility to take care of him as a mother. But she thinks because she raised him and took him places that he needs to take care of her. She is able and fit to work, makes good money, but has a habit of trying to live outside her means.

She has come in between him and I many times. Tries to tell me how to take care of my daughter. Dictates what can and can't be put into the house (after 4 yrs my stuff is still packed and you wouldn't know I lived there). Tells him where and what to do and he does it so not to argue. Takes her side over mine no matter what (except once when she actually shoved me in front of my oldest daughter..big mistake).

I think that she should have enough respect and move out gracefully. But in the end, it does come down between a wife and a mother no matter who wants to admit it. All mothers, father or other relatives living with someone, when they start a family of their own it's time to move on. Give them their privacy to do so.

Sorry my opinion. There does come a time when a mom should be kicked out if the stay is overpowering.

Answer 2

The most serious immorality violations that a mother can commit would be at the top of the list.

1. Attempting to have sex with her son.

2. Deliberately Attempting to Break up the marriage.

3. Using drugs/alcoholic beverages and/or mentally deranged or a pedophilia.

4.Lastly wanted by the Law for a very serious crime (felony) murder, rape, Arson, Etc.

Outside of what I have mentioned above I would not allow my Mother to be removed from my household. Blood is thicker than water, and anyone with a good logical head would not attempt to come between a Mother and his Wife, and that is visa-versa.

I hope this helps. That is my personal opinion,and I would bet a lot of men feel that same way. Usually a Son and Mother's bond is very strong, and the Mother will always feel that nobody is good enough for their son. A relationship between a man and his wife is also very special and scared, nobody in the family, Mother, Father, Sibling from either side of the family should attempt to wedge between husband and wife. That is the best way in the world to "DESTROY" a relationship. Good Luck, Butchrgt.

Answer 3

Well I should've done that, but unfortunetly I am too nice to make someone choose. Reasons:
1. She's an alcoholic or a druggy!
2. She always blames the wife for her own problems!
3. She causes problems between the wife and her son!
4. She's a negative influence on their marriage!
5. She secretly threatens the wife!
Should I go on?! There are a lot of reasons, all depends on the situation. I've have a terrible experience with my ex's mother! She was psycho plain and clear!

Answer 4

Reasons are as many as the stars in the sky, but usually relate to a fundamental discomfort between mother and wife. It could be that the mother is trying to usurp the rightful role of the wife. It could be that the mother is keeping the son in a perpetual state of adolescence and codependence. It could be that the wife is being unreasonable. One thing is for certain. If there is this much acrimony in the household, it would be better for the mother to seek other accomodations.

Answer 5

Usually the mom is too involved in the son's life and it is time to cut the apron strings

If it is her home, she doesn't need a reason, much less 3. Moms of boys are too over-protective of the sons every move.

A mom shouldn't be living with her son anyway unless there is a medical condition requiring her to live with a family member

Answer 6

1) Mom is meddling in their marriage

2) Son spends more time with Mom than he does with wife.

3) When "wife" got married, she thought she was getting a husband, not a husband with a live-in mother (unless of course this was agreed to PRIOR to the marriage). Then she (the wife) should have known what she was getting into.

Answer 7

(1) Because she wants to have an actual grown-up marriage without the mom butting in!
(2) Because the mom butts into the marriage and has no business shoving her oar in!
(3) because the son is a mama's boy and has never grown up, so she knows that the only chance they have to survive as a couple is that he choose her - which is what he SHOULD have done when they got married!

Answer 8

A marriage needs a place of their own, without anyone butting in. Mom, get out. Son, grow up, think about your wife first!

Answer 9

1) Mom is running their life
2) Mom does not support their relationship and thinks her son can do better
3) Mom is obsessed with son in a sick way

Haha I had a MIL like this once... got rid of the momma's boy in the end. I would never disrespect my MIL, but if she does any of the above, she is crossing the line. She needs to learn to let go and let her baby become a man and have a happy fulfilling life. I refuse to be this type of MIL.

Answer 10

1) Because she is his wife.
2) Because you are interferring in their lives
3) Because you have set up the rivalry. Be nice to her.
4) Because she has sex with him and you don't
5) Because she is his life's partner.
Whatever you have done Mom, you should go to both of them and apologize. Don't ever try to make your grown children choose between you and their spouse. It is a horrible thing to do to a child. Go apologize today