Does wife have mental disorder or a bi*tch?

Question

My wife have been together for about 3 years but we have been seperated for the last two months. Lately she has lost her job because of an angry outburst. She is always changing her mind about things even her relationships. Sometimes she give me trouble seeing our shild and sometimes not. Her sister has a mental disorder that is gentic and she is 29 and lives at home and doesnt do anything. My wife refuese to sign custody agreement or divorce papers. When we argue she always very resitant to questioning then opens up latter. She is very spiteful sometimes, she always give me hard time, and can never negioite or be flexible. She doesnt like to be helped with anything unless she ask. she thinks she need a therrapist. she changes her opion alot.She says that she hates me sometimes. she said that she wantrd to kill herslef after she lost her job. I have been paying child support, we lieve seperately becaus e she moved out to her mothers house.she 23 and im 23.Could she have a mental diord

im not perfect myslef but i need something to help me understand her maybe. She has hurt me alot, lately especially concerning our daughter.The relationship is gone but she says that im a stranger to her and that she doesnt trust men around girls. Problems is that this wasnt aproblem when we were together. She sold her wedding band and engagement ring, i even caught naked pictures sent to guyfriend. she left before while iwas on military deployment. She took mycredit cards and use them without my permission and charged them up. i even lend her 10,000 doallrs because sheagain got her into debt. An i felt though even though we were sepereated i can help, i always paid child support. her brother had to take her car because she could nt make the payments, she got another car and now she can make these payment. both are being repossed. She got another car cause we got into arguement, and she didnt want my car to drive so she got her own with a stupid interest rate just like the first.

She refuese any more help from citing that i helped her enough and that she didnt want to feel like she owes me

i dont know her sister. diorder. She talks talks to herslef and is very antisocial. she seem like she has no goal in life

she hasnt always been like thess. Perhaps i did do something to her. But i provided a stable home and she moved into back woth her mother. Maybe i nagged her too much, because she was always cold and i suggested marriage consulinf. Perhaps were are both sick. I dont know but what feeling is that i love her and she hates me.she doesnt like to be dominated or be submissive unless its in bed. Im really sorry i did to her.

Answer 1

Some men make women act like bit*hes, don't know if you're one of those men..

Answer 2

She definetly needs therapy and that is the only help she should get. As someone who suffered depression for 22 years, I can tell you that having a mental disorder is great for making up excuses to have weird behaviours, not be able to hold a job, a steady life and to fail. I am serious about this. Some people need medications, other people don't. But, the more people help her, the more she will get out of the victim card and will continue playing it because it is giving her something. She needs therapy, if she is willing to go, then help her get there if she needs a ride, or some economic help as to paying for her treatment. As for the cars being repossesed, she lost them, she needs to learn about consecuences. Yes, she has a mental disorder, and unless she is being treated, she has no right to complain about her disorder. When you feel sick, you go to a doctor, when you feel mentally ill, you go see a shrink.

Answer 3

I'm sorry you are going through this. You must be hurting a great deal, sounds like you have a tremendous burden to carry. It seems pretty clear that she has a mental disorder; you don't say what her sister has, but I would say it is a safe bet she has it too. I'm guessing bipolar? or OCD? She needs more than a counselor though, she needs meds, and she needs to take them consistently, so she needs a proper diagnosis. I know it must be horrible for you, but you really can't take seriously anything she says, because it is her condition talking.

However, you really need to do whatever you have to do to protect your credit rating. You need to take some legal action on this. Honestly, if she is bipolar, I don't hold out much hope for a long term balanced relationship, so you need to protect your finances. Then you can work on getting your child out of there.

Answer 4

Of course it's impossible to make any feasable guess as to what is wrong with your wife with just a few paragraphs to go on, but it's very clear that there IS something wrong and I doubt very much that it's plain old bitchiness.
You say that she has said that she thinks she needs therapy.. has she ever had therapy? I'd suggest that THIS is the kind of help she needs - not the constant forking out of money from you, which just enables her to get into more and more trouble.
With respect to the money, stick to your legal obligations and no more. Although, having said that, if she genuinely can't afford therapy on her own, it may be in your best interests as well (and certainly your daughter's) to contribute to that - but the payments would need to go straight from you to the therapist.

Answer 5

23 is a VERY young age to get married at during this generation......and u make it seem as if its your wife who has the only problems........;-)

thats the thing with husbands like you.... women are prone to outbursts and anger especially if she has not been loved by honestly and devotedly by her husband and not been provided the full financial security like....and if u examine her background, u might see that she did grow up in difficult settings...and u make it seem as if its sooo hard to understand her...and u try to label her as mentally ill.

but then again, u guys are divorced...so i dont expect u guys to get along at all. lol. but really, women are sensitive creatures. no matter who u meet in the future, ull be presented with this dilemma sooner or later. trust me!!! now ur not gonna label every women as mentally ill are you? if so, maybe uve got some psychological problems of your own and should try to adjust your behavior and mentality.

i think that unless u are financially stable (for some people, its never) and ready to commit lovingly and unquestioningly to one woman for your whole life, DO NOT GET MARRIED! =) marriage is mostly about understanding and giving.......

good luck.


******BTW, she doesnt seem to have a disorder. but u both should try some PAXIL. doesnt mean u guys have a depressive disorder...PAXIL helps u feel better and lifts your depressive mood....u guys had a BAD marriage let me tell you. thats enough to drive a woman insane. just leave her alone dude..........uve given her ENOUGH. let her move on with her life and figure it out for herself.

Answer 6

Possibly a little bit of both. Women are a strange bread let me tell you. I do not understand them most of the time and I am one of them. Should could have alot of different things wrong with and if she is not even willing to seek mental help to see if she has what her sister has then the world may never know. But since you are separated you need to think about what is most important right now which is your daughter.

Answer 7

beloved~ all I can tell you to do (and the best thing you can do) is to pray for your wife. Her emotional issues could be just that, or it could be medical, or it could be drugs..any number of things. She is working really hard to not be 'figured' out and confusion is the best way to do that. I encourage you to seek God for understanding of why this is happening, for strength to get through it, and for guidance in what to do. As Head of your home, God expects you to guide your wife towards righteousness. It may be a hard thing but your perseverance will pay off in the end. Your tenacity as a husband thus far is pleasing to God...it truly is. Dont give up on her.

Answer 8

sounds like she may have bi-polar disorder. she sounds manic depressive. i say this 4 2 reasons... i am a psychology major and i have been diagnosed with bi-polar for about 10 years. my husband and I get into it all the time because i max out my credit card almost instantaniously (sp?) after he pays the bill. and i have done that 4 times, infact we are fighting abt it now cause he says i messed up the christmas money (but whatever). but yeah it sounds like bi-polar.

hope that helps!!

Answer 9

How would we know? We don't know her.

The bad news is you cannot change her so stop trying.

The good news is you can change whatever it is about yourself that attracted you to such a crazy woman in the first place.

I recommend you seek professional counseling and lead by example. In the future, anytime she acts crazy call the police so you can get her behavior documented.

Merry Christmas

Answer 10

Honestly - for your situation, I don't know ..... but I do know this...

1) This is the funniest question I've EVER seen on YA !

2) You ask this as if these two things are mutually exclusive of each other !!! A woman (your woman, maybe) can have a mental disorder and ALSO be a b*tch..... its NOT an either / or senerio .....

Best of luck to you, I do NOT envy your situation.

Answer 11

I think you have done way more than enough. Id get one of her family to get her to sign the papers and move on.You deserve someone nice.