say, normally he/she is a nice person, but drinking makes him/her crazy. i think this person is getting rid of the gun today because he/she feels horrible about the incident. would you give them another chance since they are really sorry? a friend had this happen lately.
2007-12-18 09:30:16 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I would take the high road. I would say, I love you, and I know you don't want to hurt me.
You need help and I am not a therapist.
If you agree today, to go today to counselling for alcoholism, and never drink again, I will stay.
You can be sorry, you can be unarmed, but you are an alcoholic, and I will not live with a drunk. I am better than that. I deserve to live in peace. And not terror.
The next drink you have anywhere, will send me out and taking half the stuff and the kids. I will file for separate maintenance and child support and you will be alone.
I will not trust that you have licked this thing until you get sober and stay sober for a year.
Then we can revisit this marriage. Meanwhile, sell the gun (witness-don't believe it) no drinking at all, not one beer-no excuses.No messing around anymore.
If your friend does anything less, he is helping his drunk to stay drunk and putting everyone's life in danger.
If he loves this person, and HE is not a drunk, too, he will think with his sober brain, and not let alcohol run his life another second. He could save this drunk's life.
2007-12-18 09:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lived for 18 years in this situation where the person of the day would be a normal hard working nice person. After the booze every night you would not believe the change. I feared for my life. I many times thought about taking a bat and just ending it. I manifested self control and told the person that you must get counseling or you have to get out. They tried and yet it was too late. Serious health problems ended their life. Today I go to meetings to cope. It helps a little. Get some help from local town or state counseling. They will go out of their way to help you. They sey that they are sorry but they just do that until the next time. I will pray for you and please get help. Hope this helps.
2007-12-18 09:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mike S 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They should get that person out of their lives fast and permanently. Let some other fool give them a second chance; there are plenty of decent non-gun-waving people who might show your friend a bit of respect. Your friend's former partner lacks the basic ingredients of humanity and does not deserve so much concern.
2007-12-18 09:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whoa boy! Talk about hearing something so close to home.
I feel so very sorry for your friend. Theres more I could say here but I would only bring my own feelings into this.
When someone gets drunk to the point where they are murderous there is NO second chance and there is NO "they are sorry."
2007-12-18 09:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by Kingdiana Jones 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how bad the situation is. I mean if it's just a cruel joke and nothing else happen, then I suppose it could slide. However, if it elongates and the situation worsen, meaning the someone actually feel pain physically OR emotionally, then yes it is possible for an arrest or a warrant.
2016-04-10 06:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling and encourage that person to stay away from drinking, but if that person can not control himself then the relationship is doomed. Sometimes being drunk brings out the real people in people.
2007-12-18 09:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by johnnyisyourpusherman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a sudden vision of the six o'clock News. Always wondered how these things happen. Don't people have any warning?
Your friend has just had her warning. Call police, get gun confiscated, get outa Dodge or throw him out, whichever, get restraining order.
Don't mess around. No second chances on death threats, especially drunken ones.
2007-12-18 09:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by Just Tink 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been that person before, threatening to kill my boyfriend, and I would never even hurt a fly. But this night, I even picked up a knife. I have never been angrier in my entire life than I was at that one moment! (it DEFINITELY was not completely my fault- he had been enticing me with his rage and abuse for an entire year!)
So... if I was on the other end... no, probably not, because I'm trying to build stability in my relationships and that wuold be doing the opposite!
2007-12-18 09:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a very hard thing to get through. If this person is usually a nice person, then whomsoever he said he was going to kill should have a conversation with him while he is sober. If this person refuses to stop drinking, then get out of the relationship. It is soooo dangerous to stay with a person that is violent while they are drunk. TRUST ME, I KNOW FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE!
2007-12-18 09:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by LiiLY PAD 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would make sure they got rid of the gun first of all sit down with them and make sure they know why they need to do this and what actually happened and why this person is scared. then also make them stop drinking and if they dont want to then at least have them cut down and if they wont do that then leave there *** you dont want to end up dead on day becuase they couldnt remember what they did.
2007-12-18 09:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by Bre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋