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Question

how many of you have gotten physical in your home...like not hitting your woman..but punching a door, throwing something across room etc...breaking stuff! Were u drunk..do u do it regularly, why do u do it, do you apologize to your woman for that, or jus think its your house and u have the right to trash it.. please add any details you find imparitive.

Answer 1

i have been know to throw the phone (when i couldn't get the indian csr to understand me) or the tv remote (when it wouldn't change the channel) i have never thrown anything at my wife or children out of anger. i do regularly throw food at my kids though (in self defense)

Answer 2

Not me. I wouldn't ever break a thing I have payed with my work and sacrifice, plus I don't have any need to be with anyone if they make me get close to that point, so I am free way before that happens.

Breaking things and violence is the last resource of a person and means the person has reached its limits, which indicates it's a very weak person. If the other person can stay with a partner that break things, it's also a weak person for not being able to have the strenght on leaving and become a person, just what is, but doesn't know it. It's lack of self esteem too.

Answer 3

My anger never got to that level. Usually I do a 360 walk right out when she is on the rage. Come home after some time - quite some time. No Fear, just don't need drama.
On the other hand, I am an athiest, I do not believe in turning the other cheek. I avoid arguments & despise violence. Howeverrrrrrr.
When struck, retaliation is instant, aka escalation of force.

Answer 4

Yes, all or most men do that, you see, men have a different sense of reacting towards an overload of stress...most of them fuse it from either anger or hitting stuff or in some cases people. Rarely do men cry in public. It would crush their ego. And men usually arent drunk when they do so. And afterwards, we dont apologize, simply try to explain what happened to the wife...the we think that the wives understand what is going on and accept the apology without anything being said. But I really think men should be more open and apologize.

Answer 5

I’d like to call you a thousand names
But that wouldn’t ease the thousand pains
Fourteen years and I’ve grown tough
And I’ve decided that I’ve had enough

You talk to me like I’m your earth
But what is your old sweet talk worth?
You turn on me, slap me in the face
And in my mouth, blood is the taste.

Now I have an ugly giant old bruise
From your ugly giant old shoes
I won’t call you dad ever again
I’ll be my own helping hand!

I’d like to call you a thousand names
But that wouldn’t ease the thousand pains
Fourteen years and I’ve grown tough
And I’ve decided that I have had enough

I thought it was me, never you
Lying on my bed, black and blue
Many, many times I would cry
Thinking hard, that I should die

But in those fourteen long years
I’ve learned, keeping open ears
Other teens don’t suffer what I did
My best friend was allowed to be kid

I’d like to call you a thousand names
But that wouldn’t ease the thousand pains
Fourteen years and I’ve grown tough
And I’ve decided that I have had enough

Song I wrote.... It's about harassment. I mean, it's not about my husband, I'm 14, I don't have a husband. It's about my dad, but still, same kind of thing, right?

Answer 6

Me no like smash things, me punch bag! No, seriously though, when I get mad or fustrated, usually caused by my ex or relatives, I go out in to my garage and start hitting my punching bag. My punching bag is my therapist, no need to brake all my stuff that I paid good money for.


My ex did the same thing, when she was mad at me, she would take it out on the punchig bag too. Besides, in my home, I was raised to take care of what little we had if not, God help us, my dad would punish us.

Answer 7

Its never gotten to that point. I have on one or two occasions told my wife "I'm going for a walk to calm down...." She was p*ssed and tried to stop me from leaving the house for a couple hours....

I told her, "You'd better let me go, or you might as well call the cops right now, because if I don't put myself in time out, I'm going to explode !!!"

I guess I got my point across, b/c she backed down. Its only happened a couple times in 11 years of marriage, but I'd ALWAYS take myself out of the situation, calm down, and then come back and address the issue in a civil manner.

I've asked / told her to do the same on a couple occasions (as she has told me the same as well) in our marriage.

We BOTH realize that when an arguement / fight escalates to that point, NO ONE is listening, or thinking rationally, so best to get away and calm down, then come back to the issue.

Those (both men and women) who are unable / unwilling to do this are setting themselves up to be an abuser, in my book.

Answer 8

i was born in a home were i couldnt even ask a question, if i did my parents would throw things across the house and just act completely violent. at times they would just do so for no apparent reason. in my opinion, violence is just stupid and a waste of energy it can also be quite fritening and can damage someone. after i moved out i had been traumatized quite a lot to the point whenever i heard anything resembling my parent's voice i would throw up cause i would get so scared

Answer 9

frustration got the better of me. some things never changed. I guess talking things out and making her really understand me would of been the right thing to do. Now we're apart and I miss her like crazy.Oh, and I never got physical with her, but I did slam doors,throw things and lay rubber when I left the house

Answer 10

Hel-no I have to repair anything that breaks why make more work > Beside it's not worth get upset over>Don't drink>Say your sorry and get over it>To much drama makes you old before your time>Besides I'M Single & happy>