I am mad at my some of my cousins but I just stopped hanging out with all of them. I told my one cousin I am being fair because I don't spend time with any of them. She said it's more fair to be good with the ones that are good with you, and ignore the ones that don't treat you right. Which approach is more fair?
2007-12-18 09:24:14 · 9 answers · asked by videogamer1979 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Justice is giving each person exactly what they deserve.
If you are mad at one cousin but hang out with none of them, you are being unjust to the others... that is, you're being unjust UNLESS the others are aware of your decision and choose not to provide any opportunities for you to see them exclusively (i.e. they chose your other cousin over you).
What you are doing is treating them all EQUALLY. In this case, equal is not fair. So it goes, sometimes.
2007-12-18 09:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by Doctor Why 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair to ignore the ones who are good to you. They are making an effort to hang out with you and have a good time, and you should reward their effort by reciprocating. I bet you wouldn't think it's fair for someone to stop hanging out with you just because a person close to you offended that person. Besides, you can't apply the same idea to people in general (cut contact with everyone you know for one person's fault), so why should it apply to all your cousins.
2007-12-18 17:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by Letao12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would rather treat ppl the same because the say treat ppl the way u want to be treated for example say that u saw somwone and he had a bad week he said something bout u because u was talking to him would if he has a good week and he say things nice not bad would if u treat him wrong and he's going to have other ppl to hang out because ur treating him bad .
2007-12-18 17:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by BLAZING DYNAMO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's right.
Embrace (or reciprocate) loyalty, respect, friendship and support - Distance yourself from deceit, disrespect, harm, and corruption.
Added note: Your choice to ignore all "cousins" is pretty arbitrary. What does one cousin have to do with the other? If you are mad at a blue-eyed male cousin, for example, why don't you choose to ignore all other males or everyone with blue eyes? . . . choosing "cousins" to ignore is just as absurd. Lumping anyone into a arbitrary group for punishment or reward is inherently unfair.
2007-12-18 17:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by freebird 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
we should treat each other the same with respect regardless of how they act on us, be it negative or positive because we are all entitled to our own act and have the right to it. we should not allow our personal side to affect those that we think bothers us. we should learn how to understand every persons in the most deepest sense ever without being judgmental. people act on what they think best and we alone doesn't have the right to judge others too. the best way is to pray for those who needs guidance in everything they do by chanting "NAM MYOHO RENGE KYO". that way, we are making a cause.....
2007-12-18 17:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by alyssa 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its too communistic to treat everyone equally.
This is because everyone doesn't want to be treated the same anyway.
From your POV, treating everyone the same wouldn't be good either, because for sure, some in your life "deserve better". ;)
2007-12-18 21:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by Tuna-San 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a while, as you grow up, you will learn to do what you please and eventually stop responding to peer pressure such as your cousins opinion of what you should do.
Being a girl, of course she is more mature than you right now. What she is saying is - in my humble opinion the fairest thing to do, at least one part of it.
Be good to the ones who are good to you. I agree with that.
The other part - "Ignore the ones who dont treat you well" is immature. I will suggest- Be pleasant, be civil, answer questions, be polite. Blood is thicker than water. They are still darn it, your blood relatives. Unfortunately, we dont get to choose those. But be nicest to the ones who are nice to you.
2007-12-18 18:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
we treat people in line with our standard of values, if you don't know what they are, it will seem random and emotional. We feel love when our values are coming towards us, we feel anger when they are moving away.
2007-12-18 17:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by Real Friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fair is relative and illusionary. You never will come up with an answer that satisfies all parties.
2007-12-18 17:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋