2007-12-18 09:10:29 · 42 answers · asked by Julie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it's not normal. Accepted, unfortunately yes.
Pornography is addictive and dangerous. Men who indulge in this carnal desire are essentially viewing women as objects. Eventually, the images in magazines and on line aren't enough to satisfy their craving. Love is soon left out of the sex act and, as a result, these addicts sometimes turn into rapists and child molesters.
I would be extremely concerned if your husband is interested in pornography. Nothing good can come of it.
2007-12-18 09:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 6⤋
This is from personal experience. I'm a man so I hope this helps. When i first got the internet I viewed porno quite a bit. It was mainly the novelty of it as I had heard so much about it. Also, it was anonymous; I didn't have to go buy it and be seen. I could look at porno that satisfied my particular sex fantasies. I thought I was really weird and unusual and was ashamed. After seeing how many others liked the same things on the internet I was no longer ashamed and could share with my wife. She didn't think I was weird after all. Over time I became less interested in online porn. I still like it once and awhile, though. I do think it is normal for men to want to look at pictures as men are visually stimulated. I have discussed this with several male friends and it seems to be fairly normal. Its only a problem if if interferes with ones relationship, work, etc... I suggest you help your husband feel comfortable sharing his sex fantasies with you but don't judge him weird. I feared I would be thought of as a pervert if it came out what I fantasized about. The internet actually made me realize I'm not a pervert after all.
2007-12-18 09:27:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The male of the species tends to be visually sexual, i.e., aroused by sight. The female of the species tends to be tactilely sexual, i.e., aroused by touch. The species is not monogamous. Therefore, it is natural. Normal is a setting on your dryer.
The notion that pornography is or can be addictive is analogous to observing that breathing is addictive. Nature calls upon the male of the species to be visually attracted to a variety of females (and/or males if bi or homosexual).
Of course, a person can choose not to indulge the desire, but the desire is there. Otherwise millions of websites and online communities would not be so full of men (and women) interested in erotic art and photography.
The question is whether or not you are happy about this. If not, it would be well to discuss it. If it is an especially thorny issue, consider seeking professional counseling, but please proceed with caution. Many "marriage counselors" have religious baggage and will respond to such questions in less than a professional manner.
2007-12-18 09:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Julie, watching porn is not a good idea when involved with another! I am a Christian and I can tell you that the scriptures say....that which we think ....we do! So, God views this as the same as "cheating." Why? Because it is proven men are more aroused by what they see! Very true!! If he is watching porn and getting aroused, he is, in his heart....cheating! That is what makes porno dangerous and a tool for cheating. It places doubts in spouses wives...." I wonder if he is thinking of me or, the girl in the porn pics?" ....when we are together? So, in a relationship, there is NO room for porn as it is a door which can destroy your relationship!
Have you told him how you feel about this? Well, I want you to know I am going to pray for him and for you. I ask God to take this lust from him and to place his eyes firmly, upon you! May God touch his heart and help him to see that you are so much more than any of the women he watches on pornographic sights! YOu asked, "Is this normal?".....NO! For either one, in a relationship, to turn their minds to such...is wrong! That is reserved for husband and wife and kept between the two!
My prayers are forthcoming and may God bless you!
If you need to talk, e-mail me!
gail
2007-12-18 09:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is bored with the same ole thing try sittn down with him and watchin or try doing sumthin new surprize him a bj n the car wake him up ta one better yet in the kitchen or n the back yard don't tell him what or why just tell him come here i need sumthin from u bet after acouple of surprizes like that and it's not just bj s it's any thing new on ur nee's side way's not the same ole thing evan if u don't like sum of the stuff at least try
2007-12-18 09:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by DAVE H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your married you should be looking at your mate not some naked dream on the computer. This is one of the most disrespectful and degrading ways men view woman and personally wish it was abolished marriage and life in general would be better off.
To quote a sick person Ted Bundy stated in a confession
the pornography made him do it it made him hate woman.
If you do not know who that is was one of the most notorized serial killers of the 1970's.
Reality porno is evil and wrong tell him you want him to stop viewing this crap. If you are not enough for him he can have a divorce.
I also agree with DC. I'm also Christian and both my wife and I forbid this stuff in our home.
2007-12-18 09:23:45 · answer #6 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Pretty normal. Its todays Playboy. He may not be getting all that he needs from you...Its better than hooking up with a real live woman...try to be sexier, maybe join him....buy a DVD or better yet offer to make one...Just because your on a diet, doesn't mean you can't look at the menu...
2007-12-18 09:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Julie, porn is not normal. In fact it is an addiction. I think you both need to seek counseling. The Bible warns against it, as well as doctors.
I will pray that he will be set free of this.
†Prayer Warrior At Your Request†
2007-12-18 12:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by electroprayer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pornography is pretty mainstream with guys these days. You would be surprised at the large number of guys, just your regular ordinary responsible men, that look at porn online. It is just so accessible these days. It does not mean that he loves you any less or that he doesn't find you sexy. It is just another way for him to be aroused. I wouldn't stress over it unless it becomes more important to him than your sex life.
2007-12-18 09:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by Christine H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems like he is a normal straight male to me
based on my values, morals, and social upbringing. Glad to know there are at least two of us left on the planet! :)
2007-12-18 09:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for most men. Unless he is obsessive about it. Also bad sign if he looks at child pornography. I personally don't let mine look at that crap because he would be totally offended if I looked at men all the time and it saves a lot arguments. Personal prefrence guys! Don't hate
2007-12-18 09:16:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋