Im scared because I am pregnat this would be the third child, first daughter is not his. After almost 6 years of a really rocky relationship , I still have alot of issues with him and my first child.I feel i dont want to put up with him anymore. I was excited to have this baby , would be my last. but at this point I dont know what to do. Our last argument was because I took myself to the hospital and came home late after 1 week of having fevers, thank God im ok, well he decided to destroy our christmas tree because he was so mad, I cant take it anymore . I want to leave him , Im just very scared!
2007-12-18 09:00:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get the hell out of there before we see your picture on CNN as one more pregnant woman who disappeared at the hands of "her man". Your kids deserve better, even if you think you don't!
Call 1-800-799-SAFE. It's a national domestic abuse hot line. They can get you the resources you need to get out alive.
2007-12-18 09:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by On My Own 316 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pedophile And how old is he? If he is, lets say, 20+ then yes he will be considered a pedophile if he is with girls under 16. Some states allow 15 and 18 without being illegal. But if he's over 20 and your 15 and pregnant, he can go to jail so I would look into that.
2016-04-10 06:32:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made 2 babies with him in the span of 6 yrs and he cats like this?
I have to believe either there is more to this story than what your telling and he was mad at some other things, or you just dont have good sense hon.Best thing to do, seeing as you have a child by another guy(your oldest) and for some reason you arent with him(I'll assume it didnt work out) and this relationship is toast, my advice would be separate and do not date any more. you dont know how to pick a good man.
Maybe if you both can go to counseling it might work out, but BOTH of you have to be willing to be totally honest and be willing to change to become BETTER people and not put ALL the blame on the other.
2007-12-18 09:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what do you want someone to say to you? you have kids with a raving nutcase that you chose. and now you are complaining about the bed you quite literally made all by yourself. hmmmmmm. bad for you!!!!!
some would say, have an abortion, grow up, keep your legs closed, dont move in with idiots and if you do do NOT complain when they act like idiots.
these are the people you are choosing as the fathers of your children. then, go on foolproof birth control and control. yourself like every single person on earth does, that is, those who can live without this destructive drama,
and, by the way, what kind of trauma is this for your kids, to see this lunatic destroying a christmas tree????? at christmas???? and you wonder if YOU can take it????????? what about your innocent kids witnessing this???? you are too much for me. you are scared? oh, brother, you get with this idiot and now !!!! you are a victim!!!!! can i throw up now???? disgusting!!!!!!
2007-12-18 09:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
destroying Christmas trees because he was mad about you going to the hospital?
Anger managment mean anything to you? Or does he have some issues with Christmas trees? Either way therapy is in order.
2007-12-18 09:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what you want to hear,,,but the only thing I can tell you is the obviously you have issues with yourself. You have to learn that you can be allright without any men. That you are strong enough to take care of your kids and provide them a stable home drama free. Don't get involved with anybody, live for your children. They need you. Men will come and go, kids are kids just once. Start anew,,,,have a plan,,,focus! You have a lot to live for....your beautiful kids.
2007-12-18 09:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you would be more scared being around a man like that, rather then being scared of leaving him. Sure it is difficult to be on your own especially when you are pregnant, but try to gather your strength and get out of there. Then make sure you file for support so that he can at least help with your living expenses. Check into programs that are available to you that will also help with living expenses
2007-12-18 09:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by K K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
R U KIDDING ME, WHAT THE HELL IS THE MATTER WITH YOU, YOU KNOW WHERE BABIES COME FROM, or at least you should after the first one, why did you get pregnant with this man the first time let alone the second, do you know social services can take your children away from you for putting them in this type of situation, you know this man's action and behavior and you still have 2 children with him, and if your first childs father was any kind of father he would take that child from you and get it out of that home before it is scarred for life, it is time you get your head out of your azz and start acting like an adult woman, for pete's sake, quit being stupid and save your 3 kids, this man is not playing with a full deck, and your children and yourself are in danger, next time it might be you that goes sailing across the room, or worse one of the children, either you get out of that house with those kids or you get him out of that house, and stay away from him, my god the only way this man should have any kind of visitation with his children is supervised by a social worker, and why the hell are you waiting so long as a pregnant woman to get medical attention with a week of fevers, doctors today don't want you to take a bath that is too warm, so a fever is worst, after 6 years why are you still exposing those kids to a nutball, go to a battered womans shelter NOW, i don't care if it is christmas time, as you should have figured out by now he isn't going to get any better, and you can't save or fix him, don't you watch the news, the 2 most dangerous times in a woman's life for murder by husband is while she is pregnant, and from the time she leaves or files for divorce till 6 mo after it is final, GET OUT AND GET OUT NOW, GO TO A SHELTER AND USE ALL THE PROTECTION THAT THEY CAN PROVIDE FOR YOU, BEFORE YOU OR THOSE KIDS END UP DEAD
DALE T
2007-12-18 09:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by Dale T 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
^^^^
God will reward this.... (that is not biblical AT ALL)
Beloved...you are in a sinful relationship. Im not throwing stones because I did it too. The thing you have to understand is that God doesnt bless sin. He doesnt even look upon it. So the rockiness that you're experiencing is the result of being outside of God's Will. The thing that is most important here is getting in a right relationship with God. Whether its meant for life to go foward with your children's father can only be determined once you get your life in order with the Lord. Once you do, the fear will go away..the uncertainty will evaporate and it will be very clear what the right path is.
(I apologize if what Im saying offends you...)
my prayers are with you....
2007-12-18 09:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Stop being scared. You have 3 kids to think about and, if he was any kind of a man he would have taken you to the hospital himself.
2007-12-18 09:06:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋