My friend is engaged to her son's dad. She loves him but he doesnt treat her right. She has tried to leave before but always goes back to him. Today they had a counseling appointment and about 2 hours before he told her he didnt want her to go with him. She got mad because she already had a babysitter and would have gone shopping if she knew he didnt want her there. They were in the car. She got mad and asked why he always cancels things at the last minute. Then he flipped out. He was yelling, swearing, calling her a b**** and c*** all in front of their infant son. He was hitting the stearing wheel too. She went inside with her son and all her stuff to a meeting she had and they made him leave but she wont leave the relationship because she loves him. is thatabuse? what should she do?
2007-12-18 08:57:54 · 3 answers · asked by camdensmommy07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, that's abuse.
She should pack her bags, take her kid and find a life away from the abuse. Children learn from parents and learning abusive behaviour in infancy is very bad for the child.
Your friend needs to get professional help and begin making plans to be independent for the New Year.
2007-12-18 09:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from years of experience it is so much easier for those on the outside to see the abuse than the person living with it. My first marriage was abusive long before we got married. He would breakup with me and we had a daughter at the time we married when she was about 16 months old. Things only got worse after we were married because that's when the real violence started it went from the tantrums to full blown hitting I stayed for 5 years in the marriage and went on to have 4 other kids with him the emotional & phyisical scares that I have are nothing compared to the ones my kids have. He never beat them thank God but sometime I thinnk they with he would have because words can hurt just as bad and sometimes even worse.
Just keep trying to be a good friend and hopefull she will see that she doesn't deserve to be treated like that and her son deserves a less violent homelife.
2007-12-18 17:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Brown eyed girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is emotional abuse if nothing else. I get the sense that he might have some mental health issues - he sounds VERY controlling, maybe he is OCD. I think she would be better off leaving the relationship, but she has a long established pattern of being a doormat and always going back, so I don't know how much to expect here. And as long as there is a kid involved, it complicates things. But - she needs to realize, that it is not good for the kid, and how the heck does she think her kid is going to think women should be treated if this is what he sees? She needs to learn to stand up for herself!
2007-12-18 17:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋