How can i win?

Question

Okay I got a few good answers to my question and some of u made me out to be the bad guy while others took her side.
maybe u need more details.
we had been married for a total of four years she commited adultry i tried to forgive her for it but about a year later after i had just brought a townhouse for us to live in she started right back up with her decitful ways and nothing i was doing was appreciated so i stopped making payments for about three months on the townhouse car note and etc cause she always said i dont do anything all she had to pay was the gas and lights and that total bill every month was no more than 50.00$
i eventually left cause we started to become physical with eachother within that time she kept my son from me for a total of three months then almost another half moth after that im 30yrs old she's 23yrs old am i still wrong for wanting to have custody of my son and she have visitation the way i feel is if she has to ask the state for support she dont need him

Answer 1

Malick, I am not about to sit here and judge you based upon your wife's deceitfulness! If she has committed adultery, and you forgave her and she started this again...there is little you can do to change a person! To me, only God can change hearts!

I am so sorry for your pain and I am going to be praying thta God gives you wisdom as you search for the "right" thing to do for your child! It is the child who is the innocent victim and I hope you too, will join me in prayer, for the sake of this child's future! May God's will be done as it is the best for your child! May He bring you comfort and forgiveness so that your child never sees bitterness and anger from either parent! My prayers are with you and your situation!

God Bless You,
gail....If you need to talk or, just need to vent, e-mail me!

Answer 2

That depends.
If YOU beat her, then the courts have already condemned you to hell, HOWEVER, if SHE has a violent temper, and you can prove it, FILE for custody and ALSO here is another thing, show the judge how much you make and tell them you want NO child support from the mother, she can have visitation , but that YOU can provide a BETTER life for your son.The Courts love that set up.No messing with child support payments, no having to hunt down a dead beat parent etc.It saves the State a LOT of money which can go to the Judges in the form of raises.

Answer 3

What you and your wife do is play revenge games even if it jeopardizes the welfare of your son. Not paying the mortage as a way to teach her a lesson was not a responsible thing to do. What you should have done is left but continued to pay the mortgage so that your son would be guaranteed to have a roof over his head. Then you should have seeked the help of a divorce attorney as to how to proceed from there with a divorce. You do not just walk away and act irresponsible as a way to revenge her. A mature adult puts the welfare of his children first. As I do not blame you for how hurt and angry you feel over what she has done but remember, you chose her, your son didn't, so why should your son get caught in the middle of this tug of war game you and her seem to be playing. Your chances of getting custody of your son should come from your willingness to provide for him a happy home, not because you want to revenge her. Do what is right for your child.

Answer 4

Malik, I won't judge this situation, but I can relate to what you are going through. I adopted my son when he was 7. I married his mom a few years earlier. But she got into some bad company, and left me. We divorced, but I got custody. This was only the Lords doing. You have the right to fight for custody, especially if she isn't living right. I will be praying that you have wisdom, and the Lord's will be done. E mail me if you like.

†Prayer Warrior At Your Request†

Answer 5

Dear Your first concern should be that of the child. It is not about getting revenge on your partner. You need to put the child first. Revenge is mine sayeth the Lord. I pray that you will try to work out a way that you both can be in the child's life . That there will be no bad feelings while the child is with you. They pick up on things very quickly. You need to seek counseling . maybe talk to your pastor or some one from you r church if you have one. God Bless

Answer 6

It was not right to stop paying for everything, what you should of just did was leave and sell the townhouse since she can't pay for it, but she should not keep your son away from you but it shouldn't matter if she can't support him for you to get him, you have to pay support, thats the way it is. If she had been the one makikng the money and you stayed at home or made less, you would get to have her give you money.

Answer 7

It takes two people to make a baby. Just because this is a fact doesn't mean that they are adult enough to do so. You choose to sleep with her, a child was conceived, regardless of why you two are no longer together, it's both your jobs to raise this human being who didn't ask to be here. If you can't be man enough to understand this...You don't deserve to be in the child's life. Take care of your child regardless of what the mother is doing to you. She'll have to cross that bridge herself someday. In the mean time, do your part. Provide for your child so they don't have to live off of the government.

Answer 8

Hey well you are right but i mean she is younger than you and she might still want to party and fool around. So i think she is too young to be a mother. but the court has to decide your son's fait! Sorry but i don't make up the rules. Well good luck with that sorry bye cherry

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Aw...I am so sorry you are going through this. You have a right to seek custody of your son, but only the court can decide that for you both.