boyfriend wants kids, were young but could it work?

Question

I'm fifteen young, but do able.
hes eighteen and is going in to the army.
do you think a planned teen pregnancy is completely horrible?
i know he wouldn't leave me, but there's always the chance that he could.
my parents wouldnt be happy but would deal with it and help me out.
he has a steady job&&i could get one.
i think seventeen is a good age, but if he goes to iraq we both want kids so incase anything happens to him, and i want kids young anyway. i checked and my school has an alternative program for pregnant teens and can return to school after.
do you guys think it could work if we had a baby?
I know its not a smalleral and itll change my life forever but if he goes to Iraq its what we both want. and were going to get married when I turn eighteen.

yeah I'm thankful for all the advice I'm getting me, I want kids early but I think 17 or 18 is the youngest age I'd have a kid. making me more grounded. I'm willing to miss out on things if I have a kid. its the most rewarding thing you can do with your life. I'd be able I support the child with help from my family. and I know he stay with me if I didn't have a baby with him. but keep the advice coming, itll help me see things in a different light&&reconsider things

Answer 1

Oh sweetie, you are much too young... wait at least another five years - that way you can get an education, a good job, some life experience and see how your relationship works out with your boyfriend. He is still very young - he also needs to get some life experience. If he is going into the army and is sent abroad - what are you going to do all by yourself with a baby? At fifteen/sixteen? It's not like he would be around to help you - he could be deployed for years! Or worse...

Please give this some serious consideration, you have so much life to live ahead of you - there is no need to rush into something so life changing and permanent when you are hardly much older than a child yourself. You said you were getting married at 18 - why not until then, just focus on each other - then you can start considering adding to your family.

Answer 2

DO NOT RUSH!!! I'm 25 and pregnant and often think about what I will be missing out on now that my life is really not just my life any more. So what happens if by some horrible chance he doesn't come back from Iraq. I know it sounds cold but it very well could happen. Then you'd be all alone, you and with kids. You want to do this together, wait a few years, finish school, get a good job and then think about it. Once you have kids, you can't go back and it is a life long responsibility that you can never quit or give up on.

Answer 3

He's 18. . How do you know he won't leave you? You don't really know who you are or what you want at 18, or 15 for that matter. Why wouldn't you want to wait until you are over 18, get married, and than have a baby. Making sure you can support it. If he is in the Army (going to Iraq) you will be supporting a baby all alone. Why don't you just be a kid for now and finish high school. You shouldn't be thinking this..

Answer 4

Wow, that is a lot of responsibility to take on at such a young age....do you have any idea what it is like to raise a child? The financial aspect is a huge deal. It is not cheap? What is the huge rush? You are 15 years old, and you have your entire life ahead of you. If you think that your boyfriend would leave you for not having a baby with him, then you should rethink your relationship. It WILL change your life forever, and don't get me wrong, children are a huge blessing, but also a big responsibility, especially for a 15 year old. Good luck in whatever you decide to do!

Answer 5

Girl. Don't do it. The fact that you're even asking the question means that you have some doubts about it ( which at your age, IS A GOOD THING!!) Enjoy being a teenager. You are going to miss those days when you get older. Besides, you're only 15. Eighteen for you is in three years. You don't really know what's going to happen down the road. Think about it. ( PS- If you want babies, I'll let you take care of my twins. They are poster kids for birth control!! )

Answer 6

No, you are too young to have a child. What if at the Army he meets someone and there you are stuck with his child. I think he may call you all sorts of bad names then. He will tell you now that he loves you and all that stuff and wants a kid...but I think once he leaves he may change his mind and all that love he promised will slip out the door.Wait until you are older. I waited and still what I just told you still happened to me and I was considered a joke among his friends and family.

Answer 7

It's far wiser to wait until you are both mature enough to understand the implications of having children. Remember that it's at least an 18 year committment. You boyfriend might be sent into a war zone. This is something you hve to consider since that puts his life in peril. What if something happens to him? Would you be able to care for a child on your own? Yes, I think you both should wait.

Answer 8

Well there are a lot of things you need to consider- are you going to be 100% financially stable? do not rely on everyone else to take care of the responsibility of your child. Then there is health insurance, and you said he is going into the army, which means he is not in yet. You need to wait until he is for sure in active duty before making any child together. You said yourself that there is a chance that he might leave you which leaves to youhaving to consider are you ready to be a songle teenage mother.

Answer 9

at 15 your not really capable of realizing the stress that a child would bring into your life you have to think about late night feedings, diapers, sickness, finishing school, babysitter, money, influences you want to instill in you child, at fifteen your going to change your mind a million times before then, Is having a child going to ruin your life "NO" are you going to miss out "NO" would i suggest you have a child at fifteen"NO"

Answer 10

little girl, please talk with your parents, now... ASAP... PLEASE!!!! let them know what you are thinking about doing.

being the wife of a Soldier is a difficult and challenging job at any age, but at 15? i'm sorry, but you are not ready!!!!

if he's going to Iraq, are you ready to deal with the consequences that when he does come home he stands a good chance at being pretty messed up in the head for all that he's seen... or may be missing parts of his body... or worse... that he may not come home?!

you and your boyfriend both need to sit down with your parents, your pastor, your counselor at school... someone!!!