Love...does it or does it not have age limits?

Question

Obviously i'm not talking about paedophilia or anything like that but for people at an age where they can fall in love....does it have an age limit? Is it REALLY wrong for a consensual 18 year old (16 in Britain) to go out with a 50/60 year old man if they were in love??? Or do you believe it is just plain wrong? Opinions please =D

I'd just like to point out, i am not the 18 year old with the 60 year old. I dont know anybody in that situation either it was just an example =]

Answer 1

i personally believe that to a certain extent there is a limit. it's not because of what our society says, but our age tells us how much experience we have. if you're older, you probably have more understanding and experience in life...this would affect the way you think and react to situations. if you're younger, you have yet to learn and experience the many things that life throws at you.

Answer 2

Love has NO limits. As long as it's consensual and you both enjoy each other, then fine. It is stereotypical to say that two people would not enjoy each other because they are certain ages and wouldn't have anything in common. And also, aren't you supposed to love someone for who they are, not what you can do together or talk about??

Also, at what age do you draw the line. First of all, there will be grey areas if someone falls CLOSE to a certain age. Second, what about people who mature faster or slower?

Also, let's get something straight: Pedophilia is a PREFERENCE for a partner who is PREPUBESCENT. It doesn't change depending on what country you go to (how could a supposed mental condition change by going to a different country anyway). Also, a 50 year old guy who HAPPENS to like a 15 year old girl isn't a pedophile (even if he is still doing something wrong), because he doesn't necesarily like her BECAUSE she is 15.

Answer 3

I think love is all well and good but it usually grows out of something, such as spending time together. I would think that for the most part, the ways that young adults and seniors spend their time are vastly different from each other, leading us to think that building a life together between people at these ages would mean that one or both is living a life that is inappropriate for their age, that is, not in keeping with what a person is typically supposed to be doing at that age.

There are exceptions. If an ambitious person hauls *** all their young life and accumulates enough wealth to retire at age 40, they may meet someone in their retired life that is on the "normal" retirement plan, and having a lot of lifestyle things in common, they may be right for each other.

As two people get older, it matters less because stages of life are longer. But even for two young people in different phases of life, the lifeSTYLE is really different...consider how vast a difference it is to be 10 and to be 16...6 years difference, some would say it doesn't mean anything but if you know any teenagers that hang around with 10 year olds, you consider it weird. And if you know any 10 year olds trying to hang with teens, you tell them to act their age and lament that they are trying to grow up too fast. Another huge difference is between high school and college, and that bump derails a lot of young romances.

Of course, things like hobbies might give two people something in common but I think that where a person is in their life, accomplishment wise, is very important. Where a person is in their childbearing years. Their education or career. What kinds of things that people need, do, and find interesting.

Another more touchy subject is what our partners represent to us in life. If there is a huge age difference, then things can get creepy. Does the young person need a parent figure? Does the older person need to make good on past regrets by guiding someone else through young life? Does one need the other for money? These questions just don't come up when we pair up with our peers.

The question I would be asking, is "How do people from such vastly different age groups fall in love?" If it's really love, then the relationship can withstand some scrutiny. If it's anything but love, then the relationship was wrong from the beginning.

Answer 4

anything can happen. and it might work for a little while, but the 18 yr old is going to start changing and in the next few years as they grow into the person they are, likes/ dislikes and views on life will change while the older person is set in their ways. what brought you together may not be the same after some time. at 18, there are so many things that you haven't experienced yet that what you feel at that age simply changes as you become an adult. Love for consenting adults has no age limits, but shifts.

Answer 5

Im not sure what an 18 year old can have in common with a 50/60 year old. Although the physical attraction is there you are just at different places in your life.

Answer 6

When you're older, you realize just how naive and ignorant you were at 18.... no matter how mature you thought you were at that age.
So, in turn, a 50 year old knows perfectly well how ignorant an 18 year old is.
The reasons a 50 year old would have for taking advantage of this naivete are never good ones.
That is the problem with these types of relationships.

Answer 7

It definitely has limits. For an 18 year old to be with a guy who's like 60 years old is inappropriate and plain disgusting.

Answer 8

in theory it is not wrong love knows no bounds, however what are a 18 year old and a 50/60 yea rold going to talk about or do? first of all secondly then there comes the questions that you are going to ahve to answer that will make both parties uncomfortable. All and all i think its a bad idea. But good luck if you do go with it and send my best

Answer 9

It's not against the law to fall in love at any age and it's not against the law for an 18 year old to be with a 60 year old.
Is it wrong? Who is the one to decide?

Answer 10

Does it have an age limit?
Not really. Although what many children think is love isn't really. (Consider the brain isn't done growing yet).

Is it wrong for a legal teenager to go out with a 60 year old person.
No. It's problematic, but not wrong.

Answer 11

Age DOES matter I think. An 18 year old with a 50-60 year old... WRONG!