My dad told me the other day that I would never be too old for him to spank me (I am 20 and married now). I told my husband this and he said if I did something really bad I deserved a spanking and wasn't going to try to talk him out of it. I thought once I got married, I would be considered given away by my father and given to my husband so then he would take over as the authority figure in my life.....I want to know what others think. Thanks!
2007-12-18 07:53:42 · 36 answers · asked by Little Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As long as you don't misbehave around your father anymore, you shouldn't have to worry about it. That's what your husband should have told you.
You are your husbands responsibility now. He shouldn't try to pass anything back off onto your father. It was a little overbearing of your father to make a comment like that. Maybe your husband just doesn't want to step on your dad's toes.
Just behave around your dad in order to avoid an awkward situation. Ask your husband if he can watch you better to make sure you don't do anything wrong around your dad.
2007-12-19 08:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by crc00000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all your husband should not have authority over you either, you are a grown woman, and you have a right to make your own decision on how you behave, and second of all your father is dead wrong when it comes to spanking you at that age. Especially now that you are married you have made your decisions without him and will learn on your own by your mistakes, and no one should be spanking you at all.
2007-12-18 08:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm wow. Your are alittle too old for spankings anyway. And if you are looking for an authority figure then maybe you shouldnt have left home yet, because when you move out you are now your own authority. I would have to say your husband is afraid of your father by that comment, and maybe he should grow a pair and take up for you.
2007-12-18 08:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by hotmoma_37 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are right. It is now up to your husband to spank you now. Your father has no right to spank you at that age. But your husband does. Talk to your husband and tell him that you are no longer a child and parents spank their children and that you are now his wife which means Husbands spank wifes. But yeah, its not right for your father to spank you. Especially if its on the bare. You are a grown woman now and you deserve privacy when it comes to your father. But your husband is fond of your "privacy" and so that gives more reason why he should spank you. I hope I helped
2007-12-19 04:47:50 · answer #4 · answered by ProudSexySouthernGirl 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
are you kidding me? your father has no right,and on top of that your husband has no right to say you deserve one,by saying that"he would take over as the authority figure"you are saying you still need a parent,your spouse is there to support you,not spank you if you do something wrong
[unless of course you're in to that}for your sake i hope they were both joking!!!
2007-12-18 08:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure your father wasn't just kidding around?
Your husband is not your "authority figure". He is your husband. He deserves respect, but it should be mutual.
I would think you are at least 10 years removed from your last spanking.
2007-12-18 08:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Actually your father is right and he does have the right to spank you in his imagination. He also can give you a bath and sleep with you.
Wake up your father is a possible child molester. Run Forest Run.
Are you serious or is this just a yank? You have some serious issues and should see a shrink.
2007-12-18 08:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by surething_78504 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um, you worry me. You think your husband should be an authority figure? WOW! I hope you never say that outloud to him, because it is dead wrong! Are you a woman or a baby? Judging by your post, somewhere in the middle. I think your father was teasing you about your never being too old for a spanking---I highly doubt he meant it literally. Grow up and start pondering the big stuff.
2007-12-18 07:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by Marina 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Dad was just making a point of letting you know he'll always be Dad.
A father gives his daughter away to the man that will care for her as he has.
Love, Protect, Honor & RESPECT
Trust me he knows your to old for a spanking.
Would NEVER condone any MAN hitting You.
And your husband was joking to .
Obviously they thought you were MATURE ENOUGH to Know that.
If your were more mature you know that once your grown your your OWN Authority.
2007-12-18 08:16:09 · answer #9 · answered by THIC007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm...i think that once you turn, about 10, you are too old to be spanked. Also, a husband is a partner and a companion and lover, not a figure of authority! at least thats what I think.
2007-12-18 07:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by *_* Katerrr 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋