i think its a good idea if men wanted to cohabitate w/ a woman before marriage it would be a good idea to live in a state where there is no common law marriage like virginia. it would beneficial to both sides. the couple could live together w/out marriage at first & in time if they wanted marriage they could take the next step or if they decide after a period of time they don't want to take the next step, the couple could split w/out a long drawn out divorce. they would in effect be no hard feelings & the people involved could take whatever they brought to the marriage. i'm just looking for some opinions that's all. i don't want to insult anyone & if i did i'm very sorry.
2007-12-18 07:48:48 · 7 answers · asked by conan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am in favor of the institution of "living together". Or, frankly I am totally opposed to divorce; when someone make a promise in very clear words, that cannot be broken. If one marries, there should be no consideration of the possibility of divorce -- which of course means both parties have sworn to give each other the happiest life they can. If someone is not 100% sure they can make that kind of promise, they should not dilute the institution of marriage, but should live together. Living together is a very loving relationship; if does not have the permanence of marriage but that also means that if both people come home at night it is because they chose to each day - not because of a promise made years age. Each relationship has its own purpose and they should not be confused.
2007-12-18 07:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by Baccheus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a perfect world your idea would be great. When a couple falls in love and lives with each other it gets complicated. Usually it's not the couple that wants to break up .... it's one person in the couple. This leaves the other person hurt and harboring hard feelings. This is when the problems start. The person that gets left feels intitled to something since they gave up a significant part of their life for the person leaving them. Even if they were not married does not mean there is not going to be headaches. One person in the relationship can still sue the other for what they feel is lawfully theirs. In some states if you live together for a certain amount of time, your the same as a married couple in the eyes of a court.
Another wrench in your idea would be if the couple living together has children. That's a whole new legal nightmare.
Your idea is a good one ..... it just has not been proven to work very well.
2007-12-18 08:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by clayton M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you even if I am a female. Marriage isn't something you can just go into half-****** and expect things to settle once you've said "i do's". But its hard to find a partner who thinks exactly like you do or else divorce wouldn't be so traumatic for a lot of people. I personally think marriage contracts should have a clause that states "renewable every 3-6 months, or can be terminated within 30 days notice".
2007-12-18 08:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure if you want to spend the rest of your life with that person why even move in together. i think moving in you should have a form of commitment as a couple be it engagement or marriage. I think living together like BF and GF your asking for failure and a headache really living together like roomates will get on your nerves and then you'll be like why did we do this.
Be married or atleast commited to that person if you move in together.
Personally I would live on your own until your able to commit to her. Marriage is great and living together can be rough if you got no strong commitment with each other.
2007-12-18 07:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like slightly resentment happening there... the comparable question might desire to be asked of ladies human beings. human beings of the two genders cheat, this "he's a guy, ergo, he cheats", is a sexist copout designed to, as quickly as lower back, denigrate adult adult males. That being reported, infidelity does not ensue in a vacuum. there is often something that precipitates it. on an identical time as there are "canine" on the two factors of the gender fence who serial cheat for no different reason than their hormones, via and massive adult adult males are purely as committed, dependable, and committed to their companions as are women human beings. this variety of infidelity occurs, purely approximately continuously, there's a want at living house that's no longer being fulfilled via the two companion. And the rationalization that want isn't being fulfilled is by technique of the fact the companions are failing miserably to speak. Does this make infidelity any extra beneficial, or any further appropriate? No. whether it does make the excuses at the back of it extra comprehensible. If the hazards are understood early on, then this is prevented. So, in the previous blaming ALL adult adult males on your being married to a turd, why do no longer you ask HIM? he's the single you're married to.
2016-11-03 23:28:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married should be a life altering and major growing up stage in an adult. Livins that get married after the fact, well its just another day. Its to be special !!!
2007-12-18 07:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by keithleyjustin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my girlfirend (fiance) and i live together....it wasnt with the idea of co habitating as a "trial perioed" before marrige tho......we know were together for life and plan on marriage when the finances will allow it.....however i do think its a good idea to live together before hand....
2007-12-18 07:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by ronsmith15930 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋